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martina1955 -> Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 2:52:59 AM)

I'm a c/d with very limited experience, I will be meeting with a Dominant male this weekend. I am straight acting and wish to hear some advice on how I should act with this Dominant. What questions should I ask. We will be meeting at a fast food restaurant. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank You
Martina



DarkSteven -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 3:46:28 AM)

Show manners.

Don't play on a first meet. (Although I've broken that one myself.)

You have to walk the fine line between putting your best foot forward and letting him know what you're really like. At the same time, you have to be sizing him up as a possible partner.

In other words, it's almost like a vanilla first date.



kdsusa7894 -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 5:10:00 AM)

What DarkSteven said and adding, just be yourself.



Killerangel -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 12:04:51 PM)

Be yourself! Be polite and mannerly. Be someone you would be proud to be with if you were him. There aren't any tests you have to pass being a submissive, you aren't anyone's submissive at this point. The two of you are just checking each other out for compatibility so let him see what you are like.



sexyred1 -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 12:09:25 PM)

At 53 years old, you already know how to present yourself when meeting people in real life, right?

Do the same thing you would do meeting anyone, be courteous, civil and yourself.



StrongSpirit -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 7:11:35 PM)

I agree with the 'act normally', 'be yourself', and 'don't play' advice

I will add one more thing to what everyone else said:

This is an interview for a submissive relationship - so don't be arrogant.

I don't care how many other issues you have, this is not the place to talk about them. No complaining about past relationships. No demands - you can make it clear what you need without acting demanding. Example "I can't take a caning" or "I've been caned before but never again." are both far better than saying "I don't do caning'.



came4U -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/27/2011 8:57:42 PM)

quote:

At 53 years old, you already know how to present yourself when meeting people in real life, right?

Do the same thing you would do meeting anyone, be courteous, civil and yourself.


spot on.

*and there should be a 'like' button like on facecrap in here.



XenoMaster -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/28/2011 10:11:22 AM)

Wear a diaper, swim fins, and a collar and leash to the meeting to show them you're serious about the lifestyle.

When you walk in everyone will stare at you.  Hand him the leash so everyone can see.

He will either pretend not to know you (flake), beat you up for doing this (sadist dom), break down crying (secretly a sub), or quietly head for the door avoiding you on the way (smart dom).

Now you know what kind of dom he is.  Good luck.

/sarcasm



salemartist -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/28/2011 4:48:23 PM)

dont order the ribs, never a good idea on the first date.



ThundersCry -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/29/2011 1:06:56 PM)

Just be...you.

Serve Her whilst you remember *serving is an honor*

My first experience...

`bout pissed my pants...



martina1955 -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/30/2011 4:37:40 PM)

Thanks for all the great suggestions, I will just be myself



subangi -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/30/2011 4:47:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: salemartist

dont order the ribs, never a good idea on the first date.
But, Salemartist,  next to seafood, ribs are my favorite!



Killerangel -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/30/2011 5:55:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: martina1955

Thanks for all the great suggestions, I will just be myself


So how did it go?



subdreamz -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/30/2011 9:23:40 PM)

Why??? was i absorbed in the journals when i should have been reading the message board???? I sooooo effed up. no disrespect intended.



martina1955 -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/31/2011 1:37:34 AM)

Update on my meeting with a Dominant Male............Our meeting went ok, he did not seem to be the Dominant type, he seemed to be very unsure of himself. He said he wanted to take 2-3 steps backwards and re-think the situations. I'm glad for that he just did not seem like the type I could submit to.
Thanks for all the suggestion



lizi -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/31/2011 5:31:38 AM)

Nice that you came back to fill us in, sorry it didnt work out. Maybe it was good that you got the experience so you'll feel more confident next time!



martina1955 -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/31/2011 1:59:08 PM)

Well, he was not quite what I was looking for in a Dominant, I not really sure what I'm looking for in a Dom, but when I meet the right Dom I will know. I could not have submitted to the Dom I met with.



kdsusa7894 -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (1/31/2011 3:50:38 PM)

Thanks for updating, use the experience that you gained for the next first meeting you have and good for you for recognizing the fact he wasn't for you. Good Luck!



Dnomyar -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (2/8/2011 6:55:56 AM)

Op to bad on your meeting. Some of the women on here could learn from your experience. Don't sweat the small stuff there are plenty of Doms out there. You seem to have the right attitude.



heartfeltsub -> RE: Meeting a Dominant (2/8/2011 8:32:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: martina1955

Well, he was not quite what I was looking for in a Dominant, I not really sure what I'm looking for in a Dom, but when I meet the right Dom I will know. I could not have submitted to the Dom I met with.


Have you ever considered making a list of what you most need in a relationship so that you are really sure what you are looking for in a Dominant? Just a thought.

heartfelt



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