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CaringandReal -> RE: question about the "submissive balance sheet" answers (1/12/2011 11:51:36 AM)
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ORIGINAL: something1343
What exactly does it mean when some of you say that your intelligence is an asset?
I'm not one of those people, but naturally I have an opinion about it. ;) I only think intelligence is an asset in a submissive or slave if she (or her dominant/master) controls it rather than letting it control her. It can be used properly as a tool, then. It's one of the easist personality traits to identify with: many people clearly feel their "I"--their real self--is intimately interconnected with the quality of their thoughts. I think that is why intelligence becomes important to many people. They feel as though it is an intrinsic and essential part of who they are, not just something like... oh, good driving skills, say, that they posses. And because of that identification, intelligence can sometimes be a liability as well--at least if you are submissive or, even moreso, aspiring to slavery.
Sometimes this identification changes if you find that most of your best thoughts fly in from your unconscious mind. Not everyone has this experience, but in that specific case it's harder to claim credit for thinking--or identify yourself with your thoughts--because you have no memory of creating them. They just come, fully formed, from out of nowhere. So they are not you--they are winged messengers from something (someone?) else.
I identify my "I" more closely with my feelings. They seem more "true me" than my thoughts, which are kind of random and spontaneous--not really the stuff of a consistent self. I use my feelings to understand things, and I think I do so far better with them than I would with thought. And frankly, to me, it is far more relaxing and enjoyable to be "the dumb one." Think about it. (heh) When you are "the dumb one" you can learn a great deal from the "smarter one," stuff you'd never learn if the roles were reversed or if you and the other person were approximately equal. Also, as a submissive, I think it's far more fun when you think of a good idea, to get a condescending pat on the head like a doggie who has learned a new trick rather than to have someone go, "By George! That's astounding!" (Yeah, so maybe it is astounding, but "I" didn't think it--it came out of that peculiar black lagoon over on the other side of my brain. :/ ) Because of these personal preferences, and because I will not fake it (being the dumb one) unless ordered to, I very much prefer my friends and dominant partners to be far, far smarter than myself, as smart as they can get and still tolerate being around someone like me. Luckily, a lot of very smart people do not seem to mind having a doggie around them who can learn new tricks. :) I get it, I love my pet too, and think the world of her and her companionship, even though she cannot speak or intellectualize with me.
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