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MacMasterXXX -> Finding a sub (5/1/2006 2:44:14 PM)
I had a slave years ago and let her go, I have been without a slave for 10 years now and have decided the only time I was really happy was when I had one. I have had NO luck here,at Alt, or Bondage, in finding a suitable replacement. I believe it would help me if some subs/Doms would review my listings and give me some no holds barred feedback on how/what/where I could improve my odds.

Wulfchyld -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 2:59:14 PM)
Okay, it looks good. Your 56, I assume you will be offering financial security/independence. Right? Loki

Tikkiee -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 3:14:26 PM)
Well, I looked at your profile, and this is my own opinion on it. IF I WAS a slave, I would pass you right by. Your profile tells nothing about YOU. I am not talking lifestyle related information, but rather something interesting about you, as a person. There is nothing there that would make me stop and say 'hey, he's worth getting to know'. On another note, I am a firm believer that the best place to find someone is in RL; parties, munches, clubs, etc.

juliaoceania -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 3:52:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tikkiee Well, I looked at your profile, and this is my own opinion on it. IF I WAS a slave, I would pass you right by. Your profile tells nothing about YOU. I am not talking lifestyle related information, but rather something interesting about you, as a person. There is nothing there that would make me stop and say 'hey, he's worth getting to know'. On another note, I am a firm believer that the best place to find someone is in RL; parties, munches, clubs, etc. I agree with Cassandra., it is nice to know about you before we hear what you want from us. You also state that you would like to have a petite redhead, but will "settle" for someone that is a different type. I can tell you as someone that is a different type, (tall shapely blonde) I would never contact you because you showed this strong preference for something that I am not. If it is not a deal breaker for you then you might say something like .."although I have tended to be with petite women in the past I am more interested in who you are on the inside and I have been known to date many types of women". (at least if that is the truth anyways. There are very few slaves in the world, and even fewer that are petite, and even fewer still that are redheads.. so you might wanna think about what you "need" in a slave and leave out your "wants". Can you imagine if subs went around saying things like "please be built like Brad Pitt, but have a face like Tom Cruise"? You probably would not respond to that either...smiles

darq -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 3:59:51 PM)
OK, to me your profile comes across as seeking 'the ideal woman' ... But if you can't find her, well, you'll settle for something slightly more tarnished. No offense, but it seems rather shallow. Maybe you could have the first few sentences (or couple of paragraphs) be about you ... What kind of Dom are you? What do you enjoy that has nothing to do with BDSM? Reveal something interesting about yourself ... Something to catch a girl's eye and draw her in. Tell something funny that happened in your childhood or your young adulthood that has stuck with you until now, something that maybe shaped your life or changed you or opened your eyes in some way. :) Its fine to have high standards ... And chances are you're going to have sort though many many girls before you find the right one. But its all in how you present yourself ... Right now you're presenting yourself as seeking the 'perfect' girl but you're not detailing much of what you offer her. It tends to put us off when we read things like that because we're suddenly sitting here going ... Oh, I'm not intelligent enough. Or, I'm not fair enough and my hair isn't red enough ... Its more brown or blonde than red. He probably wants a REAL redhead ... When we see 'petite' we often immediately think "bone thin" which then means we're sitting here going, pfft no way will I be thin enough for this guy. Nevermind! Women will pick themselves to pieces, literally ... Trust me, I know, I'm a woman! lol Even the really confident ones want to know whats in it for them ... So, you know ... Just a few changes and accepting that it may take awhile and I'm sure you'll find her!

missturbation -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 4:06:42 PM)
In my opinion i didn't need to read your profile to see where the problem may lie. You have stated you cannot find a 'replacement'. Is a replacement actually what you are looking for because in my humble opinion we cannot replace those we have loved etc. We can only look for something new.

mysecret40 -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 4:22:35 PM)
Darq good points,....we women do pick ourselves apart don't we? But what is strange to me is these Doms who are fat, {overweight}, out of shape, um, some are say,{carefully}balding, {ahem}, or are growing body hair and can become a human loafa sponges, poor hygiene,....you get the pic.......lol,...they want the perfect Barbie dolls~! The ones that say...".well I must be physically attracted to you...I'm very visual".....and then you see a pic of them or in person and it's like "yikes"~! secret

Cleverdevil76 -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 5:29:24 PM)
Good point. I've done that...when I meet someone, all I notice is visual. The legs, the shape of the bottom lip, the nails, the pores... Then I just assume that I'm cute enough and clever enough that I stand a chance. With anyone....want me lol

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Finding a sub (5/1/2006 8:40:23 PM)
The responses I have read have pretty much summed it up for me..your preferences would deter a lot of sub/slaves from contacting you. The word or implication of settle did not "settle " with me either.Your picture was pretty obscure, either find a clearer one or do not have one.Did see fish fairly clearly..(nice fish..grin).And yes would like to see more personal info on you, not just what you seek...be well...Tempting

Takethiswaltz -> RE: Finding a sub (5/2/2006 9:43:50 PM)
What is it you seek in a d/s relationship other than LTR? Do you have a sense of humor? What did you learn from your last D/s experience and what have you learned since you have taken a 10 year hiatus? Petite redheads are probably nice but are you willing to consider beyond the package? What is your stand on limits? Do you need a slave or will you entertain the prospect of a submissive? What can you offer at 56 that a 36 year old cannot offer? ( think: how am I more human at 56 than i was at 36) Of course, answering all these things in a profile would be overkill, but think about these things and put you heart and soul into what you write. Writing is never good unless if has truth for the person who is writing it. Best of luck, Tara

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