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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/2/2011 3:16:21 PM

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and the 'on topic' bit - I'm just me. A small, fluffy baby bunny cradled in my Master's hand....

Absolutely....cept I'm older...and shorter....and balding....and got a beard. but I'm a white male.. that count?

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/2/2011 3:25:46 PM

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Even though this thread is the same old, same old, I will throw another opinion in:

Sometimes, people are who they say they are, but they may not be who the other person thinks they are.

Does that make sense? In other words, too many people online, have expectations of a person and despite the other person being honest about who they really are, the other has a whole other idea of what that is.

End result: all these frustrated, annoyed, whiny people who complain about fakes when in reality everyone is real, but not necessarily for YOU.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/2/2011 3:34:02 PM

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Even though this thread is the same old, same old, I will throw another opinion in:

Sometimes, people are who they say they are, but they may not be who the other person thinks they are.

Does that make sense? In other words, too many people online, have expectations of a person and despite the other person being honest about who they really are, the other has a whole other idea of what that is.

End result: all these frustrated, annoyed, whiny people who complain about fakes when in reality everyone is real, but not necessarily for YOU.

Yes and no.

Yes I know that my last disaster meeting obviously had the imagination that I would be a girly girl...which I am not...and which threw him off completely...so yes, I was who I said I am but wasn't aware of it that he wants a girl who wears uncomfortable shoes and hides her face behind layers of colours...

on the other hand there are some folks who claim that their weight is 286lbs and you have an idea how they look like and it doesn't really come as a good surprise then once you meet them and realise they are 450-500 lbs...I don't mind weight, but I still would have preferred to know about that as well as about his cat fur allergy which he hadn't mentioned on top of it (as he knew about my cats). He was still from all meetings I had the nicest and we might have gotten further but I don't dump my cats for him...just not gonna happen...also another guy made sure I didn't know that he is wheelchair bound due to spina bifida...and considering I flew quite a distance to meet, that wasn't a pleasant surprise either...

so yes, sometimes you or the other person imagines aspects which simply arent the case...but nevertheless some folks also like to hide aspects for whatever reason and are comfortable to do so

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/2/2011 3:58:51 PM

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So off topic......

You might want to ask yourself why that is.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/2/2011 3:59:01 PM

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This is one of hundreds of lifestyle websites worldwide. In each and everyone without exception there appears to be a vast majority who are not in fact who and what they claim to be. This means that only a minority or genuine lifestylers and it makes finding genuine like minded people almost impossible. O.K. this is th internet and people can hide behind annonimity and cause trouble at Why though do people need to waste teir own time in addition to other peoples? I am given to understnd that most female photographs an ages have not changed in almost a decade an they can no longer be th same age or even look quite the same. Why stay in a website so long with the same profile? They have not found what they seek and so it is a waste of time. OK some just come here to read and conribute to the boards only and that is fine. The vast majority though are just wasting time.

You want to know why? You want to know why people do what they do?!

I'll tell you...oooh, oh yeah, I'll tell you...

Just not tonight.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/2/2011 6:31:17 PM

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You want to know why? You want to know why people do what they do?!

I'll tell you...oooh, oh yeah, I'll tell you...

Just not tonight.

Tease. I wanted to know

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 6:46:09 AM

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 3:10:27 PM

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I'm exactly who I claim to be and am deeply insulted by the accusations of the OP.

I demand that he be banned.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 3:19:50 PM

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Even though this thread is the same old, same old, I will throw another opinion in:

Sometimes, people are who they say they are, but they may not be who the other person thinks they are.

Does that make sense? In other words, too many people online, have expectations of a person and despite the other person being honest about who they really are, the other has a whole other idea of what that is.

End result: all these frustrated, annoyed, whiny people who complain about fakes when in reality everyone is real, but not necessarily for YOU.

Yes and no.

Yes I know that my last disaster meeting obviously had the imagination that I would be a girly girl...which I am not...and which threw him off completely...so yes, I was who I said I am but wasn't aware of it that he wants a girl who wears uncomfortable shoes and hides her face behind layers of colours...

on the other hand there are some folks who claim that their weight is 286lbs and you have an idea how they look like and it doesn't really come as a good surprise then once you meet them and realise they are 450-500 lbs...I don't mind weight, but I still would have preferred to know about that as well as about his cat fur allergy which he hadn't mentioned on top of it (as he knew about my cats). He was still from all meetings I had the nicest and we might have gotten further but I don't dump my cats for him...just not gonna happen...also another guy made sure I didn't know that he is wheelchair bound due to spina bifida...and considering I flew quite a distance to meet, that wasn't a pleasant surprise either...

so yes, sometimes you or the other person imagines aspects which simply arent the case...but nevertheless some folks also like to hide aspects for whatever reason and are comfortable to do so

Totally agree, both aspects happen. I met a guy who told me he looked like Sean Connery. I said which time period Sean? James Bond Sean or Untouchables Sean?

He said, Untouchable Sean. I said, ok, send me a photo. He sent one and he did sort of look like Untouchables Sean. He said he was 6 ft. tall and average build. Cool.

I go to meet him at this restaurant and he tells me to meet him at the bar. I look at the bar and no one was there except another woman and a guy who resembled Santa Claus.

I looked around and all of a sudden Santa came over and greeted me and said, Wow, you look exactly like your photo only better! What do you think of me?

He not only did not look anything like Sean, pre or post, but he was about 5'8, not 6' ft tall and he weighed about 400 lbs, and was not average.

So I said, well, you lied about everything so far, so I am leaving. He said, wow, you are being really shallow. I said, no, I just don't like liars. And he said...ready for it....

