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in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 12:26:13 AM   
needleather88


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 12:27:53 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		there IS no quick way.. but you can improve your chances by reading the FAQs at the top of this forum.

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 1:07:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Your question is very similar to asking what's the quick way to get a girlfriend or even a wife.  GT nailed it perfectly.  There isn't a quick way.  I'm afraid it does take a time investment with someone who is wanting you for a submissive.  There really aren't any short cuts.


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 1:11:07 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 1:23:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Approach her like a gentleman, court her, than she will take it from there. M

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 4:37:00 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Simple.  Avoid any concerns about whether she would be right for you or has any clue what she's doing.  Try for a tribute Domme, and you can have a Mistress in less than ten minutes.

Now then, want to rephrase your question?

Edited to add:  Dude, I looked at your profile.  You need to start looking at Mistresses as what they are: people first, women second, kinksters third. 


< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 1/9/2011 5:31:03 AM >

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 5:27:28 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Dude, you came into a forum for Mistresses to ask the fastest way to get one. Which would imply that you aren't willing to put in much time and/or effort...how flattering is that to the Mistresses that will read your post to know that they themselves don't matter to you, that you just want someone to fill a slot? You just came in and broadcasted to your target audience that they aren't really important to you beyond their title. Fail.

You say you aren't having much luck - what could the reason for that be? If multiple women are turning you down, the common denominator is you - what are you doing that is turning women away? Could it be that you are looking for someone, anyone, and don't care much about that person except that it happen quickly?

On one hand it's commendable that you found the Mistress forum of this site, many don't even know it exists. On the other it's a hoot that you got here and didn't read any of the other threads and then posted this masterpiece of desperation. If you want to know why you are full of fail, please start reading the other threads in this section and you'll also get an answer to your question.

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 5:39:52 AM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: needleather88

What's the quickest way to become a mistresses sub? I'm having trouble in this department.




Good luck LOL...

Diane

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 5:41:12 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Can I get one to match my couch?

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 5:42:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're having trouble in this department because your profile screams "I'm a 'do me' submissive!"

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 6:01:27 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Hello 88 -
Nothing at all wrong with being a "do me" sub. You want the kind of stuff you want. That's totally cool. The problem, though, is that you are one of a bazillion men who want a little Wham Bam, thank you Ma'am. The women on the other hand are *generally speaking* not interested in the kind of experience you are looking for. However, it only takes one, right? You just gotta find the right one.

You might want to look for a munch (bdsm group) in your area. Meet some ladies, and then follow the advice above. You might find someone who is willing to just be into the play you have noted as your interest. There are sometimes people willing to do that - often it is ONCE THEY GET TO KNOW YOU.

Beyond that, you could as Steven pointed out, find a professional and pay for exactly what you want. I don't see you mentioning this as a sexual thing, only that you are looking for "punishment" and "love in a rough way", so perhaps you might find what you are looking for by exploring the gay men's scene. I've certainly found gay men in the past to be willing to interact with me in this way (even though I'm a woman). Again, that was after they got to know me, but it certainly was a whole other spin on things for me!

good luck in your search,
sunshine

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 6:51:44 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		The delightful people above already said anything constructive I could say...........and nicer.

(I still think it's an epidemic...)

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 7:30:15 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		There are many ways of meeting a dominant woman.  Sometimes it happens really fast, and sometimes it takes patience.  Have good profiles on all the fetish sites.  Go to all the fetish events you can.  There are a lot of other ways too.

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 8:51:26 AM   
stef


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quote:

ORIGINAL: needleather88

What's the quickest way to become a mistresses sub? I'm having trouble in this department.

There is no BDSM relationship drive-thru.  Sorry.

~stef


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 9:53:08 AM   
LadyNTrainer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: needleather88

What's the quickest way to become a mistresses sub? I'm having trouble in this department.



You need to find the McDomme's drive-thru window and order a Happy Ending Meal.  Alternatively you could try Dommes R Us, or if you're really desperate, Crazy Abdul's Discount Domme Mart. 

I'm afraid those are the only shortcuts I know of to putting forth the effort to get to know another human being and form a relationship. 


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 10:16:06 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

quote:

ORIGINAL: needleather88

What's the quickest way to become a mistresses sub? I'm having trouble in this department.



You need to find the McDomme's drive-thru window and order a Happy Ending Meal.  Alternatively you could try Dommes R Us, or if you're really desperate, Crazy Abdul's Discount Domme Mart. 

I'm afraid those are the only shortcuts I know of to putting forth the effort to get to know another human being and form a relationship. 



Ah that crazy Abdul!   Good times... 


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 10:47:10 AM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: needleather88

What's the quickest way to become a mistresses sub?



Northrop Grumman Shipbuilding has selected Walbridge Southeast, based in Charlotte North Carolina
for a new Outfitting Facility which will support its contract to build Virgina-class subs. The new facility
will house several production bays and will be sized to handle multiple sub modules.

Hope this helps.

chia* (the pet)


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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 10:53:00 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Yea, but all they say is "Yes Virginia,"  over and over and over and some blather about Santa Clause!  Those subs are buggy I tell you!

Unless your name is Virgina and you have a thing for short fat bearded men in red suits, Abdul is the only way to go!

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 2:07:16 PM   
GoddessLiliane


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Status: offline 		It depends on what you are looking for.

Know what you are looking for.
Make sure you're on the right site for what you're looking for.
Make a complete profile and send out respectful messages to those that interest you, and be respectful to those interested in you that you are not interested with in return.
When introducing yourself, make clear what you would like (i.e. camming, IRL fun, one-night session, LTR, etc.) and what you bring to the table (i.e. domestic duties, tributes <if that's your thing>, connections, experience, etc.> so that the Domme is interested in return. Use proper English.
Don't expect success or rejection, and take none of it personally.
When you finally find someone, stay true to the agreements you've made and don't be a flake. If you say you want to have a session, don't take her for a movie. If you are going for dinner, don't ask her to blackmail you at the same time. It's not nice and spontaneity is fine later in a relationship but not at the beginning.

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RE: in need of mistress. - 1/9/2011 4:13:44 PM   
MissAsylum


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Status: offline 		I read your profile. This is what I read:

"I, I, I.....me, me, me.....I want, I want, I want.....I need, I need, I need."

Um, dude? Do you care about what your Domme may want...or does that not matter to you?

quote:

ORIGINAL: needleather88

What's the quickest way to become a mistresses sub? I'm having trouble in this department.




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