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ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing

We tend to work with local individuals, but if someone wants to relocate to the area, we tell them that they're welcome to, but they need to consider it a PERSONAL relocation first. They need to get themselves settled (we'll help them find a place to live close by where we are, if they want), they need to find a job, and they need to spend the first 3-4 months at a minimum , getting settled and finding out whether they really -do- fit as well in our household as they think they will.

At some point down the road, I hope to be instrumental in creating a co-housing community (or 5 or 6 of them). These offer an exceptional opportunity to be part of a communal environment, and still have a measure of "thinking space" for oneself, which I believe is crucial when starting out in a new relationship of -any- ilk.

If someone doesn't want to live here on their own, with the understanding that this is where they'll be if things -don't- work out with us, relocating here isn't a viable or reasonable option. It puts a strain on the relationship from the get-go, and denies everyone involved the necessary peace, security and space to be able to make a good decision for everyone's health and welfare.

JMO,
Lady Zephyr

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

what you are getting in to when you write that you will relocate.  This is in response to more than a gizillion profiles that state relocation--with Im sure about 1% who really do---so here's the test--spend a weekend looking aound, really looking--at friends, your daily pattern, your home/house, your things, your stuff--your support group---the things you need to pack, leave, childrens lives, school friends---your address where everything comes, your Dr, your pharmacy, your familly.
 
Now think of the task of moving--packing, saying goodbye, starting all over where the only reason you are there is H/him or H/her-the cost of moving, starting new---is it enough? We do see stories like LittlePita where it worked, but we have seen may many more where it is a ruse, or where people when faced with it get cold feet---
 
Be careful, make sure you know what you are getting into--the thought of being carted off to some Dominants palatial home where you will serve naked is fantasy--especially when the cold hard slap of reality sets in.
 
Thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

brightspot, I adore you, as always VERY well stated, One can feel the passion and the feelings in the belief