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dkimb -> new to all of this (1/25/2011 12:11:48 PM)
I have been asked to be collared. And am not real sure what all that means. I have read a few things on the web. But really wanted to get some ones view point. He is married and that is fine with me for now. What I want to know is what will he expect from me in general and what will he expect of me. Some one please give me some good info Thank you

Lockit -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 12:21:51 PM)
Only he can answer that. If you don't understand something or the person you are involved with... can you expect that all will go well if you rush in before you are aware of what you are actually doing? You come asking questions that we cannot answer... when really, you must be answering a few questions yourself. What can you expect from rushing in? A collar means different things to different people. Many players online will have a collar a week or by the month. It means little to them. It's an ego boost and a way to feel all domly or submissive like. To others it is like a marriage. At the moment I would advise you to find out what you expect before you enter something worried about what they might expect. Just in all things in life, if you walk in a place where you are unaware, you may have a price to pay for that unawareness. Do you wish to play at life or live it? Either way... ask him. You might want to ask his wife as well.

sexyred1 -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 12:23:32 PM)
Wow. Ok, first off, you should not be considering getting "collared" if you know nothing about it. Two: just because a man tells you something, it is not necessary to act upon it until you understand what it is you are agreeing to. Three: no one can tell you what a man expects from you except for him. Ask him.

kalikshama -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 12:38:24 PM)
Like Lockit says, collaring means different things to different people. Ask him what it means to him. I highly recommend you get the wife's phone number and talk to her. If he hesitates for an instant before giving out her phone number, this will be very telling.

DarkSteven -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 12:59:14 PM)
As politely as possible - what are you trying to accomplish? You're going out with a married man, which has all kinds of red flags, and you asked him to make the relationship semipermanent without any idea of what that means. What's your fgoal here?

DesFIP -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 2:17:53 PM)
Ask him what he would want you to do that he hasn't asked you to do already. Tell him what it is you wouldn't do no matter what. Are you willing to have him pimp you out? Play with others and let him watch via cam? Are you allowed to date since he has a primary partner? For that matter, does his wife know about you? Is she okay with him seeing you? Are you going to have to do all the traveling to meet him and pay for the hotel room each time so she doesn't find out about you?

kalikshama -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 2:27:23 PM)
Here are earlier threads on the significance of collaring: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2598867/mpage_1/tm.htm#2598867 http://www.collarchat.com/m_3287436/mpage_1/tm.htm#3287436

0ldhen -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 2:42:23 PM)
Is this real life real time or only online?

Huntertn -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 6:56:39 PM)
lol..has tobe be online only or she'd know a bit more don't you think?

Aileen1968 -> RE: new to all of this (1/25/2011 7:22:52 PM)
Your join date says today...so you either know him realtime and for much longer than a day and just have poor communication skills or you've actually just joined today and have fallen for the first troll that came into your inbox. Both options point to poor life skills.

subsfaith -> RE: new to all of this (1/28/2011 4:40:01 AM)
This reminds me when my daughter was about four years old... I asked "Do you want to go to ballet lessons?" She joy up and down in joy "YAY - Ballets lessons" followed by two minutes later, "Mummy what's ballet?" OP - You are right to ask the question, however you are asking the wrong people. The only person who can tell you what collared means in this circustance is the man who asked you. I do know that some people view collaring the same as marriage (obviously not this chap though LOL). Some people will be offered a collar after a few hours, and for others a collar is something that is earned over several years, and there are also lots inbetween. For me, it means nothing, I don't subscribe to this socially constructed concept.

tazzygirl -> RE: new to all of this (1/28/2011 5:00:45 AM)
quote: He is married and that is fine with me for now. This made me pause.... hmmm.. for now?

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