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Curiosity - 2/2/2011 12:45:14 AM

dualrololo22

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Well I searched through the FAQ-Read First section and believe that posting here is within the rules. Im a younger man of 20 and have been told that I am a switch and I have looked through the other forums and think that this is accurate. So I guess my real purpose of scrolling through this section is to ask anyone out there what this means for a dom/switch woman. Any advice or suggestions would be amazing. Thanks

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 1:22:54 AM

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It means that you have more options than let us say a submissive or dominant.

It also means that others will laugh at you in their 'one way trueism' mode of thinking and cast you off immediately.

Just be true to yourself regardless of the opinions of others. Be resolute.

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 2:51:36 AM

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I'm not really sure what you're asking here. What does it mean to us? Well, it probably means that some folks will ask you what kind of definition you have for yourself when you use the term switch and how you see that unfolding when interacting with other people.

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 4:11:33 AM

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I think of there as being two flavors of 'switch'. There are the ones who CAN play both roles, and there are those who NEED to play both roles. The first is simply more flexible, and the second needs either poly or another switch.

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 8:49:55 AM

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I apologize for any confusion I may have caused in my original post. I try very hard to write in a way that is easy to follow but considering how timid I can be I tend to not let on to the entire point of what I'm saying and I don't want to step on anyone's toes in the process. That said I will try and be a bit more bold and make my posts flow a bit better. Firstly yes my question was what being a switch both means for me and for someone I may be with. So far I have been in either full out dom or sub relationships which I've come to realize becomes rather dull for me. And yes I know that this sounds selfish. So to clarify my earlier question: What does being a switch mean in the terms of a relationship with someone you don't mind being dom but want to also be sub at times and is there anything I can do to read someone as being such other than being blunt and asking?

Thank you all for the replies by the way

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 9:26:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Well, it probably means that some folks will ask you what kind of definition you have for yourself when you use the term switch and how you see that unfolding when interacting with other people.

This.

It also means that:

Some will not want to enter a relationship with someone they see as "playing" and not genuine in his desire to submit. Others will be wary because they don't want to deal with someone who may want to top them. Some will be fine with a switch, as long as you know your "place" when it comes to your interaction with them. Any topping on your part must be done with/to someone other than the dominant woman. It's very individual, so there's no single answer that will apply to everyone.

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 11:11:26 AM

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... and sometimes, you'll find another t/b switch who will mesh with you very nicely. Examples:

A switch woman might want a relationship where she's primarily (in day-to-day life) the dominant partner, but wants you to top her on occasion.
A switch woman might want a relationship where she's primarily (in day-to-day life) the submissive partner, but is willing to top you on occasion if you want it.
A submissive woman might be willing to consider occasionally topping you as part of her service to you. (This is called being a service top.)

I know quite a few dominant women who sometimes like to bottom for play, or who prefer that their partner take a more aggressive role for sex.

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 3:45:41 PM

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hmmm... I have a switch in my life, but for the most part, she's a sexual switch and nothing more. (sorry if the term is new.. it basically means she's only a switch in a sexual way) .. in all other part of our life, she's the boy.. I'm the Lady.

So in our lives... it means that on a rare occasion, when I don't care about what space she comes from when she's... uhmm... f*cking me... then I let her go for it.... most times, I prefer she do that from boy space.

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RE: Curiosity - 2/2/2011 4:06:34 PM

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Well I'm the sort of switch who is really only completely fulfilled when I've got both sides operating at the same time but with 2 different people. Friends coined the term Duality for Me and it really fits. At the moment my sub side lives 24/7 with Master and so violet is very happy ... but Jay, the Domme side of Me, is getting pretty antsy! We are travelling around Australia (though we've been stuck in one spot for 2 months due to the crazy weather down here ... floods and now temps over 45C) ... so Jay only gets a go when we can meet up with the occasional subby boy on our travels. Couple of subs in the offing soonish though as long as they don't flake and not show. YAY!

Long term, once we settle somewhere again, we would both love for Me to find a full time 24/7 live in subby boy to complete our triad. That way both Jay and violet sides of Me would be happy, and Master would be Head of a nice little Dominion ... and His arse would be a tad safer than it is now! Gosh why does He have such a spankable ass, it's just not fair!!

So ... being a switch is what you decide you want to make of it. Originally I thought I was 90%D and 10%s ... that got revised and revised until I realised what I really am. Don't rush to decide till you've tried a few options! Good luck!

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