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LaTigresse -> RE: Punishment/discipline for vanilla actions. (1/29/2011 8:48:53 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Actually LaT, you wouldn't give orders to not do what her boss said. So that could be thought of as outside the dynamic.
Many single parents put their relationships with their children outside the dynamic also. You wouldn't tell someone you had just started a relationship with that you would go in their place to a parent teacher conference.
But I don't think the op and his dominant have discussed what and when and which things are outside the responsibility of the dominant. And whether both of them agree to a punishment dynamic and if so, how it should be done so as not to make the s hate play as a result.
Wrong. Her work is very much within the dynamic. Example. I have a very strong work ethic. Moreso than many people. She decides she does not 'feel' like going to work and wants to call in sick. Ahhhhhhhh NO. Her ass goes to work. Or, she has a habit of being late, under my mastery that will not be the case.
If indeed she is a parent, I would also have a say in that. While I prefer to not have a slave that has children.....that is not always realistic. I also have high standards in this area and if I felt she was making choices that were detrimental to her child/ren.......I would demand changes there also. Control does not have to be a negative. To encourage/deman behaviour that makes a slave a better parent.....is to me, only a good thing. I would never suggest I go to a parent teacher conference in their place. But I would demand that they go if they had expressed an interest in not.
Perhaps, rather than seeing the possible negatives for that control, it is more productive to see the possible benefits. It is also a reason why I think this type of relationship should not be entered into lightly and without a great deal of communication of expectations, needs, desires, etc...
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