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Meeting Subs - 1/8/2011 5:06:45 AM

Sirjayray

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I new to Collarme. Wondering if anyone has any suggestions regarding the best place within the site to meet subs seeking Doms.

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RE: Meeting Subs - 1/8/2011 5:22:17 AM

DarkSteven

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Hello, SirJayRay. Welcome to collarme.

The best place on this site to meet people - Doms, subs, men, women, whatever - is the collarme main site. There you can do searches for those meeting your criteria.

That said, your profile is not going to attract many. Your single sentence states what you want to do with a woman, and it seems like you are open to anything female. Your interests suggests that you want a play-only relationship and are not interested in doing anything with her outside of play.

I'd recommend that you begin by joining local groups and learning play techniques. You'll also get to meet some local people and understand the lifestyle better. Finally, networking is a great place to meet prospective partners.

I hate to add this, but there was something about your profile that made me think that you're married and looking for something on the side. It's partly your reticence to tell anything about yourself, including giving a picture. It's partly your emphasis on things kinky and no interests aside from those. If you are in fact unattached, you may want to specifically mention that. And flesh out your profile too.

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RE: Meeting Subs - 1/8/2011 5:23:52 AM

GreedyTop

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Steven.. based on the OPs intro post, I smell TROLL

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RE: Meeting Subs - 1/8/2011 5:29:04 AM

DarkSteven

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Yeah, Greedy. I replied to this post before I saw his others. Don't overlook his other post under Married Masters in which he states that he has kept a sub on the side for twelve years while married.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Meeting Subs - 1/8/2011 5:39:19 AM

LillyBoPeep

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DarkSteven has (as always!) given some great tips! "Advertising" like you're doing with this OP isn't going to be all that successful anyway, but ESPECIALLY not with a bare profile. Simply running into a profile that is "seeking a sub" isn't enough to make someone want to engage you (particularly a female sub who fields bajillions of messages like this in her inbox every day) -- if people ARE reading profiles, they're looking for a little bit of insight into who you are that might show that you're someone they're interested in talking to further. profiles are the tip of the iceberg, not the be-all-end-all, but they should still be inviting, and express a little bit of who you are.

You haven't filled out any of your other interests, so it makes you seem like you're simply here trawling for an easy submissive slut. There's nothing wrong with seeking a play-only relationship, but you should probably state that clearly. If you are married, be honest with people. If you are genuinely single, be honest about that, too.

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RE: Meeting Subs - 1/9/2011 2:18:09 PM

GoddessLiliane

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Agreed. I'm new, but my profile is pretty fleshed out except the non-lifestyle interests section. I'm not really new to social networks, and at the core, this is a social network. Figure out what you're looking for and make sure your profile basically shouts and attracts it.

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