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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/3/2006 1:14:51 AM

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Does anybody here hate the cane

There are plenty of people who abhor pain in any form, canes included.

I'm not one of them though. ;)

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/3/2006 5:41:50 PM

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Canes are on my list of hard limits. I've never felt one nor do I have any desire to do so. I'm so terrified of them that I actually broke my own wrist (trying to escape cuffs) when a Dom said he was leaving the room to get his cane. After that experience, I make it *extremely* clear that canes are just not cool ...

Now, as to how I treat my Master.

I think it depends on the Master ... I've had some Masters who were very laid back and enjoyed a submissive who would joke and be a smartass (to a point) and I've had Masters who demanded utmost respect at all times. I do tend to get in more trouble with those who demand respect at all times ... How he deals with me; ie, does he actually punish me or just threaten it?

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/3/2006 5:51:43 PM

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I just have to say LA, it seems strange hearing your words coming from a purple bunny.

After I posted my comment over purple peeps, I realized there were at least three similar reactions from additional posters. I am sorry Tross, but the collarme community has come to an agreement. We are a tolerant people, but this type of extreme edge-icon is creating far too much anxiety for the users. You'll have to change it. I am sure you understand. :)

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 7:10:45 AM

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Ok what is the most painful punishment you have ever experienced and how did u feel afterwards. The reason for this question is I was watching a torture video and there was a lady on there who was chained up had weights on her boobs and on her pussy and then the dom put needles through her clit and nipples.

How would any one like this much amount of pain.

I hate needles so much is there away of overcoming this

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 7:22:55 AM

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After I posted my comment over purple peeps, I realized there were at least three similar reactions from additional posters. I am sorry Tross, but the collarme community has come to an agreement. We are a tolerant people, but this type of extreme edge-icon is creating far too much anxiety for the users. You'll have to change it. I am sure you understand. :)

I'm keeping the peep until DCS says otherwise dammit! I'm his bunny!

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 7:42:35 AM

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any one help me with the above ?

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 7:46:54 AM

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Mine hates it, and frankly I have yet to use it on her. It would break my heart to do so, not becuase of the pain she would endure, but because whatever she had done to earn it would have upset me so much. If she fails in such a way, I have not done my job properly.

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 7:48:25 AM

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i always felt i had a high tolerance for pain...until i got involved in bdsm. i have never much liked pain but i have to admit the longer im in the lifestyle, the more i crave it. it started as a strong desire to please Mistress, who is a sensual sadist, and i would go through tremendous pain just to see the small smile curve over Her lips. but lately, ive been able to work through the pain to another place. i still feel it, but it is not hurtful, and is becoming pleasurable. i have experienced crops and "slappers", but have not yet been caned.

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 7:50:48 AM

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I have experienced the cane as I had to admit to master I went to the club without his permission and it is not very nice

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 8:50:30 AM

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Dear gloriousangel, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Fine posting by those participating in this thread.

I do wish to add, that one of my pet peeves, is that Masters and Mistresses, Dominants and TOPs do not give clear communication of what the rules of the day, situation, the party to the slave before entering into such. Discipline after the fact, disturbs me, as it is after the fact and leads to the slave/submissive being upset and confused as to what they did.

Rules can change in mid-stream of the party, gathering, play and such but, it is a Master's (including all other dominant titles), duty to make sure their new rules are clearly understood, even to repeat them back to him before moving on. Nobody is a mind reader so, it is important to communicate clearly and open the door to confusion.

Although I enjoy applying the cane, I have a totally different style. www.iron-rose.com look for the educational venue and look up the two part post of The Art and The Style of caning. And, I don't use canes as a disciplinary tool very often; as I like to use it during play sessions.

But, for the total treatment of a Master during play should be one of respect and heed his advice, as impact play is good when it impacts the intended target. Twisting and being out of position causes missed hits/off target. If the Master is skilled, as to recall the whip and or cane, the damage will be less and or not at all.

Mutual respect is so important in scenes. This is where a relationship is wonderful, where others may have play dates, it is more like a "do me" session and often after giving all my energy to that submissive, I do not get the aftercare a Master/Mistress needs. They're off seeking another session. Those in a D/s and or M/s relationship, after the slave has gotten their aftercare, its the slave that should (in my humble opinion give aftercare for their Master/Mistress/Dominant/TOP that put in the physical effort to give a good scene,) that makes it all worthwhile and a beautiful scene--taking good care of each other.

Respectfully submitted,
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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 9:06:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear gloriousangel, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Fine posting by those participating in this thread.

I do wish to add, that one of my pet peeves, is that Masters and Mistresses, Dominants and TOPs do not give clear communication of what the rules of the day, situation, the party to the slave before entering into such. Discipline after the fact, disturbs me, as it is after the fact and leads to the slave/submissive being upset and confused as to what they did.

Rules can change in mid-stream of the party, gathering, play and such but, it is a Master's (including all other dominant titles), duty to make sure their new rules are clearly understood, even to repeat them back to him before moving on. Nobody is a mind reader so, it is important to communicate clearly and open the door to confusion.

