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hipsterkittyxo -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/24/2011 12:34:40 PM)
OMG, it took about 2 years for me and my owner to figure out how to regularly get me off when we're together. Most of it was just me not relaxing and focusing. It took a lot of work and it was a serious thing in our relationship, because he started feeling inadequate and then we weren't having sex, and I almost had a nervous breakdown about that, but now he gets me off better than I get myself off.

sirssubk2008 -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/25/2011 7:03:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: sirssubk2008 quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: sirssubk2008 The cause is early childhood trauma. Therapy has been going on for years, with some change but not alot. You're seeing the wrong therapist for this issue. You need a new one, preferably someone who practices EMDR. No, the counselor I am presently seeing is the one that finally diagnosed me and has brought me as far as I've come with it. We have discussed the EMDR and are consulting with another therapist over the issue. This doesn't take years to diagnose and it doesn't take years to fix. You said "some change but not alot" after "years" of therapy. You started this thread 13 days ago. You could have had at least two sessions of EMDR by now. One or two more sessions and you could be completely free of your "issues" or very close to it. You can choose healing, or you can choose the same road you've been on for years. Is that where you want to be? Do you want to be, in several more years, a little better but not alot? Some people get comfortable with a therapy "lifestyle", is that you? These are rhetorical questions, to really search for the truth, and not dismiss them out of hand as uncomfortable. If you keep doing what you've always done, don't expect anything to change. Cali Since you said your questions were rhetorical, I wont respond to those (and I didn't dismiss them either), however, I would like to rephrase one thing that I had said, or maybe just add to it. It took years to diagnose, because it took years to find a counselor I was comfortable with telling the problem to. I spent a long time not able to relate to my therapsits. If you don't have a 'connection' with your therapist, then they can't help you.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/25/2011 7:50:23 PM)
What's EMDR?

sirssubk2008 -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/25/2011 10:00:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus What's EMDR? EMDR is eye movement desensitization and reprocessing. Basically psychotherapists use it to help people with things such as PTSD. I wont go into great detail about it, but if you want to read about it try this link... http://emdria.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=2

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/25/2011 11:03:26 PM)
Very interesting, thanks!

MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/25/2011 11:12:39 PM)
On a completely different tack, sometimes sensory deprivation can help with this. Blindfolds/hoods can exclude external stimuli and allow her to focus just on the sense of touch. I've used it on a sub before who had a similar issue. It's not a guaranteed fix, but neither is therapy; it's a also bit less expensive than therapy.

sirssubk2008 -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/26/2011 6:28:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel On a completely different tack, sometimes sensory deprivation can help with this. Blindfolds/hoods can exclude external stimuli and allow her to focus just on the sense of touch. I've used it on a sub before who had a similar issue. It's not a guaranteed fix, but neither is therapy; it's a also bit less expensive than therapy. Thank you for your input. And yes, it is a lot cheaper than therapy, but you also hit the same roadblock as with therapy, the trust factor, but once the right partner is there, it would definitely be worth a try.

sirssubk2008 -> RE: Female orgasmic disorder (1/26/2011 6:30:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Very interesting, thanks! You're welcome. I do know that it can work with some people, and not always for traumatic issues.

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