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Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/9/2011 2:22:10 PM

GoddessLiliane

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I am not as into the dungeon scene as I used to be and I've taken a sabbatical. However, I still like to Domme, and I have dates that are inspired by My lifestyle without being sessions per say.

What are some good non-session but alternative related dates? If you've done them, how have they worked out?

My current ideas...

Going to a theater and using a bitchboy as an ottoman for my feet. I'd be in the back row and if anyone said anything, he'd say he's looking for his contact lens. We'd start at theater with regular rows, then move on to one in my area with couches instead of seats so he'd be embarrassed. If he is a good ottoman, he can eat popcorn out of one of the trays the theaters has to carry beverages and such. Of course, he must eat it like a dog.

Getting a manicure/pedicure and letting My slave draw my feet.

Shopping, of course.

But I feel as if I need more opportunities for discreet punishments. I'm just not feeling creative today. Anyone have any ideas?

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/9/2011 2:23:32 PM

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going out and having coffee and simply talking..nothing else...talk.

Having a nice candlelit dinner together and enjoying each other's time, smiles and laughter.

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/9/2011 2:27:47 PM

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I do that with My friends as well though. I enjoy that, but I don't think it exerts My slaves at all, and I don't want them to get bored. The movie punishment has proven effective, as have betting games (going to a park, having them complete certain physical SFW tasks like touching their elbows behind their back, and for each failure, I get $5, for each success they get a reward), shopping, and other similar financially based activities, but that gets boring. I want to do something involving their exertion.

I think taking a slave to the gym and doing some workout punishment could be good. Trainer/trainee fantasy thing, and as a reward, hottubbing at the pool facilities at the gym. It would be hardcore training though. Is that unheard of?

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/9/2011 2:35:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessLiliane

I am not as into the dungeon scene as I used to be and I've taken a sabbatical. However, I still like to Domme, and I have dates that are inspired by My lifestyle without being sessions per say.

What are some good non-session but alternative related dates? If you've done them, how have they worked out?

My current ideas...

Going to a theater and using a bitchboy as an ottoman for my feet. I'd be in the back row and if anyone said anything, he'd say he's looking for his contact lens. We'd start at theater with regular rows, then move on to one in my area with couches instead of seats so he'd be embarrassed. If he is a good ottoman, he can eat popcorn out of one of the trays the theaters has to carry beverages and such. Of course, he must eat it like a dog.

Getting a manicure/pedicure and letting My slave draw my feet.

Shopping, of course.

But I feel as if I need more opportunities for discreet punishments. I'm just not feeling creative today. Anyone have any ideas?

I'm tempted simply to say take the pink box of your face but that would just be too cruel too cruel....

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 2:02:21 AM

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What if you arrange a dinner party at your home for some of your close friends and have your slave(s) serving at the party. Nothing lifestyle in the way your guests are served, though. Have the slave(s) dressed very nicely. Have hors d'oeurves prepared to be brought out on trays. Then, after everyone in the dinner party is seated, the slave(s) bring out the food, holding the plates of food for each individual person to serve themselves in turn. Once everyone in the dinner party is served, the slave's duty is to then stand back, observing the party quietly, and be attentive to the needs of everyone present, whether they need seconds of food, or a glass filled, or the plates cleared from the table and dessert brought out, they're ready to do so.

Another option is an afternoon tea. Your slave(s) could prepare tea cakes and other sweets, as well as fresh-brewed tea, and, similarly to the dinner party, be ready to attend to whatever is needed by your guests.

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 2:22:54 AM

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I can't say I regard having the guy eat popcorn like a dog as discreet. Or that anyone would buy that he is looking for a contact lens when you have your feet propped up on him.

If you are looking for non-session dates, you could try having a dinner where you two are facing each other and actually talking. Making him eat popcorn off out of a box like a dog sure sounds like a public session to me.

Why do you keep asking us what is unheard of? What does it matter?

