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looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 3:04:22 PM   
searchingmaster9


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Status: offline 		this is to all dom masters and mistress's ,  i am a dom  but my experience is lacking ,  i have had a couple i know come to me not long ago asking me to be there dom master and i said yes but asked them to give me time to have a good set up made and make there first time very enjoyable as my subs

what i would like is for any and all advice from all masters and mitress's  with single or pairs of bi subs , for set ups,  play ideas, punishments and such

i am a switch myself so should you wish to teach first hand this is alright by me but i can only travel to ottawa and montreal at the time being so you must be from these areas , any advice in person or messaged to me would be a great help and much appriciated 


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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 3:59:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would say, dominate then, do dominant things, make them do submissive things. Feed their desires and feed off of their fears. I hope this helps

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 4:00:43 PM   
searchingmaster9


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Status: offline 		i see what your saying and thats the part i know well , its just where to start , like i dont want to go to far with them to fast and scare them off 

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 4:09:52 PM   
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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 4:11:04 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		The people you need to work with is them, not us.

What kind of service do you envision? Domestic, sexual, bondage....?

Ask what they expect and make sure it's something you can and want to provide.

Once you know that, it'll be easy to start them off slow. I expect that they have no experience whatsoever, so negotiating beforehand will not be as important as feedback when you're in control.

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 4:12:27 PM   
searchingmaster9


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Status: offline 		thats another issue , they just said intrested in bondage no clear starting point or intrest  so thats why not sure what to start them on that wont scare them off 

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 4:22:37 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Okay, we're starting to get somewhere.

1. What's your experience with bondage?
2. What would you like to teach them?

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 5:10:26 PM   
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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 8:53:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ask them about what they are dreaming of. Ask them about what they have tried. Ask them what they want to do and what they don't. 

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/13/2011 9:50:28 PM   
salemartist


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Status: offline 		fetlife.com is free to sign up and has an extensive fetish list that you can check off what you like and dislike, and if your curious about it or active. you could sign them up and have them pick some fetishes that they liked and disliked. might give you some insite as to there general wants and intrests. or for that matter you could sit with them and talk about things together before you do any D/s play.

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/14/2011 5:43:43 PM   
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quote:

i have had a couple i know come to me not long ago asking me to be there dom master and i said yes but asked them to give me time to have a good set up made and make there first time very enjoyable as my subs


It happens to em all the time!!! NOT!!

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/23/2011 1:45:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Buzzzz

quote:

i have had a couple i know come to me not long ago asking me to be there dom master and i said yes but asked them to give me time to have a good set up made and make there first time very enjoyable as my subs


It happens to em all the time!!! NOT!!



Do you know something he is leaving out? The other side of the coin is a welcome challenge.

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/23/2011 2:20:00 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: Buzzzz
It happens to em all the time!!! NOT!!

Happens to Me fairly often.  I can't speak for anybody else.


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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/23/2011 8:23:47 PM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: searchingmaster9

this is to all dom masters and mistress's ,  i am a dom  but my experience is lacking ,  i have had a couple i know come to me not long ago asking me to be there dom master and i said yes but asked them to give me time to have a good set up made and make there first time very enjoyable as my subs

what i would like is for any and all advice from all masters and mitress's  with single or pairs of bi subs , for set ups,  play ideas, punishments and such

i am a switch myself so should you wish to teach first hand this is alright by me but i can only travel to ottawa and montreal at the time being so you must be from these areas , any advice in person or messaged to me would be a great help and much appriciated 


It's likely just me but everything about this post is...... surreal.

1. Two subs come to an inexperienced dom (switch) and ask him to be their master. Okaaaaaay, probably happens all the time in your town....

2. Said master says yep, despite lacking previous experience and basic facilities/equipment/knowhow.

3. Now you're here asking for advice because you don't have the foggiest what you'd even wanna do with *two* willing submissives. So you're also lacking the basic need.

4. But as a switch, you ARE willing to be dominated first hand as a "teaching" experience? (hmmmmm)

Anyway, life happens this way?

To me, people start with an itch *first*, then seek out ways to scratch or get it scratched.... Seems to me the only itch you have is point 4. And assuming these subs even exist, all you're really gonna achieve is to jerk them around.

And there it is; not something I'd wanna help with....

Focus.

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RE: looking for advice and learning teachers - 1/25/2011 1:18:21 PM   
XenoMaster


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Status: offline 		Okay, so you know they want a bondage session.  What gear do you have?  Do you know how to tie someone up securely and safely?  Do they want to be tied together?  Do they want sex in this?

Learn what they want and then learn what you need to know to make it happen.

If they are not sure what they want learn some basic rope skills and then try those on them in a casual environment.  If they want more, go from there.

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