RE: Mood Swings and D/s

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MHOO314 -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 6:34:36 AM)
This is almost a hard limit for Me---I am pretty balanced, no major if even minor mood swings--I may get irritated when things aren't done on the chore list, but I pride Myself on remaining positive and upbeat--I can deal with one who has occasional mood swings---but the day to day, moment to moment I cannot and quite frankly don't want to deal with--My mother was that way---bottle always half empty---when the sky was grey and not sunny, she fell into depression---I find I don't want to deal with that, at My stage of life, I cannot and don't have the wherewithall to deal with someone who's mood swings prevent them from being a functioning human being on a regular basis----for it becomes all them and none Me--and dammit at this time of My life, I want to laugh, love, have fun and put My energies into the horses and living life, not having to read someones cues that we are in a downward spiral and have to tread softly.

WyrdRich -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 6:37:12 AM)
No play when it's an angry day. Though I have really noticed that since coming to the lifestyle I don't have nearly as many days when the rage makes me dangerous and evil.

RiotGirl -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 7:01:11 AM)
quote: I do what I can to ease his mood. He straightens me out and refocuses me so that I am calm and happy again. same pretty much. Though depending on what i can do or not do (generally when there isnt anything i can do) i tend to just give him space and leave him alone. He tends to work his own moods out. Plus generally his mood either goes to picking at everything or down right cranky. When he picks at everything, i try to friendly remind him that its not all that serious. Course there isnt much of a point - cos he'll pick anyways - then i get cranky and he manages to get into a good mood while i'm cranky. When he's down right cranky is generally good time to give him space. Heh

SweetEscravo -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 9:09:09 AM)
I get mood swings A LOT- especially when I haven't gotten much sleep. Dependning on the situation, he'll do a variety of things. When he becomes angry as well, I usually snap out of it- I can't stand him being upset with me. If I'm in a bad mood because I need sleep, he will tell me to take a nap or go to bed. I've been told to go to my room, put in a corner, if it is something really serious, he and I will talk about it, as long as I am not snippy. Most everytime there is a spanking involved. Nothing brings me back to my center like that.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 9:14:10 AM)
Oh hell, if he is angry at me??? Grovel City, USA - big time. I hate hate hate if he is angry at me, and will do all I can immediately to remedy it.

truesub4u -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 9:17:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie Oh hell, if he is angry at me??? Grovel City, USA - big time. I hate hate hate if he is angry at me, and will do all I can immediately to remedy it. Now if he was angered AT me.. I would do the same.. trying to figure out where I fucked up... but to just be in a mood.. pist with the world.. don't take it out on me... take it elsewhere.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 9:21:20 AM)
~ Slaps a "This station is closed - Next window please" sign on True. Personally, I would LOVE if he came to me for his bad moods. One more opportunity to please him. If he went elsewhere, I would feel like I was denied the opportunity to make him feel good.

truesub4u -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 9:26:23 AM)
Smiles... thank you OWNED... now go hobble on to work now like a good girl.... and try to not bring any moods back home with you... [;)]

puella -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/2/2006 1:35:06 PM)
Cry, mostly. hehe

Submotive -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/4/2006 8:41:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genvieve Ok...here's a question i haven't seen asked yet. How do you, the submissive deal when the Dominant has mood swings? How do you, the Dominant deal, when the submissive has mood swings? Coz, let's face it... W/we all have em. When Master has moods, He has moods - that's all there is to it. If He wants to talk then i can be there, if He needs to brood, then i need to wait until He wants me and needs me. Sometimes people just have to work things out alone, othertimes they want feedback/input. i am allowed to have mood swings, but am learning the difference between a physiological swing and when i'm just trying to cover up my fear, insecurity, or vulnerability. Master accepts me for who i am, but does not accept my armour because it's not honest. So when my mood changes because i'm attempting to hide what i really feel from myself and Him, that's when W/we go round and round; and hate to admit it, but He's usually right. LOL

MistressTigger19 -> RE: Mood Swings and D/s (5/4/2006 9:02:01 AM)
Bear with me as I am new to posting in forums. I have two distinct views on the question. I occassionally do suffer mood swings and mine are mostly situational. I have always taught my submissives and house boys that I will communicate with them if I am having a bad day and the best thing they can do if they wish to help me is to keep my coffee cup filled and leave me be. Nothing makes me worse than being asked "are you ok" or "are you mad at me" every ten minutes. However, a situation I'm facing at the moment is at the other end of the spectrum. One of my live in slaves suffers from biopolar disorder with aggrevated rage disorder. Over the last 4 months his mood swings increased in intensity until last week when he took a swing and put a hole through my wall. As a dominant we are not only responsible for our own actions, for making sure that our submissives are not treated poorly when we have a mood swing, but we are responsible for them as well - to a point. Even if that help has to come in the form of commitment to a short term stay facility. My best suggestion to any submissive who is trying to learn to deal with their dominant's mood swings is first be absolutely sure that you are not taking any emotional trauma from his/her moodswings. (will just use him - its easier) Sit down (NOT when Master Dear is pissed at the world but when he's calm, happy and relaxed) and share your feelings with him - ask "When you are stressed or angry, I feel helpless. What can I do as your ______ to help you?" then WHATEVER the response - listen. It can be aggrevating to tell a submissive "I need some time to myself" and then have them return every 10 minutes to "check on you". Hope this helps. -------------------------- "you have to excuse her. She bounces off the walls on a regular basis. Actually Tiggers are known to bounce people. Hard sometimes. Oh - the rope. Well, she likes people to be tied up before she bounces them."

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