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Wheldrake -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/12/2011 9:42:03 AM)
Good luck with your speaking engagement. I think it's great that you're doing this - speaking to a university class is probably an excellent way of battling misconceptions about BDSM and paving the way to greater awareness and acceptance. With that said, you're there to inform and educate rather than to proselytise, so I would suggest you concentrate on presenting accurate, interesting information. It might be worth talking to the professor beforehand to find out if he or she has any specific ideas about what approach would be most appropriate for the class. If it were me, I would focus on describing what life as a masochistic slave is actually like, and on the psychological needs that are met by embracing that lifestyle. Also, especially considering that you'll be speaking at a university in the American south, you might consider explaining how consensual, BDSM-style slavery differs from the historical kind.

CherryNeko -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/12/2011 11:00:31 AM)
Yes, Neko is alright, though I prefer Cherry [:)]. Oh, whatever. It's fine. quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub They did not tell him how many minutes he can use. They told him how how long they expect him to speak, which is 20-40 minutes. I highly doubt that any university class lasts any less than 45 minutes. Most of mine were more like an hour or an hour half at the shortest and three hours at the longest. So 20-40 minutes tells me that A) he probably isn't the only speaker so there will probably be a question round at the end or or B) that there is going to be plenty of time for questions. Furthermore, are you aware of the climate of this university? Again, I have done this. On more than one occasion. There was never a single problem. I'm not saying that there couldn't be one. But that to assume that there will be on such a grand scale? Just seems like a huge overreaction and ignoring what is in the OP - that they aren't nervous. No. My classes are 2-3 hours long, and still, I wouldn't recommend it if it is the OP's university. Now, I know you know, I know you have done this, and I know it went excellent, but I would like to be careful, not by assuming there will be trouble, but by asking him to take into account that there, indeed, could be. quote: So 20-40 minutes tells me that A) he probably isn't the only speaker so there will probably be a question round at the end or or B) that there is going to be plenty of time for questions. Those are assumptions. Again, neither you nor I have any idea what it's going to be like. We offered the best advice we could. We went straight to the point, then I panicked and suggested that he gave it a second thought. However, he must know more about that class than what we are supposing, so I insist. OP should be really careful. By the way, I admire the OP's courage. And yours too, Aqua. I certainly wouldn't do it, unless of course, it was another university. However, now that he's doing it, let's wish him luck (rather than proposing different scenarios in which it could go wrong). Sorry, OP. I hope it goes well.

CherryNeko -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/12/2011 11:04:51 AM)
Oh, well! That's different! Then go ahead, and good luck! (Some recommended books would help too... for those who are interested. Just saying.)

AquaticSub -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/12/2011 8:00:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CherryNeko No. My classes are 2-3 hours long, and still, I wouldn't recommend it if it is the OP's university. Now, I know you know, I know you have done this, and I know it went excellent, but I would like to be careful, not by assuming there will be trouble, but by asking him to take into account that there, indeed, could be. Which is a great deal different than saying there will be, which is what Celeste said and you agreed with. Therefore I assume you share the same opinion as: quote: Do expect that every guy in the class, and all the rest who hear about it will conclude you're promiscuous and available to any and all. So yes, I agree with wishing the OP luck. I agree completely with advising caution. The above? No. Not in the slightest.

SoSexyAlmostEvil -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/12/2011 10:31:32 PM)
oh...and I am a lady. Lol

AquaticSub -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/13/2011 11:13:49 AM)
Ugh, sorry. I tried to use gender neutral pronouns cause I didn't know. Then I saw someone using "he" and thought they had looked. My apologies.

CherryNeko -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/14/2011 12:03:15 PM)
Oh, it's just going over it once more. It'll be the same in the end. You and I won't agree.

leadership527 -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/16/2011 9:35:42 AM)
I was recently invited to speak in front of a sexuality class at East Carolina University about being a masochist and my lifestyle choice of being a slave. Well, I'd start right out with some definitions of those terms being absolutely certain to spell out the fact that "slave" is undefined. I am expected to speak for 20 to 40 minutes on this particular subject, and although I am not really nervous about speaking in front of other people, I am nervous that what I have to talk about wouldn't be informative or interesting. Because this would be the very first time in the entire history of humanity that humans were uninterested in alternative relationships and sexuality? Seriously, why on god's green earth would you assume that people who have CHOSEN to attend a class on sexuality wouldn't be fascinated to hear something a bit off the beaten path? What would you say about being a masochist/slave in this particular situation? Do you feel that there are any aspects to the lifestyle that are often misunderstood or frowned upon, and need to have a little light shed on them? What do you feel would be important to highlight in this situation? I wouldn't talk about masochists or slaves. I'd talk about ME. Trying to talk about generic labels is only going to cause trouble. If I were in the audience, I'd find anything PERSONAL you had to say very interesting. I'd find any attempts to define reality for everyone else to be positive proof that you lack sufficient knowledge to be telling me anything worth hearing. I'd want to hear "A day in the life" more so than a ton of theory which means nothing to anyone but you.

trueshadow -> RE: Public speaking about my lifestyle choice (1/17/2011 7:59:22 PM)
If I were young, in the class, had fantasized about slavery, what I would want is a place to go for more info. Though it's hard to imagine not being able to thoroughly explore male slavery/female domination on the 'net. Good luck to you. Wish I could hear your presentation.

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