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 2:52:31 AM

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I won't do anything that could be noticed by the general public. We used to have a great little cafe here called 'coffee cake and kink' which has sadly now closed. It was an adult cafe where all customers were aware that certain kinky activity could go on and its a cafe I used a lot when I wanted to publicly humiliate a sub (though you were still very limited as to what was acceptable). Things like the sub eating his/her cake off a plate on the floor whilst their hands were cuffed behind their back was perfectly ok and although I did that once or twice, I used it more as a meeting place for my other domly friends. I once gave my male sub a present of pretty underwear and got him to do a fashion show for me and my friends. Another time I sold his ass to the highest bidder (keep in mind that these were all trustable friends) The highest bid was a mars bar!. It was also a place where my sub could be our waitress and rush around to our every whim but otherwise be ignored.
You can do all of this in your own home if you have other domly friends that are willing to partake.
I once went to a party where sushi was served on samarite swords that were placed on horizontal naked female subs and another party where the banquet included a well basted male and female sub.

My advice for the most part is, keep it in house. That way you can have a lot more fun without upsetting anyone.

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 4:34:12 AM

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Demanding he do something that he very well may not be able to do and then take his money? Bad idea. If it is a pro session, then you need to earn your money. If he isn't physically or otherwise capable of something, and you should find that out before you order him to do it, then you're setting him up to fail.

And the last thing I want to see when I go to the movies is someone sceneing.

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 6:42:39 AM

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Going to a theater and using a bitchboy as an ottoman for my feet. I'd be in the back row and if anyone said anything, he'd say he's looking for his contact lens. We'd start at theater with regular rows, then move on to one in my area with couches instead of seats so he'd be embarrassed. If he is a good ottoman, he can eat popcorn out of one of the trays the theaters has to carry beverages and such. Of course, he must eat it like a dog.

Unless you are getting them to pay for a private booth, this runs the risk of getting you thrown out. It's too long a session anyway, you risk damaging his back and knees whilst disturbing other peoples night out. I get annoyed by people that eat popcorn, let alone this

Great for fantasy but not good in reality.

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Getting a manicure/pedicure and letting My slave draw my feet.

Not sure what you mean by 'draw'? Just make sure that they know what they are doing. There is nothing worse than an infection caused by a person who doesn't know how to pedicure.

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Shopping, of course.

This is probably one of the easiest things to get away with in public. Opening doors, ordering and getting your coffee... carrying bags... paying.

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But I feel as if I need more opportunities for discreet punishments. I'm just not feeling creative today. Anyone have any ideas?

I don't understand the whole punishment dynamic thing, but people do use the word 'funishment' (blergh I know...) but it's more the indication that the discipline is done for enjoyment - you might want to clarify which it is before the mob decends

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 6:43:58 AM

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I won't do anything that could be noticed by the general public. We used to have a great little cafe here called 'coffee cake and kink' which has sadly now closed. .

Misses CCK

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 6:48:34 AM

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 7:06:19 AM

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 9:34:20 AM

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I won't do anything that could be noticed by the general public.

General public =

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RE: Your best non-session dates/ideas - 1/10/2011 12:42:40 PM

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Something to keep in mind, the things you gave as examples aren't really discreet - being a piece of furniture or eating like a dog is pretty obvious. Even though I am kinky, it wouldn't be something I'd want to encounter in an active way when I leave my house unless I'm going somewhere that I know is for that. I'd just rather people keep their private life private.

Wouldn't it be humiliating for him to be the henpecked bf/husband type of role? If he had to carry your purse, get you a drink or food, walk behind you at a few paces with the packages or purse or coat? Just being with you as you do something that is a feminine thing, like getting your nails done, as a passive observer while holding your coat and purse etc is enough to send many hetero men into overload. I used to work at a fabric store and if a guy was ever in there with his woman he looked mighty uncomfortable. It hardly ever happened since the guys would wait in the car or outside the store - it was like cooties would infect them if they actually went in the store.

I dont think the gym idea is one I'd do. You aren't trained in that field I imagine and it would be hard to know what you could ask him to do that would be hardcore enough to satisfy you without hurting the guy. I work out 6 days a week, I hurt my knee a couple of months ago doing the same workout I do all the time, it's been a bitch getting it back to normal. That being said, my Dom and I do work out together sometimes and I love it when we can. I work harder to try to please him and it's a great motivator for both of us. Since we do this occasionally he pretty much knows my limits and gives me the freedom to stop if I have to and I take that seriously. The gym we use has stationary bicycles with video screens with a racing game that comes up on them when you want to do that with a partner. We have fun 'racing' each other on that, it would be hard to hurt yourself on a stationary bike...maybe something like that?

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