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Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 12:36:04 AM   
kemen


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Status: offline 		This boy would like to perform a sensual dance or striptease for a Domme audience, but there is very little advice/reference material for how males should to such a dance; Do any of You have any advice, be it general or a specific list of "Do"s and "Don't"s?

Thank You very much.

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 3:55:13 AM   
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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 10:24:12 AM   
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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 11:03:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		It all should come for the inside. Just make sure your mindset is powerful.

Choose some music that you like. If you like it, you'll feel at ease and your movements will flow easily.
Make sure you're comfortable. This ensures you won't feel clumsy and slow.
Feel sexy. It'll make you smile throughout the whole thing.

It's more about attitude. Make them feel like it's another dimension. From the moment you start, you have to be captivating. Bow, don't forget to bow. Just focus, ensure them a great act, and it'll be done.

Really, it's about taking them out of the normal world, and showing them into a world offered by you, just for them, in which everything is softer, gentler.

EDIT: oh and make sure they have something to drink and that they are comfortable.

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 11:14:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Practice and use a mirror. Only by being confident in how you move and how you look, will you get the desired effect you want. Unless you are a natural.

I see dancing as a personal thing I do for many reasons, but also I see the power in it, in how I can go into a crowd of people and effect the change I want. To know that someone is watching or many someone's are watching, you can pretty much move them to any place you want to move them to. Thus I will dance for a submissive. Drive him nuts with hunger... god, I love that look, especially if he is tied up and can do nothing or we are in public and he has to sit and get uncomfortable and watch as other men watch me. hehe... just delicious!

Dancing for a dominant, I would think there is still a bit of power in that dance because you are pleasing them by what you are doing and creating a feeling. I can't see dancing as a submissive thing because I see the power dynamic of it. I know people do it, I just can't see it myself. lol

Watch music video's or dancers... see something you like and think you can do or carry off and try it. Explore with different things. Don't forget to stretch and warm up before and slow it down so that you aren't going to an extreme really fast because you can injure yourself if you don't warm up and sometimes if you just stop, you can cramp up. Find music that moves you... makes you want to get up and dance... let it flow through you. Trying to be sexy doesn't work... you have to feel it.


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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 12:28:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think there is no right and wrong here and I would agree its about attitude. If that s what she like, why not give it a try? I knew one Domme that just love to throw rings on her subs that had butt plugs that stuck out. So she could throw the rings while the subs would jump around. I did not understand how she really dug this but hey, that is what she was into and it made her happy.

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 1:36:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know if this is what you had in mind but my former Mistress took me to a strip joint and basically had me take notes before later making me perform on a stripper bar before Her and Her friends. I was still pretty bad but I picked up a few pointers. Fun stuff!

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/14/2011 5:53:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Lockit, loved your post and all so true. I love to dance so I could picture where you were coming from and it was a nice picture, lol. I also used to frequent strip clubs for pointers, good place to go for it if you want to learn to dance sensual, but make sure it's an upscale one where they really know how to dance. Now to find a dom that would dance for me.......love watching a man dance. LOL

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/16/2011 5:37:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		 Wear a mask.. full mask, large eye spaces.
you will get that exotic mystery, and hide the inevitable beginner's goofy grin or grimace.
I'm sure your smoldering sexy looks will kick in after a few standing ovations.. and hand prints on your ass in appreciation!

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/20/2011 11:07:41 PM   
kemen


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for Your advice. This boy does not currently have a Mistress, dancing is just a skill this one would like to have, so the current audience is simply a webcam.

Do any of You have advice regarding the garments at the beginning and end of the dance? should the dancer strip nude entirely or just down to the last layer?

Would the last layer be better as a thong, or, say, a pair of Lycra boxer-briefs? if the dancer strips completely, should the last garment be removed while the song is still playing or as an accent to the last note played?

Also, do any of You have a preference for the garb as the dance begins? formal clothes or casual? loose or something a little more form-fitting? more articles of clothing or less?

Finally, this boy normally wears glasses, which can inhibit him when removing a shirt over his head, and making it unwise to move his head quickly; would contacts be better, or do you feel these things are not important?

Of course these are all subject to the tastes of the One viewing the dance, but this boy would still like to hear as many personal opinions as possible, just to get a general idea.

