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ORIGINAL: StrictlyKind

I thought animal husbandry was a server limit!

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ORIGINAL: ranja

I have no answers to the questions other than my own experience of the subject.

When my Husband had gone off me and never much even touched me let alone give me an orgasm, i never went off sex... it did not make me turn off at all. Consequently i went through times of daily wanking, but sometimes i would not even do that... still i would feel sexy and want some... i always want some unless i have just cum... that is the only time i am really not bothered

The reason why i like my orgasm to be delayed (that would be the best word really) is because i like to feel really dirty and before i have cum i can feel the dirtiest... if my Husband or myself, just gets me straight there it often feels a bit sort of flat... like it is all over too soon and even though the orgasm was nice it could have been much much better

I have heard of women who can just cum and cum and cum
i am not like that and i think most men are not like that either
i cum once, maybe twice and i like to feel really really dirty just before i do

I really do not understand why a couple would want to deny eachother an orgasm always... it seems to me that it is better to make your partner feel good, so playing with the entire concept of delaying and denial and control should be just another way to have fun

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

This stems from the thread on the board about orgasm control/denial of a female submissive by her male dominant.

During the course of that thread, there were varied viewpoints about the effectiveness and the results of such control...these views ranged from turning the woman off to turning the woman on immensely.  Some see either control(for an unstated but generally defined as lasting for a relatively short period) or denial (generally seen to be an ongoing process) as dangerous in that it may short-circuit the woman's interest whereas others see it as another form of fun and exciting though frustrating play. 

As an aside and so that people know my own viewpoint...I've always seen denial as one side of the coin...the other side being allowance.  These two subsets make up orgasm control.  I've never seen it stated that denial specifically means a long period of time.  I've never seen it stated that control only means denial for a short period of time.  Hence, my use of the terms of denial and allowance (permission) as subsets of control.

I am curious though...above I noted that some female submissives of the danger of turning a woman off if she is not allowed to cum for a long period of time.  I know that the following questions are going to possibly cause some flak but I've had a bunch of that in the last couple of weeks anyway so what's a little more?

Question 1.  Do you think the number of female submissives that would be turned off by orgasm denial for either short or long periods is higher than the number of male submissives?

Yes.


Question 2:  If so, why?  Are the submissive men operating on a different mindset? 

The mindset is totally different because male and female brains are wired differently. For the female, a good orgasm is more of an emotional response, for the male, it is physical. Screw with a female's emotional response too long (and without great skill and finesse) and you will turn her off completely. Males, on the other hand, seem to love that physical control.

Question 3:  If so, what is the mindset that allows these submissive men to endure this longer than their female counterpart without being turned off?  Especially in light of the fact that men...supposedly...are driven more by their libido than women are. 

Again, for the male it's all about feeling completely physically controlled. Note the much larger number of male chastity devices. They have become quite sophisticated. There are very few chastity devices available for the female.


Question 4:  In light of the supposedly higher sex drive, do dominant women take that into consideration when they apply orgasm denial for long periods to their submissive men?

I would never automatically assume a male had a higher sex drive than a female. However, I do not believe that a male should not be in chastity too long. without being milked, at least.

". . .  men locked in chastity devices should receive regular milking to help maintain good prostate health.   Milking may help to "flush out" the build up of toxins which accumulate within the prostate gland of a chaste male by enabling him to ejaculate without experiencing orgasm."

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ORIGINAL: Tristan

It sounds like orgasm control can be used as a form of tantric sex leading to heightened orgasms if done with that mindset or it can completely kill the sex drive.

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

...and the number of them for whom it is a dangerous thing to try and do. 

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ORIGINAL: xssve

...that's just being mean if you ask me.