Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Collars on a Dom/me


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Bondage Gear and Apparel >> Collars on a Dom/me Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Collars on a Dom/me - 1/9/2011 6:43:04 PM   
MistressLilliana


Posts: 84
Joined: 1/7/2011
Status: offline 		How many Dom/mes wear collars during play and in their vanilla life? I love collars and always have and I also live an outward life where my vanilla life isn't apart from this life. I do not care what others think about who I am. Even if your collar is subtle to fit your vanilla life, how many of you do wear them?

Another question, if you DO wear collars, do you only wear them when you own a Sub/Slave or do you take it off should the relationship end?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/9/2011 6:46:10 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Sorry that we have different opinions on this one.  Not just no, but hell no.

_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to MistressLilliana)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/9/2011 7:25:45 PM   
MistressLilliana


Posts: 84
Joined: 1/7/2011
Status: offline 		I should also add that I am Goth so my collars have been worn more as jewlery than anything.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/9/2011 8:54:18 PM   
weaselwelder


Posts: 72
Joined: 6/22/2009
Status: offline 		"/

I have to say that while I find great joy in screwing with "protocol" in all its many forms, I somehow think that you've missed the point of a collar.


_____________________________

If you're on here asking for relationship advice, you're talking to everyone except the one you should talk to.

(in reply to MistressLilliana)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/10/2011 3:59:30 AM   
AquaticSub


Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline 		Val does not wear a collar. He really doesn't wear any jewelry beyond his wedding ring.

I, personally, don't have an issue with it (beyond that men wearing choker style jewelry is not attractive to me). I also don't have a big attachment to the idea of "collar = submission". The most vanilla people I've ever known, and the most ardent female feminist who opposed male led power dynamics, wore collars of various varieties. Including some from the pet store complete with little bells.

They literally mean beans to me till the person wearing it tells me the meaning behind it. I will probably make a "ok, more likely than not that they are a sub/slave" if I'm specifically at a kink event but that's about it. Outside of them I'm actually more likely to assume that they are completely vanilla and just wearing it as a fashion piece.

I suppose it's all in how you look at it. My collar is not a collar by stereotypical standards. Therefore a collar - to me - is piece of jewelry that symbolizes ownership of whatever style. Since it could be anything to me, I don't see a bit of leather with a strap as inherently a symbol of ownership when out and about. The diamond drop pendant could be someone's collar or it could be a tribute.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 1/10/2011 4:01:34 AM >

_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to MistressLilliana)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/10/2011 4:06:49 AM   
DaddysInkedSlut


Posts: 1837
Joined: 5/14/2010
Status: offline 		We are an active part of a subculture where collars dont have anything to do with the lifestyle so yes at times we both may be wearing a cllar. I recently suprised him with a set of his and her personalized dog tags and we both wear them daily. A piece of jewlrey doesn't MAKE someone a submissive.

_____________________________


(in reply to AquaticSub)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/10/2011 4:19:43 AM   
kalikshama


Posts: 14805
Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline 		I come from a hedonistic rather than protocol perspective, but to me collars /= Dom/me.

(in reply to MistressLilliana)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/10/2011 9:42:09 AM   
MistressLilliana


Posts: 84
Joined: 1/7/2011
Status: offline 		I know the reason for a collar is to show ownership of a Sub. The Sub wears it to show they are in fact owned by a Dom/me much like awedding ring in a marriage. Perhaps my uestion isn't worded correctly causing confusion. I have hard (though rare) that some Dom/mes wear collars to show their authority, to show that they do own a Sub. I kow his is NOT common practice but it is out there. I was wonderng more on whether or not Dom/mes wear them as jewlery or to complete an outfit?

Being a Goth myself, I have always worn collars and cannot bring myself to stop just because of my BDSM lifestyle and with being a Domme. Though I understand it is the Sub who wears one to show they are owned by me, I still love the feeing and look of a collar on myself.

(in reply to kalikshama)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/11/2011 10:59:30 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		In My experience, what you have heard (I believe that is what you meant, rather than the word hard) is probably incorrect.  I can not attest to any Dominant women that I know personally who wear collars as fashion accessories.   

_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to MistressLilliana)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/11/2011 12:04:29 PM   
Hillwilliam


Posts: 19394
Joined: 8/27/2008
Status: offline 		No collar on the Hill dude.

Sorry bout that LadyP

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/11/2011 12:06:25 PM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Sorry that we have different opinions on this one.  Not just no, but hell no.


This.

I cannot stand anything even touching my neck with any pressure. Turtlenecks tops are not even in my wardrobe.


_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/11/2011 12:25:33 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

No collar on the Hill dude.

Sorry bout that LadyP

Don't be sorry to Me, Hill.  We're in agreement.  The gender of the Dominant doesn't have much to do with it.


_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to Hillwilliam)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/11/2011 1:46:48 PM   
Hillwilliam


Posts: 19394
Joined: 8/27/2008
Status: offline 		Just tossin some silliness at ya there. This dreary, snowy weather has Me frickin stir crazy.

I hope You n Yours are doing well.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Collars on a Dom/me - 1/11/2011 2:42:19 PM   
MaxsGirl


Posts: 355
Joined: 12/2/2010
From: The Arctic Circle
Status: offline 		My Alpha wears a collar, but we have a slightly different dynamic than other M/s couples, because we're a dog pack.  He's my guard dog, so I put a formal collar on him (that is really just a necklace with dog tags), and when we go out he often wears a spiked leather collar.  They do not lock on, and never will, but they aren't fashion accessories by any means.  Mine, on the other hand, carries a lock as a pendant right now, and will eventually be permanently locked on.

_____________________________

Property of rubbrdsir

Collared Fox and
Future Thru-Hiker!

(in reply to Hillwilliam)
Profile   Post #: 14
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Bondage Gear and Apparel >> Collars on a Dom/me Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078