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pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 6:00:39 AM   
whitecherry


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Status: offline 		i want to squirt but have a bad mental block on it iam freaked out that iam goin to pee. and the feeling is to much so i freak and squarm and fight
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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 6:05:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why are you so worried about squirting?    If he can take squirting, he ought to be able to take a little pee.
I doubt you'll be able to squirt, if you're not enjoying yourself simply, and worrying about proving some man's prowess by squirting.   Are you having fun?
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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 6:16:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not every woman can squirt, what's the big deal about it? If you can great, if you can't also great... Sounds like squirting is more important to you than enjoying sex and your orgasm...

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 6:27:16 AM   
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You asked the same exact question 2 years ago on here. If you haven't figured it out yet, I would probably move on to something new.


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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 6:27:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		women have a little sphincter dealio so that you cannot come and pee at the same time.

you are young, get the fuck over it, lay down a bunch of towels and tell the guy you think you are gonna pee if you squirt, I have no doubt he will be comfortable with that, since you are gonna be sleeping in the wet spot anyhow.

All the girls that I have seen squirt, I have never ever ever seen one pee at the same time, ever, you can quote me.  And you can't neither, kid, you ain't that special. 





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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 7:58:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		im not sure how you can control that.  sometimes i do, sometimes i dont, but it certainly isnt anything i can control or stop for that matter, its just part of having an O.

i think youre talking about gushing and the same goes to be honest, it happens, occasionally and i never know when its going to happen or if its going to happen, it either does or it doesnt.

if youre then not having an orgasm for fear that you might gush then you should talk to the guy youre with and explain youre concern and prepare him for it if it happens.

my experience of such things is that the guy usually thinks its great - if the guy thinks its great and im there to make him feel great then i really dont see an issue with it.

gush away and be damned, whats the worst that can happen

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 8:08:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		okay, some tips that helped me
(like it or not, anxiety over being "dirty" is pretty big with a lot of women; it's often to do with the way we're raised. if you can't relate to that, being snarky isn't necessary/helpful. i'd rather be nice and assume this is a person who really wants help, than assume it's a troll.)

if you are consuming enough water, any urine that DOES get into it won't be terribly offensive. but the number one thing you can do is go to the bathroom first. when you know for sure that your bladder is empty, you know that anything else is not urine. while men have a structure that prevents peeing and ejaculating at the same time, women don't, as far as anyone knows scientifically (granted, there is not a lot of science dedicated to this at the moment).
also, try doing it on your own first. if you can reach your own g-spot (depending on your physiology, you may not be able to, though) you can try stroking it, or you can use a vibrator -- vibrators generally work best for me because i don't have to think about it.
the first time i ever seriously squirted was with a friend i trusted and a hitachi magic wand. =p some people are squicked out by body fluids, but i had to know for sure, so i smelled it. =p it didn't smell like urine and was totally clear.

sometimes anxiety over peeing on someone gets in the way of enjoying the moment. everyone has probably had something that created a mental block that prevented them from enjoying something. being afraid of peeing has kept me from having orgasms, or caused me to stop everything and go sit in the bathroom thinking i would pee, only to find the sensation subsiding until later. =p getting over a hurdle like this actually IS important.

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 8:24:16 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

while men have a structure that prevents peeing and ejaculating at the same time, women don't, as far as anyone knows scientifically (granted, there is not a lot of science dedicated to this at the moment).



I'm glad you said this Lilly because mnottertail gave the impression that it couldn't happen.
The liquid you squirt comes from a gland situated to the side of the urethra and the liquid itself comes out of the urethra, so the urethra has to open and this is why we often get that peeing feeling when we squirt.
Many women squirt and pee a little at the same time and so its nothing to worry about. The women who aren't afraid of a little water sports are happier squirters than women who are embarrassed or irked out by the thought of pee.

Lay back, relax and let the waters come forth

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 8:52:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am still going to give that impression.

http://mama.indstate.edu/users/nizrael/grafenberg.html
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/female_ejaculation.htm


The swelling that occurs 'upstream' of the actual gland in the canal, coupled with the waves of muscular contractions is what causes the pressure allowing a squirt, which is in effect not unlike male prostate situation.  By and large closing off the chance to pee.

If this does not happen (the swelling combined with intense muscular contractions) then you won't squirt, but just dribble...which is the common cum.

Now; I know yadda yadda yadda.....

If your area musculature is either aged, or you are incontinent for other reasons......yeah, there is some shot at it.

