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Chulain -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 12:50:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
Um... bing? It might be bingable.

Dude, that's asking me to choose between eating raw liver and raw kidneys.

With or without fava beans and a nice Chianti.



FukinTroll -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 12:54:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Chulain

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
Um... bing? It might be bingable.

Dude, that's asking me to choose between eating raw liver and raw kidneys.

With or without fava beans and a nice Chianti.



Always with of course!



porcelaine -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:01:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Okay.  You find a vanilla you're interested in.  You're compatible outside the bedroom.  When and how do you let him/her know about your dark, evil side?


Greetings Steven,

I've only been on this side of the fence in one instance and he was aware of my proclivities before we became involved. I look askance at the idea of conversion and sincerely feel that in most instances the would be Dr. Frankenstein is headed for a disappointing finale. As others have indicated, if the individual doesn't have a natural inclination for that manner of relating the likelihood of it blossoming into something substantial is slim to none. At best you may have awakened their willingness to engage in supposed lewd acts, but that does not equate a lifestyle or exchange from my perspective. In terms of disclosure, I believe each party is entitled to make an informed decision and that entails an honest admission at the onset.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



allthatjaz -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:05:29 PM)

Gone because there is absolutely no point!




81song -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:13:30 PM)

This is the case for me as to the girl I am with (long distance) and even last night when we talk and somehow the subject of D/s (in my head) came up and she just said that just killed the moment for her. She has know the way I am right from the get go and she does not understand it (I am an ex catholic) but she goes back and forth weather she accepts it or not.
But I think it is all in the timing when to tell someone.




DarkSteven -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:24:12 PM)

All right, I used the wrong word. I meant 'When is the proper time to broach the subject.' I'm not advocating proselytizing or converting.



FukinTroll -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:26:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

All right, I used the wrong word. I meant 'When is the proper time to broach the subject.' I'm not advocating proselytizing or converting.


Before it ever goes to a date out together. If were clicking an I have an interest or inkling to pursue something more I send her here.



Prinsexx -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:34:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

All right, I used the wrong word. I meant 'When is the proper time to broach the subject.' I'm not advocating proselytizing or converting.

I know I was being facetious, as ever, but I think conversion would actually have to be nearer the truth than just a mere broaching. I mean, if you are speaking to the already converted, as they say, then their inner belief system is already there. There may be differences in predilections but nevertheless if the other is already converted then there can, and usually is, the possibility for endless discussion and 'comparing notes'..
However if the other person isn't converted and their inner belief system remains resistant, then even of they are not entirely uninformed I think there's very little can be done OTHER than what approaches a conversion moment.
Nothing to do with how one broaches the subject but a great deall to do with how the other recieves it.
But water finds a level and we each of us find that which we desire, eventually. Sweet vanilla....how easy that must be????



81song -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 1:42:48 PM)

I do not know if there is a good time or not but here's the thing, if you are in a relationship you have to just let her know that this is the way you are. I told my girlfriend if I am never with a Domme for the rest of my life that still does not change me being the way I am. But the subject does come up time and time again but I think it has to be her to ask me questions maybe that's best, who knows?



sblady -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:06:50 PM)

Is vanilla conversion a Dom thing? I'm dating someone who is vanilla and it never crossed my mind to convert him nor would I attempt to do so.



sblady -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:19:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

All right, I used the wrong word. I meant 'When is the proper time to broach the subject.' I'm not advocating proselytizing or converting.


I reckon I should have read through the whole thread before posting. [:)]

The guy I'm dating knew I was submissive before we went on our first date. My main interest is Dominant men and he's a "head of household" fella so our relationship works. [;)]



Buzzzz -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:30:41 PM)

I try as early as possible and it never works :) just like, wow, you spilled your drink over there, someone deserves a spanking. They look at me like a deer caught in headlights !!



FukinTroll -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:35:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Buzzzz

I try as early as possible and it never works :) just like, wow, you spilled your drink over there, someone deserves a spanking. They look at me like a deer caught in headlights !!


Try this next time: You spilled your drink over there, someone deserves a spanking. Over the knee here, or do you prefer a paddle at your place or mine?



Buzzzz -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:37:17 PM)

lol/ that is gonna go very well ;) I will do it though :)



FukinTroll -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:38:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Buzzzz

lol/ that is gonna go very well ;) I will do it though :)


Glad I could help.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:42:02 PM)

I know it limits my possibilities greatly, but I wouldn't date a vanilla person. Any and all partners I have must be kinky and know so. I'm not interested in holding someone's hand in guiding them towards MAYBE possibly liking kink, or engaging me in mine.



FukinTroll -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:43:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

I know it limits my possibilities greatly, but I wouldn't date a vanilla person. Any and all partners I have must be kinky and know so. I'm not interested in holding someone's hand in guiding them towards MAYBE possibly liking kink, or engaging me in mine.


How do you handle said conundrum?



agirl -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 5:49:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

All right, I used the wrong word. I meant 'When is the proper time to broach the subject.' I'm not advocating proselytizing or converting.


 There isn't a proper time. There isn't a proper anything, really.  There's only *what worked here*.

agirl



Chulain -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 6:20:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
How do you handle said conundrum?

What's the conundrum? All she has to do is go to kink-oriented mixers and meet-n-greets.

Or to munches. Whatever.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: When do you start vanilla conversion? (1/27/2011 6:22:59 PM)

It's not that hard, I met my last 3 kinky partners off a dating site for kinky people, and then there's social events here for the kinksters, and the local scene even has a kinky singles mixer for those who're single or in open relationships.

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

I know it limits my possibilities greatly, but I wouldn't date a vanilla person. Any and all partners I have must be kinky and know so. I'm not interested in holding someone's hand in guiding them towards MAYBE possibly liking kink, or engaging me in mine.


How do you handle said conundrum?




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