Fellow boys, if you have any experience or advice in this area, please feel free to chime in as well.

Thank You very much for Your time and indulgence.

--k.

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/21/2011 1:16:21 AM   
ThePeripatetic


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Status: offline 		My advice would be to not overthink it to much. Unless this boy is really into this kind of thing chances are he'll be pretty nervous to perform. In that case I think the best option is to go for something as natural and comfortable as possible. If he likes to wear femme panties then he should wear panties. If that's completely new for him then maybe he should just wear boxers.

As far as what to wear to start, again, something that's not too out of the norm might be best while he's still getting comfortable dancing. I would suggest though that he go for something on the more formal side. My Mistress loved when I would do a little strip-tease wearing a nice dress shirt, tie, sport coat. Looks nice before the dance and provides plenty of things to strip off ( master a good technique with the neck tie, death knell of many a male dancer!). Anyway, not a full blown suit but definitely more dressy than jeans and a t-shirt.

And for the logistics of timing things according to the music, I would repeat that it might be best to not overthink. As he becomes more proficient as a dancer then yeah, he can figure out some choreography to match various songs. But until that point the emphasis should be on having fun and trying to dance naturally. Regardless of what a dancer is wearing or what steps have been practiced theres nothing seductive and sexy about a jittery, unconfident stripper. Just have some fun and the rest will come!

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/21/2011 2:15:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kemen

.....which can inhibit him when removing a shirt over his head, and making it unwise to move his head quickly;......

--k.


I had a quick thought come to mind: a button down shirt. Unbuttoning it slowly is very sexy!

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/21/2011 10:19:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		My garb preferences would be something medieval/Ren Faire/SCA or otherwise historical in flavor.   In fact if you have anything like that, I'll take a show; catch up with me on the other side.  Mundane subs are a dime a dozen, but push my fetish buttons with Renaissance garb and you've got my interest right there.  

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/22/2011 2:08:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Google 'boylesque'.


this boy did so, Miss VaguelyCurious, but is not finding anything good; mostly joke performances, amateur performances, and the like. Do You have a specific link that You can recommend?

Thank You,

--k

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/22/2011 2:20:37 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kemen

This boy would like to perform a sensual dance or striptease for a Domme audience, but there is very little advice/reference material for how males should to such a dance; Do any of You have any advice, be it general or a specific list of "Do"s and "Don't"s?

Thank You very much.

Respectfully,

--kemen


Music isn't a beat, that is what it needs. Music is water, it ebbs and flows and when you feel the music flowing through you, inspiring your body to move with the surreal energetic flow, you become apart of the music. You could watch vids and try to emulate the movements of the dancers, you could borrow from any number of styles and techniques, however until you feel the river of music pouring through your body, washing over you and guiding your movements, you won't achieve the sensuality that you are searching for.


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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/24/2011 9:26:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
Music isn't a beat, that is what it needs. Music is water, it ebbs and flows and when you feel the music flowing through you, inspiring your body to move with the surreal energetic flow, you become apart of the music. You could watch vids and try to emulate the movements of the dancers, you could borrow from any number of styles and techniques, however until you feel the river of music pouring through your body, washing over you and guiding your movements, you won't achieve the sensuality that you are searching for.


Thank You for the response, Sir, but this boy was looking for some more practical advice. Dancing by itself is not a problem, but a striptease involves the mechanics of taking off clothes while in rhythm, and this one can barely get pants over his feet without triipping in a normal setting.

Also, the crux of this question really comes down to the disconnect between what Dominant women like, visually, from a male slave versus what males think they want; to simplify the discussion, this boy is framing it with a narrow, yet specific scope.

< Message edited by kemen -- 1/24/2011 9:27:12 PM >

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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/24/2011 11:19:04 PM   
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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/25/2011 4:22:16 AM   
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Remember that technique and imagination will be far more important and what you wear or don't wear.



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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/25/2011 4:24:02 AM   
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RE: Dancing for a Domme - Advice? - 1/25/2011 8:21:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

three words: The Full Monty


*Blush*

this boy has actually heard conflicting opinions on this; should a boy stripping for a Domme strip to completely nude? or should he stop at his underwear?

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