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ORIGINAL: windchymes

I make it a practice not to associate with parentises who are clearly loco.

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl


To Littlewonder, noted that You have a plethora of postings since 2005. I am not blessed with Your experience, I am a novice. AGAIN, this was not a one off play session.
This is not about being wrapped in cotton wool, this is about basic human care.

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl


To Littlewonder, noted that You have a plethora of postings since 2005. I am not blessed with Your experience, I am a novice. AGAIN, this was not a one off play session.
This is not about being wrapped in cotton wool, this is about basic human care.

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl


Littlewonder This is not about the wound itself. It is about responsibilty. If someone gave you care of thier valuable property, would you not honour that trust.
If someone placed a living being in your care, would you not at least phone or mail said living being to adhere to your "acceptance of responsibilty".
That, Littlewonder is the point.

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl


Littlewonder This is not about the wound itself. It is about responsibilty. If someone gave you care of thier valuable property, would you not honour that trust.
If someone placed a living being in your care, would you not at least phone or mail said living being to adhere to your "acceptance of responsibilty".
That, Littlewonder is the point.

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl


Littlewonder This is not about the wound itself. It is about responsibilty. If someone gave you care of thier valuable property, would you not honour that trust.
If someone placed a living being in your care, would you not at least phone or mail said living being to adhere to your "acceptance of responsibilty".
That, Littlewonder is the point.

It seems as if your master is the one who dropped the ball. He lent you out to another without...
a) arranging for you to be taken care of by the loaner master
b) caring for you himself
c) discussing the boundaries that the loaner master should have stayed within.

If you should be upset with anyone you should be upset with your master and yourself. It was no one else's responsibility for your care than between the two of you. If you didn't like the uncaring attitude of the one who caned you, then you should be discussing that with your master because he picked him.

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl

Tal and greetings to all. As I am relatively new to living the life.I find myself in a need for impartial guidance.
Names of persons involved will never be released. This is non fiction.
A female slave who was 'submitting' to her in-loco parentis Master, during a discipline session , the Master broke His cane...leaving bleeding cuts.
The master in question is an expert in His field, and a highly experienced Master having been active in the lifesyle for over 30 years.

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1: Master has additional responsibility in caring for another Masters property- yes/no ?

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2: The bleeding cuts became infected, yet at no point did this "Highly Experieced" in-parentis even bother to send the girl a txt msg to astertain that all was well -is this normal/acceptable practice -?

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Yes, I understand I am capable of caring for infected wounds, however that is not my point. Repeated, constructive feedback would be most welcome.

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1: Master has additional responsibility in caring for another Masters property- yes/no ?
2: The bleeding cuts became infected, yet at no point did this "Highly Experieced" in-parentis even bother to send the girl a txt msg to astertain that all was well -is this normal/acceptable practice -?

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl

5:Said 'expert' disclosed AFTERWARDS that He has been waiting five months to break that cane over intense feelings "of anger" towards a former sub of His.
Perhaps point 5 may answer the 'why' question of non existant aftercare.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

My slave's well-being is my responsibility and whether I'm there or not, it never stops being *her* responsibilty, too. If I owned you, that cunt would have busted hands & ribs and plastic teeth now.

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I'm looking at it from the other Dom's POV. If I damage another person's property, (beyond normal wear and tear ;-) it's My job to fix it

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl
This is not about the wound itself. It is about responsibilty. If someone gave you care of thier valuable property, would you not honour that trust.
If someone placed a living being in your care, would you not at least phone or mail said living being to adhere to your "acceptance of responsibilty".

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl


Littlewonder This is not about the wound itself. It is about responsibilty. If someone gave you care of thier valuable property, would you not honour that trust.
If someone placed a living being in your care, would you not at least phone or mail said living being to adhere to your "acceptance of responsibilty".
That, Littlewonder is the point.

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ORIGINAL: gungadin09

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ORIGINAL: kefgirl
This is not about the wound itself. It is about responsibilty. If someone gave you care of thier valuable property, would you not honour that trust.
If someone placed a living being in your care, would you not at least phone or mail said living being to adhere to your "acceptance of responsibilty".

You're right that it's about responsibility, but if you still need to be told what to think, then here goes:

1. It's Loco's fault for damaging someone else's toy and not taking responsibility for fixing it.
2. It's your Master's fault for lending you out to Someone who's clearly a pycho.
3. It's Loco's and Master's fault for not clarifying who was responsible for what in this scenario.
4. It's your own fault for not making sure that #3 happened before you started.
5. It's your own fault that a) knowing your Master wasn't going to be there, and b) was depending on Someone else to "punish" You, didn't raise a red flag in your mind.
6. It's your own fault that, knowing that you had been injured, you STILL didn't bother to clarify who was going to be responsible for what in terms of care.
7. It's Loco's fault for not following up.
8. It's Master's fault for not following up.
9. It might also be your fault for not communicating to Loco and Master the seriousness of the situation; for example, if the cuts looked superficial at the time and became infected later, it might not have been obvious that you *needed* help in caring for them.
10. It's your fault for not seeing a doctor if the wounds were serious.
11. It's your fault for not being able to care for them yourself if they were not serious.
12. It's your fault for posing this question to a bunch of strangers instead of talking to the people who were actually involved.
13. It's your own fault that, having asked the question, you don't have the good sense to listen, and instead keep arguing with people over answers that they gave.
14. Above all- it is your fault for equating being Someone's submissive with being their child. In short: if you need a "parent"; if you aren't qualified to make decisions and take responsibility for yourself... then you aren't fit to consent to BDSM in the first place.

pam

P.S.- In my opinion, you're very lucky. Instead of complaining, you should be thanking your stars that it wasn't any worse. If you think that what happened to you was the worst thing that could have happened- think again.