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A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 11:47:16 AM

SissyObeyingSlut

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Evening all,

Hope everyone is ok, and looking forward to the weekend :)

Do not worry, this is not another stupid pathetic offensive message, well at least I hope not.

I was just wondering, as I have read many Dom/Mistresses profile now attempting to understand all as I am new to the scene and it comes to my attention that many women stipulate what they desire, however when mentioning such things a bad response is aired.

So my question is, what are the mistresses of this world looking for :)

J x

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 11:52:07 AM

LadyConstanze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SissyObeyingSlut

So my question is, what are the mistresses of this world looking for :)

J x

Isn't that like asking what the women of this world are looking for? Life of Brian "We're all individuals..."

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 11:54:51 AM

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Constanze,

Indeed it probably is, however it is interesting to know what the women of this yr2011 are seeking form the subs??

:)

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 11:56:55 AM

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Submission, obedience, service, compatibility, a forfeiture of power, time, commitment, dedication, loyalty.......

That's a start, anyway.

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 11:58:41 AM

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Ah ladyPact,

this is said, but still when approaching a domme or introducing ourselves, this never works!

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 11:59:32 AM

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Really? How many Dominant women have you met in person that don't want any or all of those things?

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 12:01:37 PM

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I mean on here Lady, as introcuding myself or letting a domme know of my willingness it has not worked

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 12:11:07 PM

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That may very well have to do with "on here" you're just a blip on the screen.

How do you expect a Dominant woman to know that you are any different than thousands of others who are just 'here' to fulfill their kink? It's a lot more common than you might think it is, and frankly, a lot of women get bored with it. Bored, if not annoyed.

Ever hear that expression "actions speak louder than words"? It works very much like that.

If you come here and your first impression of yourself is about kink and sex, most women aren't going to give you the time of day. Most women. Myself included, can get that at the drop of a hat.

You can't just say that you're the kind of person that a Dominant woman wants. You have to be the kind of person that a Dominant woman wants.

Leading yourself in with the kink, doesn't do that.

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 1:56:32 PM

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A hardcore gamer geek with an extensive cosplay and SCA wardrobe who is pansexual and some flavor of pretty as well as very, very smart. And local. And who will fit into an existing poly household without drama. And who is ideally more attracted to my male primary partner than to me.

Sorry, but this isn't going to help you any. Different people want different things, and most people want stuff that is really specific to their needs.

< Message edited by LadyNTrainer -- 1/7/2011 1:57:08 PM >

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RE: A mistress ideal - 1/7/2011 10:03:40 PM

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I mean on here Lady, as introcuding myself or letting a domme know of my willingness it has not worked

Don't do it. NEVER start that way.

Begin by talking vanilla. Not kink, not relationship, just hobbies, what she did that day, whether she likes to grow flowers.

Telling her that you're willing to submit to her or willing to have a relationship is just wrong if you don't know how well you work together.

Once you've determined that the two of you like each other, then ask if she'd be comfortable meeting. Just to talk - no promises past that.

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