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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I was only there as a guest and the host always seemed to set the tone, with the added complication that not everybody was in the know about what is going on, one submissive I had with me couldn't kneel on the floor due to having had surgery after a sport accident, so I asked if he could have a pillow for him and explained the problem, gawd, you would have thought I tried to murder somebody's baby or tried to drink from the finger bowl.... That was possibly the worst one...

Other one was where nobody explained to us or just me that the submissives all have certain roles and it was all very choreographed....

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

To anyone willing to answer, what is high protocol to you? Is it something that's more reserved for events (both threads have mentioned it in terms of Dominant's Dinners) or are there aspects that apply to daily life? Do you employ rituals like kneeling or mantras? Do you even consider rituals to be high protocol? 

We do have a high protocol dynamic.  Yes, I do consider rituals to be a part of that.  Participation in such is a requirement in My household.  We have both morning and evening rituals for when we are together or when we are apart.  We have a greeting ritual for those occasions when clip is in the house and I am coming home.  We have a ritual that is specifically for changing collars from one to the other (leather to every day and also the reverse).  We also have a lot of leather protocols in our home, such as not sitting on furniture without permission and asks My permission  to leave a room.  Drinks are served from a kneeling position, glass in the palm of the hand, offered up.  Food is served to Me first and he will eat while sitting at My feet.  In the home, he doesn't call Me anything but Mistress.  (There have been two occasions where he has had to use My real name due to circumstances beyond his control in public.)  Anytime we are together, he kneels to put on My shoes.

Of course, we adjust all of this for situations like dining out or other times we are mixed with the vanilla public.  He does sit at the table in restaurants and he doesn't kneel at My feet in the mall.  All of the things that have been discusses on the recent manners/gentlemen threads are still requirements in public.  Opening doors, carrying packages, taking the 'gentleman's side of the street' and so on.  

When mixed with the lifestyle crowd, he is expected to follow leather protocols, even when not especially dealing with leather people.  At events or times we're in the homes of other D/s or M/s folks, our protocols for the home are used the majority of the time, unless they specifically contradict the protocols of the situation. 

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ORIGINAL: SthrnCom4t

No worries re: hijack....let's enjoy where the conversation goes :)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

One of the major differences between a vanilla formal dinner and a leather high protocol dinner is your seating chart. Leather protocols have a lot of basis in seniority and that is the way you seat your guests. This makes it easier for the servers to serve people in proper succession.

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ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh
LadyPact, I have to admit, I wasn't aware of another thread...my apologies for my oversight. The leather aspect of this type of dinner/event has me curious as to any other different protocols that would apply. I'm heading over to the thread you mentioned to do some reading.

I've always enjoyed the "stuffiness" of formal dinners, regardless if my role was as a guest or somewhere behind the scene, and I would love the opportunity to be part of this type of function....most likely in the submissive position.

*toddles off to do some reading *

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LadyPact: I always tell people, if you've never experienced a high protocol event, it's something you may want to consider trying. You never know. You might just fall in love with it.