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Ideas for remote domination - 1/14/2011 9:48:57 AM   
blinktoomuch


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Hi all,

My boyfriend and I live some distance apart, so a large part of our sexual relationship is "cam-sex" for want of a better word. Wer're both very kinky, and I'm strictly the submissive party. Obviously being submissive 'remotely' is nowhere near as much fun as face-to-face, (or whatever to face ;), but we still have quite a lot of fun; trouble is that we have quite a limited set of things that we do together, so I'm here looking for new ideas

Some of the things we do already are:

  • Strict orgasm control
  • Self-bondage on my part: legs to chair, balls to neck, combinations therof.
  • Butt plug
  • Ball gag
  • Clothing: I have various rubber shorts that I've reinforced with steel cable and are lockable with padlocks, and tight briefs that we often use
  • I sleep wearing my collar

suggestions for new toys to purchase that would also help spice things up are more than welcome
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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/14/2011 12:09:12 PM   
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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/14/2011 12:44:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why not have him give you nonsexual assignments, such as researching topics for him?

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/14/2011 1:20:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		. . . and I thought this was gonna' be about dominating the remote control.

On topic, you can always just go through one of the Mistress Abernathy's training manuals (see book link in sig) and make a list of things from that.

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/14/2011 2:12:49 PM   
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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 12:32:54 AM   
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Remote Domination?!!  That's easy... just lock up the TV Remote when you're not there -- oh, but don't forget to first put the Remote "Under Consideration" before said "Domination" takes place.
 
 

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 6:22:28 AM   
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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 8:02:37 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: blinktoomuch

Some of the things we do already are:

  • Self-bondage on my part: legs to chair, balls to neck, combinations therof.


May I just ask about the part I have bolded - do you mean your neck as in the bit that is above your shoulders?  My brain is boggled trying to work out how you do that.

Welcome to the message boards by the way

eta hmmmmm thinking about it a bit more, I was imagining you hunched over so that your balls were right next to your neck somehow but I guess that doesn't have to be the case..... don't mind me, carry on

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 9:14:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		wanders - he ties a string to his balls and runs a length of it around his neck.  He will definitely feel any neck movement.

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 9:19:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: blinktoomuch

@Greedy:  Why the twitching?? 

The broomstick is stuck in her ass?


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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 9:20:37 AM   
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and to think this used to be done by mail




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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 9:21:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		You might want to check out Mortice Deadlock's stories, particularly A to B. He has a wonderfully wicked imagination and may give you some ideas.

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 10:22:41 AM   
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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 10:40:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, it was a fun read, for sure! Not so much good for practical ideas though. 

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 12:52:58 PM   
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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/15/2011 6:22:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		No, well, we have fun; it's more that there must be fun stuff that we could do, but don't because neither of os has thought it up!

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/21/2011 4:52:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like to get a schedule of what their day or week is like so I know what they are doing. If something changes they are to report and ask for permission.
Anything out of the norm they are to report and ask, such as people they hang out or places they go to.

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/21/2011 10:48:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: blinktoomuch

No, well, we have fun; it's more that there must be fun stuff that we could do, but don't because neither of os has thought it up!


So what part of what you do, exactly, is domination?  I sort of missed that part.  Or are you calling things he tells you to do to yourself, "domination"?

Perhaps he could inspire you to want to make him proud.  How about volunteering at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter, and making someone else's life just a little bit easier. 

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/21/2011 11:00:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

ORIGINAL: blinktoomuch

@Greedy:  Why the twitching?? 

The broomstick is stuck in her ass?



smartass..

it wasnt a broomstick ;)

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RE: Ideas for remote domination - 1/21/2011 11:15:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		long distance phone games might be fun as it frees up your other hand to masterbate or wank as you brits call it.. sometimes can be hotter then cam2cam...
because your able to relax and not feel so much of the cam exposure.. where your poseing or acting a role.

candle waxplay and ice play is very fun with phone too.. if you enjoy those elements of hot and cold..

Maybe some bedtime storys over the phone..

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