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LadyNTrainer -> RE: question (1/18/2011 11:12:01 AM)
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Couple of different questions here. First off, a dominant who did not allow their submissive normal, healthy social contact is much more likely to be an abuser. I'd think seriously about the health of this situation.
Second, if you're bisexual, there's a reasonable chance that your dominant will think that this is *hot* and appreciate it, or at least be cool with it even if she does want you to be monogamous. If you are dishonest about it, there is zero chance she will think that's hot, and a breach of trust like that is likely to be the death of a relationship.
If what you're saying is that you feel the need for being in a romantic/sexual/kinky relationship with more than one person at a time, that's called poly. With honesty and trust and clear communication and negotiation, it works great. My primary partner is pansexual and I'm quite delighted with that. I have a secondary who is monosexual, and it's fun to (safely) share hot bi bois and t-girls with my primary in various D/s configurations. He could have a boyfriend if he wanted one and if his boyfriend respected our primary D/s relationship. I would set the limits and oversee health and safety issues (eg, the boyfriend would need to get tested and be willing to be part of a semi-closed system).
The one thing I will not tolerate is dishonesty, having critical information held back from me, especially if it pertains to your safe sex status and my health. Almost no one will. Instant deal breaker, relationship over. If your sexual behavior puts me at increased risk and you don't tell me, you might as well have put a gun to my head and engaged me in a nonconsensual game of Russian roulette. Major, major trust breach, and grounds for instant DTMFA. Don't do this.
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