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seekingcollar63 -> Profile Assistance Sought (2/2/2011 1:28:19 PM)
Greetings to all dominant Women reading this. I have had two previous D/s relationships and am endeavoring to find a long-term relationship via this site. I am very curious to know how Women perceive my profile, and what I can do to separate myself from the many game players that are on this site. As is evident in my profile, I am no doormat, but strongly believe that my role is to defer to a dominant Female partner. That being said, I have been approached mainly by people seeking to pick my pocket, and I am not sure if I came on too strong in making clear that I am not seeking to be robbed, nor seeking a professional situation. Any feedback is greatly appreciated. Have a wonderful day!

kalikshama -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/2/2011 1:37:01 PM)
This question gets asked a lot and you will see other answers in the Ask a Mistress section and FAQs there. Based on previous threads, kill these parts of your profile, which may annoy your target demographic and won't be heeded by the findommes you are trying to discouraged. In other words, keep your profile targeted to what you want to attract. Kill: quote: Please note I will NOT send gifts or tributes. I do not give something for nothing. If you want to spend time with me, I will gladly buy dinner or the evening's entertainment, but I am not intending to support those of you on this site who send me a message demanding for me to send you a money order through Western Union. Go find someone a bit more stupid, please. quote: Because I am not your slave at the moment, when contacting me please understand that my previous ads here and at other sites have resulted in many fakes lining up to try to rip me off. Rethink: quote: Thus, I do ask that when contacting me, you provide a photo (I will respond in kind, but cannot keep one here for professional reasons), and to tell me a bit about yourself. Best, KK

Madame4a -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/2/2011 3:39:10 PM)
if you search profiles.. or whatever strikes you, in this forum, you will find reams of stuff on profile help... (as mentioned above) ... beyond that, I'd change your name -- anything like that would make me ignore your profile maybe its just me.. but I think names should be names.. not actions, or fetishes.. or what you're looking for.. or ...

seekingcollar63 -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/2/2011 6:24:05 PM)
Thank you both.

SexyBossyBBW -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/2/2011 10:08:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama This question gets asked a lot and you will see other answers in the Ask a Mistress section and FAQs there. Based on previous threads, kill these parts of your profile, which may annoy your target demographic and won't be heeded by the findommes you are trying to discouraged. In other words, keep your profile targeted to what you want to attract. Kill: quote: Please note I will NOT send gifts or tributes. I do not give something for nothing. If you want to spend time with me, I will gladly buy dinner or the evening's entertainment, but I am not intending to support those of you on this site who send me a message demanding for me to send you a money order through Western Union. Go find someone a bit more stupid, please. quote: Because I am not your slave at the moment, when contacting me please understand that my previous ads here and at other sites have resulted in many fakes lining up to try to rip me off. Rethink: quote: Thus, I do ask that when contacting me, you provide a photo (I will respond in kind, but cannot keep one here for professional reasons), and to tell me a bit about yourself. Best, KK Ditto! Great profile otherwise. Welcome, and good luck, M

LadyPact -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/3/2011 3:57:35 AM)
I agree with the points that kalikshama outlined for you above. In My opinion, nobody needs multiple references that they are not interested in a professional arrangement or in those on the site for financial gain. Say it once and kill the rest. In addition, completely kill the "I'm not your slave at the moment" bit. Not only does it set the wrong tone, most male submissives aren't going to have the issue of having to inform lifestyle Dommes that we don't own you. Don't count on women sending you photos of themselves before you are providing one. In My opinion, the profile is too long. Had I not be reading it because you were asking for feedback, I wouldn't have finished it. I'd suggest trimming all of the sections where you repeat yourself. Some of the paragraphs that you have would have just as easily conveyed your point in a single sentence. Fourteen paragraphs is a bit more than most folks are going to read through.

seekingcollar63 -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/3/2011 5:18:22 AM)
Thank you very much for the responses. Seeing the profile through the eyes of Dominant Women has been extremely helpful, and I will re-write it in the next day or two. I think that, in addition to being wordy, I spent too much time writing about negatives rather than positives... I do appreciate the feedback!

DarkSteven -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/3/2011 6:12:07 AM)
I'm not a Dominant woman, but I'll add my two cents. 1. Your profile is mostly noticeable for the mistakes it didn't make. No hostility, no whining about how hard your search is, and your likes/dislikes isn't all about kink. Another good move is saying "Yeah, I listed my kinks but in the end I'll defer to you." 2. Your relocatability is well handled. You live in Illinois now but plan to move (last few days of snow affect that?). Preference for the East Coast but flexible. Also, your disclosure of children is handled well- you acknowledge them and state that they will continue to be a part of your life even when you're in service. Class. My suggestions: 1. Give general ages of the kids. Are they still in grade school, so you will be attending soccer matches, etc., or are they in college so you will soon be second-hand experiencing their careers, marriages, childbirth, etc.? 2. You're vague about what kind of woman you want. You say that you want her happy in her job and financially self-sufficient, then nothing. Are weight or looks a issue? Is it okay if she has children, or wants to have more? Is there an age range? Good luck on the hunt!

SyntheticPet -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/4/2011 11:04:33 PM)
I am not a Domme, but my suggestion as a fellow sub would be to keep the part about not sending gifts or tributes. However, you should also edit it to tone it down a bit. Don't capitalize the "not" and make it sounds a little more laid back. Maybe you could work it like "I appologize if you require tribute or payment, but I am not able to offer that" or something along those lines. This will scare off all the fake scammers who just ask for money, but it shouldn't scare away any real dommes who are browsing your profile if it's worded nicely like that. Just my opinion. Happy subbing.

Dnomyar -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 5:30:30 AM)
Throw the profile out and listen to these people. Even the ones who claim they are not Dommes ( steven is really a bearded lady).

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 5:50:39 AM)
I agree with kalikshama and Lady Pact. Otherwise I find the profile to be just fine, besides the fact that it's usually better to provide a picture even if you do not show your face on it. Furthermore, the "ripoffs" won't read your profile anyway so stating that you don't want to be ripped off defeats its own purpose. It is a lot to read so a shorter version could be neat, even if you would keep the more detailed version of the profile below the short version for those that are further interested.

DarkSteven -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 5:52:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Throw the profile out and listen to these people. Even the ones who claim they are not Dommes ( steven is really a bearded lady). If I was a woman, I would NOT be a lady!

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 5:56:57 AM)
Steven. We know. You'd be one of the dykes workin on them big oil or cargo trucks!

Dnomyar -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 6:44:32 AM)
LMAO. Steven is more of a Tonka truck person.

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 6:49:40 AM)
Ohhhhh TONKA yessss you got it!!!!!!!!!!!!! damn..I wonder if I could ever get a ride I love all those big trucks ugh I'm a sucker[:)]

Dnomyar -> RE: Profile Assistance Sought (2/8/2011 7:12:25 AM)
Mmmm If your a sucker I have the truck for you. Im an ex truck driver.

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