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Kynetic -> What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 10:38:52 AM)

Hey kinky folks,

I was wondering if many Dominant women find male chastity exciting/appealing?

I'm talking about chasity as a form of orgasm control not the permanent cock blocker, never get to cum type.

I was just thinking about this earlier and wondered if it's a case of it being more of a turn-on for the guy rather than the girl, and how many of those women out there actually like it?

Its an odd one to try to weigh up, one the one hand you have a guy who likes being kept locked, but gets very little (if any) orgasms which is in itself a paradox. But by comparasion from the girl's point of view a similar suitation arises whereby with the male locked, does she not get as much pleasure either, or it it strictly the feeling of control over anothers pleasure that is the driving force?

Kynetic..........;-)



LadyPact -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 10:41:22 AM)

Taken directly from the FAQ that is listed for this section:

Common Kinks/Fantasies

Q: Are there any (how many) dominant women into [insert your favorite kink here]?

A: While there is no way to answer the question of how many dominant women enjoy a particular activity, we can assure you that if you like it, chances are there’s a dominant woman somewhere in the world who likes it too. However, it’s beyond our ability to guarantee you’ll find one here. What we can guarantee is that, if you post a thread asking how many dominant women like your choice in kinks, many of us will be quick to assume you’re looking for semi-pornographic material to fuel your masturbatory fantasies (i.e. “wank fodder”) and shoot you down in record time.


ETA - You may be very interested in some of the threads that can be found by using the search feature.  There is a great deal of information that has been written on the subject on these boards.



Kynetic -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 10:58:15 AM)

Ahh yes the wank fodder issue...was hoping this wouldn't happen.

Ok, so I know my question probably starts out with the usual "gasp penis in hand and wait for replies" approach, but this is not at all what I am looking for!

I would like to hear from a female's perspective on her thoughs and opinions on male chastity, only!
I'm not looking for sordid details, just what you think about it in general.

I was hoping to get a discussion going and hear some points of view, not spray my screen!!!!
In conclusion: This post is not wank fodder!

[:)][:)]



AAkasha -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 10:58:42 AM)



I find male chastity very appealing, and pretty effective. But there are so many variations - locked or unlocked? Days, or weeks, or months? Depending on what it is I want to get out of it, it can take a few directions. Some random thoughts:

* I get excited by knowing a man is desperate and vulnerable
Taking control of a man's ability to orgasm means he's highly distracted and eventually feeling physical discomfort - a constant reminder. This is a control thing, and control is hot. Desperation is hotter.

* Chastity isn't chastity (IMHO) without TEASING and DENIAL
I am not a big fan of "lock up and forget" - which is what a lot of women do because their male partner begs them to try chastity. Chastity does not mean "free ticket to ignore a man's sexuality." It also makes the man irritable and leads to sulking. If I am going to lock up my slave's cock and call it my property, I am going to back that up with enough teasing and denial to make him feel uncomfortable about it. He is going to FEEL denied, because that's the point. I am going to turn it into an act of sadism.

* You say that chastity for the man is also denial for the woman - Well, not really! (hah)
A man can still use his hands, tongue (!) and other methods to bring me to orgasm. Or I can orgasm all on my own - while making him watch, locked up an unable to do anything. That said, there IS something to be said for making love, which is an act I do miss if it's unavailable to me, and a reason while long term locked chastity isn't my top choice for my relationship with my primary, but it's something I enjoy with secondary partners.

The bottom line -- is chastity enjoyable for a femdom? If she likes teasing and denial, likes that kind of control, sure. But like many kinds of BDSM acts, a woman is probably not going to like it if the sub sees her as a mere facilitator to his kink, (ie, "I am looking for a woman to be my keyholder! I don't care who!"), or if a man becomes incredibly NEEDY as a result of his chastity (that's a topic for a whole different post). When used appropriately, locked chastity can be mindblowing.

Akasha



LadyPact -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 11:03:26 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kynetic

Ahh yes the wank fodder issue...was hoping this wouldn't happen.

Ok, so I know my question probably starts out with the usual "gasp penis in hand and wait for replies" approach, but this is not at all what I am looking for!

I would like to hear from a female's perspective on her thoughs and opinions on male chastity, only!
I'm not looking for sordid details, just what you think about it in general.

I was hoping to get a discussion going and hear some points of view, not spray my screen!!!!
In conclusion: This post is not wank fodder!

[:)][:)]


If you're female and can spray your own screen from discussing this topic, that's a pretty good trick.  I actually can't make Myself squirt, because I can't get the proper angle.  Might be able to do it if I put the laptop on the floor, but I don't think I could do it using the desktop.  [8D]



OralCuckGurl -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 11:15:24 AM)

Strangely...I would not mind being kept in chastity (so long as I were allowed to masturbate...since even doing housework for my domme would be sexually arousing to me). I like the notion of being kept in a chastity device too as it gives me that warm secure feeling of being "kept." I could never have said this when I was a much younger man.



Kynetic -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (1/11/2011 11:39:20 AM)

@ LadyPact:
LOL! I think thats a whole other dicsussion indeed and one which would undoubtly fall under the heading of wank fodder!
In answer to your question, I'm male. And as I'm no doubt sure, we have no trouble at all spraying computer screens!

@AAkasha:
Thanks for the reply!

The control dynamic is one which I think works both ways, you have as you discuss the female (dominant) partner relishing the power and control she has over her sub's orgasms. But you also have the flipside, the loss of control over cumming for the male. A lot of men, myself included, find this a huge turn on. And its here which I think chastity works on an intense level.

