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Killerangel -> RE: Low Libido (2/5/2011 9:57:23 AM)
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I'm going to go against the most prevalent answer and say from my experience in my own life, and what I've observed in others, a change in libido is usually caused by emotional triggers, not physical ones. You are the only one who can attest to the truth of this or not. Even though the bf is 'only' asking for a cuddle, he's still wanting things from you and whatever flavor it is does not change the fact that he's badgering to get something from you that you aren't wanting to give. Saying a disingenuous "I just wanted a cuddle, etc...." is him wanting you to give him something and it's all the same to you right now no matter what he wants - you aren't inclined to want to give it so it doesn't really matter what exactly he's asking for.
A break down in physical intimacy is generally, I feel, a reflection of what is happening between the couple, not a physical problem. I feel it might be true in your case because of the negative emotions I got upon reading your posting. You seem to feel put out by your guy, that isn't a finger pointing at you at all, just a comment on how things came across. If he's clinging and you are needing your space then you're at odds with each other. What is causing that? I'd not discount the physical things the others mentioned but you might get farther if you can figure out why you seem to need space from his wants and why you aren't particularly interested in connecting with him.
Physical intimacy is obviously one of the closest ways you can be with someone you have feelings for. Why are you pushing that away? It's usually the first thing that suffers when there are relationship problems and the hardest thing to get back to normal after resolving those problems.
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