Just like as men age their come goes from sticking flies to the ceiling to dribbling off the end of the fuckstick as they age due to less buffed musculature......

And yes, bottom line is you can pee, if you really want to, but you gotta wanna and it is hard, same as a man trying to pee with a hard-on....

http://www.very-koi.net/tutor/female/female.htm

One thing that helps is if you kinda do kegels as you start to get into the heading for the rhubarb thingie.

Of course kegels and whatnot overall will help you really shoot that shit across the room.



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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 8:57:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have squirted a couple of times but honestly it was no big deal apart from the mess. Why the heck are people so obsessed with trying to get this to happen? It is like they assume it is a bigger orgasm, more intense, HUGE.. ehh. It was just an orgasm. It didn't seem in any way elevated to me and I did not like the mess


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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 9:40:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		You could try peeing yourself to get over that hangup .... then it just wont matter.

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 9:45:41 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		mnottertail, I could open a hundred links on female ejaculation and just about every one of them are going to tell me something different.
Like I have already said, a womans ejaculate is expelled from the urethra, the same place where urine comes out from. The juice is released from the Skene's glands, or (urethral sponge) but if a woman doesn't have complete control over her PC muscle, there is a chance that she may actually pee all over you. That doesn't mean she hasn't ejaculated but she's peed and ejaculated at the same time. This is proof that a woman can pee and ejaculate at the same time and it has absolutely nothing to do with having a weak bladder and being incontinent but all to do with experience. Eventually she will learn the difference between the sensations.

Women become so inhibited about female ejaculation because there is so much misinformation out there.




< Message edited by allthatjaz -- 1/20/2011 9:53:48 AM >

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 9:47:35 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: coookie

You could try peeing yourself to get over that hangup .... then it just wont matter.


Best advice so far.


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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 9:48:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		personally, I dont give a ats ass what comes out.. if I am squirting, I am having one HELL of an orgasm.. :) I'll worry about the clean up later..

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 9:49:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		According to your profile, you're into vampire blood-letting and feeding, fighting with hatchets, needle play, receiving speculums and medical exams, pussy fisting, being cummed on, and cunnilingus during menstuation. A little pee bothers you???

And what the hell are juggalos and juggalettes???

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 9:57:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Jaz.............long way around the barn, I said exactly that.

Do you know that everyone who eats anything with a fork is liable to stab themselves in the tonsils and bleed to death?

I don't think that the first advice should be don't eat.

of say any 10,000 women who get to squirt today, how many are gonna blow out a ureathra of piss?



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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 10:24:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually what you said was women have a little sphincter dealio so that you cannot come and pee at the same time.

and then you said 'The swelling that occurs 'upstream' of the actual gland in the canal, coupled with the waves of muscular contractions is what causes the pressure allowing a squirt, which is in effect not unlike male prostate situation. By and large closing off the chance to pee'
Now I know this is what this link is telling us but what it fails to mention is, and this is very important, not all women who ejaculate have that ejaculation coupled with a muscular contraction (vaginal orgasm). Ejaculation on its own feels like the perfect peek of a vaginal orgasm and coupled with a vaginal orgasm its a pretty good sensation. On its own which it often is, it still feels really good. What this link is stating is, women can't pee during muscular contractions (vaginal orgasms) and its misleading because it seems to be insinuationg that you can't ejaculate without a VO.

You also said If your area musculature is either aged, or you are incontinent for other reasons......yeah, there is some shot at it.

Just like as men age their come goes from sticking flies to the ceiling to dribbling off the end of the fuckstick as they age due to less buffed musculature......

and I think that is the wrong message to be giving out to beginners at this. When I first started doing this I got ridiculously wet and so did he but as time passed I learned to understand what was going on and was able to control it. It has nothing to do with old age and being like a dribbling old man and all to do with practice.
I have seen young fit and healthy women pee themselves when they ejaculate.

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 10:28:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, we are not about to start hacking and slashing over this, as I said in all the girls I seen squirt, didnt see a one of them pee.....now you have said you saw the opposite, so maybe the difference is asparagus or something, dunno.

In either case, it ain't no big thing is you pee or don't.  

As I said at the outset, its the woman gonna be sleepin in the wet spot at my house anyway. 

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 10:30:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		mnottertail....quote....

of say any 10,000 women who get to squirt today, how many are gonna blow out a ureathra of piss?

unquote.

Let it be meeeeeeeee.....lol. I don't care if it's pee or cum, both feel great when orgasming.

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RE: pleaseee heip - 1/20/2011 10:32:10 AM   
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