Although I enjoy applying the cane, I have a totally different style. www.iron-rose.com look for the educational venue and look up the two part post of The Art and The Style of caning. And, I don't use canes as a disciplinary tool very often; as I like to use it during play sessions.

But, for the total treatment of a Master during play should be one of respect and heed his advice, as impact play is good when it impacts the intended target. Twisting and being out of position causes missed hits/off target. If the Master is skilled, as to recall the whip and or cane, the damage will be less and or not at all.

Mutual respect is so important in scenes. This is where a relationship is wonderful, where others may have play dates, it is more like a "do me" session and often after giving all my energy to that submissive, I do not get the aftercare a Master/Mistress needs. They're off seeking another session. Those in a D/s and or M/s relationship, after the slave has gotten their aftercare, its the slave that should (in my humble opinion give aftercare for their Master/Mistress/Dominant/TOP that put in the physical effort to give a good scene,) that makes it all worthwhile and a beautiful scene--taking good care of each other.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

That is quite right about the rules. I play with masters wife as well as serving him. I know that masters wife is his number one girl as she is a sub to. Whatever master says i do. Miss asked me a question yesterday what i would do if master told me to keep a cum diary and to keep a record but Miss said would i record it still even if i was told not to by her. I said well yes I would go to master and tell him what had happened by saying.

I am so sorry master but I never kept my cum diary today because Miss beth told me not to please forgive me for being disrespectful of your rules.

Would you accept that if you was a mistress or a master

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 11:03:47 AM

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I have experienced the cane as I had to admit to master I went to the club without his permission and it is not very nice

Now I'm doubly confused. Did you go without permission? Did you know you needed permission? I thought you said you'd simply come home later than he liked but he'd not given you a time? Hmmmmm

Anyway, as to the cane I don't know if it was one of the thin whippy kind or the rod types. I've never had the rod type, but I love the whippy canes. Of course it all depends on the amount of force used. I haven't a great deal of experience but what I had was probably at about a medium level of force as he knew I was a newbie.

I haven't had pain used as a punishment. Personally punishment is a concept I have a really hard time with. I know that if I agree to submit and obey someone I would NEVER puposefully disobey. Therefore I would only disobey if I failed in something or made a mistake. To be punished for something I tried but could not do, or for making a mistake would just KILL me. I get a bit hysterical at the thought of real punishment.

Now, some people find that being punished allows them to let go of their own feelings of having failed or being angry and upset with themselves. Their feelings of failure just kind of drag on and on and they wonder if Master is upset with them or not and they have all kinds of self-doubt. Being punished allows them to get it all out, let it go and start with a clean slate.

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 11:59:08 AM

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He caned me because the week before I went there without his permission. And the last time I went he gave me permission But never gave me a time to be home for.

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 12:23:18 PM

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Canes are on my list of hard limits. I've never felt one nor do I have any desire to do so

I feel the same way.

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/4/2006 12:36:46 PM

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Dear gloriousangel, Ladies and Gentlemen;

If I was the Master, my wife/husband is not the authority to answer to and or override the Master's command. Since I do not know if you are collared to just the Master or if you are collared to both, in joint-ownership; that would guide my answer better.

IF, it is only the Master you are collared to, all his wishes are obeyed without question and or superseeded by wife and or other submissive. If there are exceptions, they should be spelled out. Using the wife as an excuses, is still obedience problems. As a novice though, the Master should educate you in plain languages the trickle down of authority and obedience. If my wife/husband interfered with a slave collared to me, they will soon regret their acts and the slave be held harmless but warned.

IF, it is that you are "co-owned" both Master and his wife/Mistress need to communicate as not to put you in a no win situation. Confusion and seeing things different in obedience has only lead to sour experiences.

Protocol means control and discipline - Respect and obedience is that manifestation of the control and discipline.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

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RE: How do you treat your master during play - 5/5/2006 12:26:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear gloriousangel, Ladies and Gentlemen;

If I was the Master, my wife/husband is not the authority to answer to and or override the Master's command. Since I do not know if you are collared to just the Master or if you are collared to both, in joint-ownership; that would guide my answer better.

IF, it is only the Master you are collared to, all his wishes are obeyed without question and or superseeded by wife and or other submissive. If there are exceptions, they should be spelled out. Using the wife as an excuses, is still obedience problems. As a novice though, the Master should educate you in plain languages the trickle down of authority and obedience. If my wife/husband interfered with a slave collared to me, they will soon regret their acts and the slave be held harmless but warned.

IF, it is that you are "co-owned" both Master and his wife/Mistress need to communicate as not to put you in a no win situation. Confusion and seeing things different in obedience has only lead to sour experiences.

Protocol means control and discipline - Respect and obedience is that manifestation of the control and discipline.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

Yes I am collared. I am under training by my master and he texted me to say that I am doing very well and he is proud of me so much. Some of the training is hard like serving food and drink where I have to kneel before him and then not move until he says I can.

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