"But I have money and I am really a great guy so I thought you would get over what I looked like once we met."

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 3:24:35 PM

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Everyone I know on here, who I know in real life, is exactly who they say they are. Maybe the problem is you

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 4:07:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Even though this thread is the same old, same old, I will throw another opinion in:

Sometimes, people are who they say they are, but they may not be who the other person thinks they are.

Does that make sense? In other words, too many people online, have expectations of a person and despite the other person being honest about who they really are, the other has a whole other idea of what that is.

End result: all these frustrated, annoyed, whiny people who complain about fakes when in reality everyone is real, but not necessarily for YOU.

Yes and no.

Yes I know that my last disaster meeting obviously had the imagination that I would be a girly girl...which I am not...and which threw him off completely...so yes, I was who I said I am but wasn't aware of it that he wants a girl who wears uncomfortable shoes and hides her face behind layers of colours...

on the other hand there are some folks who claim that their weight is 286lbs and you have an idea how they look like and it doesn't really come as a good surprise then once you meet them and realise they are 450-500 lbs...I don't mind weight, but I still would have preferred to know about that as well as about his cat fur allergy which he hadn't mentioned on top of it (as he knew about my cats). He was still from all meetings I had the nicest and we might have gotten further but I don't dump my cats for him...just not gonna happen...also another guy made sure I didn't know that he is wheelchair bound due to spina bifida...and considering I flew quite a distance to meet, that wasn't a pleasant surprise either...

so yes, sometimes you or the other person imagines aspects which simply arent the case...but nevertheless some folks also like to hide aspects for whatever reason and are comfortable to do so

Totally agree, both aspects happen. I met a guy who told me he looked like Sean Connery. I said which time period Sean? James Bond Sean or Untouchables Sean?

...

So I said, well, you lied about everything so far, so I am leaving. He said, wow, you are being really shallow. I said, no, I just don't like liars. And he said...ready for it....

"But I have money and I am really a great guy so I thought you would get over what I looked like once we met."

indeed...sort of it is ok to lie about yourself until you meet a la you will win her/him over anyway with personality.

It was a real relieve in my 2 last meetings I had as they looked the way how they had presented themselves and it didn't work out for other reasons, however I hate it when folks think it is ok to hide health problems or missrepresent their weight as it just doesn't fit anymore with the image you have in your mind before you meet and simply leaves the uncomfortable feeling of "if he feels the need to lie about that aspect already, how much will he bother about the truth in other aspects." You simply can't build something on a foundation which is already showing cracks due to unneccessary lies.

So yes, sometimes people do missrepresent themselves but also sometimes people do have other imaginations about the person then s/he actually is or simply personalities don't fit once you meet in person.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 4:23:21 PM

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I have been away for a lil more than a week and I was so excited to see the title of this thread!

Why do people claim to be anything? Just being is much easier.

If you keep gettin snookered, well, think about it......

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/3/2011 5:04:29 PM

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This is one of hundreds of lifestyle websites worldwide. In each and everyone without exception there appears to be a vast majority who are not in fact who and what they claim to be. This means that only a minority or genuine lifestylers and it makes finding genuine like minded people almost impossible. O.K. this is th internet and people can hide behind annonimity and cause trouble at Why though do people need to waste teir own time in addition to other peoples? I am given to understnd that most female photographs an ages have not changed in almost a decade an they can no longer be th same age or even look quite the same. Why stay in a website so long with the same profile? They have not found what they seek and so it is a waste of time. OK some just come here to read and conribute to the boards only and that is fine. The vast majority though are just wasting time.

In the event the OP is a lurker, for the purpose of your argument, I think you should stick to this site and make your "without exception" about it.
You can't really condemn this site based upon the way the people on other sites are.

There are a lot of members here. There are also a lot of members here who have met others: just check out the Positive Experiences forum.

There are some sites that automatically change your age when your birthday rolls around. This one does not.
But really? ...to claim that most of us have up photos that are nearly a decade old?

When my profile was visible, my photo was fairly recent for when I had joined.
The year it had been taken: 2006, I was still getting carded.
Actually, on an early CM date, I got carded then too.
I was 45.
Not everyone lies about their age.

It is unfortunate that it is so hard to meet people here, or anywhere. But complaining and seeing things through shit colored glasses is unlikely to help you make any positive connections.

I was here for 18 months before my Master found me in 2009.

Patience goes a long way in this often wierd world of internet intimacy.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/4/2011 5:12:53 PM

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I'd say first, I question whether the RaptorJesus is who she says she is. I think she'd have been on TV by now with a face like that. Second, why has no one asked about Myotherself's bunny in hand? Is that thing dead or napping? Sure looks appealing tho. I think bunnies are who they are.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/4/2011 5:15:02 PM

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I think bunnies are who they are.

Until they're pies, yes ;)

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/4/2011 9:24:28 PM

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<------ Absotivly posolutly fake.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/5/2011 3:00:05 AM

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Not me, I am exactly who I appear to be. That really is my baby picture, ah, I was such a fine fluffy chick back then.

<-----------------(baby me)

Le sigh........now I am just an Oldhen.

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/5/2011 4:46:20 AM

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omg,. LOVE that avatar, Hen!

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/5/2011 4:55:31 AM

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omg,. LOVE that avatar, Hen!

heh.

"Chicks dig bikes" ;)

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RE: Why are people seldom who they claim to be? - 2/5/2011 4:57:12 AM

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you're not one of those cavemen types that thinks shouldn't ride their own bikes, are you, RF?

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