The tease and denial aspect is very important in my opinion, from the perspective of someone who loves chastity I wouldn't want to be locked and ignored. I mean where's the pleasure in that, domme or sub! Besides that probably the most fun part, being teased and tormented, in a good way of course, and loving every minute of it.

I was more asking a question than making a statement with the last part of my post, I realise that there are plent of other great ways a male can please his domme/partner than through intercourse. I was wondering do those that practice chastity find this area a turn on or off and how they work around it?

You are so right in your last part, I myself don't undersstand that whole using someone for just one particular kink. Why would anyone want to just use someone for one aspect when finding someone who is sincerly into BDSM and not just a flake is so difficult.



bobi17257 -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 9:59:28 AM)

Kynetic- I am a firm believer in total male chastity for myself. The more I am in chastity, the more feminine I feel and the more feminine I want to become. Wanking is the life of the typical male. I want to live as a woman, think like a woman, feel feminine, and serve a Dominant Woman. Being in chastity keeps my thoughts focused on continued feminization. Just my thoughts a feelings.

Bo bi



BonesFromAsh -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 10:11:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bobi17257

Kynetic- I am a firm believer in total male chastity for myself. The more I am in chastity, the more feminine I feel and the more feminine I want to become. Wanking is the life of the typical male. I want to live as a woman, think like a woman, feel feminine, and serve a Dominant Woman. Being in chastity keeps my thoughts focused on continued feminization. Just my thoughts a feelings.

Bo bi


The bolded portion above has me wondering if you think women...dominant or otherwise...don't "wank". Kind of sounds like the old "good girls don't do that" sort of mindset.

*Crap...necro-thread!!!! Oh well, my comment stands.



RedMagic1 -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 10:27:31 AM)

Aakasha's post is almost word for word why I find control of a fem sub's orgasms attractive.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 11:56:43 AM)

I like male chastity, though I agree if you are going to put a normally healthy male in a device, you can't forget about him for too long. I don't care how sub he is, he'll get cranky quick ! The whole point is to use it as a *torture* device.

Speaking of torture, there are plastic sheaths that are meant to cover the male chastity device so the female can get her own enjoyment while the male is still in chastity. They are typically made for the specific device the male is using.







MsHoney2you -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 1:50:41 PM)

My history and male chastity taught me a lot about the psychology and whether or not it was a healthy thing to do.

I placed a young man in chastity, not telling him for how long.  For the next week I received every direction given to him in a prompt and exact manner.  The next week I took the device off, no reason given other than it was not because he had done anything wrong.  I could not get him to call me when he was supposed to, nada.

What I learned is you can 'own' a man using such a device, 'getting him completely' simply by locking him up.  When I recognized this was happening is when I unlocked him because I did not want to own someone by way of his genitals, I want him to want to be with me, do for me and by my submissive on his own free will.  In my opinion I would be doing him more damage by keeping him locked than by releasing him. 

YMMV,
Ms Honey



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 1:53:42 PM)

Oh, MsHoney, I could not agree with you more. Male chastity, for me at least, is for well established relationships. Submitting b/c you are locked is not really submitting; however, chastity as an enhancement to the already existing submission, I like.



bobi17257 -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (4/30/2011 7:06:27 PM)

Obviously women "wank"; masturbation can/is helpful for all, but men many men wank at the site of "two dogs" going at it. I feel that there should be some emotional connection in the action. I feel that women have this.

Bobi[:)]



sunshinemiss -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (5/1/2011 6:28:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kynetic
I would like to hear from a female's perspective on her thoughs and opinions on male chastity, only!


The topic comes up on occasion.




poise -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (5/1/2011 6:48:08 AM)



quote:

ORIGINAL: Kynetic
I would like to hear from a female's perspective on her thoughs and opinions on male chastity, only!


I cringe at the thought of Him in chastity.



BonesFromAsh -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (5/1/2011 7:51:16 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: bobi17257

Obviously women "wank"; masturbation can/is helpful for all, but men many men wank at the site of "two dogs" going at it. I feel that there should be some emotional connection in the action. I feel that women have this.

Bobi[:)]



Except when they don't.



LadyNTrainer -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (5/1/2011 9:53:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kynetic
Its an odd one to try to weigh up, one the one hand you have a guy who likes being kept locked, but gets very little (if any) orgasms which is in itself a paradox. But by comparasion from the girl's point of view a similar suitation arises whereby with the male locked, does she not get as much pleasure either, or it it strictly the feeling of control over anothers pleasure that is the driving force?


I sincerely hope there are no girls on this board. Underage minors are not allowed here, and I suggest not talking about adult women as if we were children.  "Girl" is not an equivalent term to "guy", as it is a belittling or condescending term appropriate for a child, whereas "guy" is what you would call an adult male.  Use that term on the femdom board and you are asking for trouble. 

I do control their orgasms but we don't call it chastity in my house, it's just their being ready and eager to serve me sexually when I want it.  I have no interest in punishing myself or denying myself the use of my property.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (5/1/2011 12:36:34 PM)

~FR~
 
My thought process runs something like this:
 
I own him = his orgasms are mine = he only gets to have them when I'm in a position to enjoy them. 
 
I enjoy tease/denial and chastity in general.  However, I'm not overly fond of devices.  I prefer to use the honor system because of the mind fuck aspect. 



HannahLynHeather -> RE: What are your thoughts on male chastity? (5/1/2011 1:04:30 PM)

its a waste of a good cock.

hannah lynn



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