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Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 12:00:34 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		Hi ladies and gents...

I have a newbie sub friend who is in the reading and asking questions stage who would like to know about protocols for public play.  I never had any reading material on this, as my Master told me what I needed to know, so I don't have my own resources to share with her.  Can you good people hook me up?

Thank you... 

Daddysredhead

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 12:02:08 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Do you mean "how to act at a play party/kinky public event" or "how to do kinky play in general mixed/vanilla public"?

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 12:34:17 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Rules for public play vary from playspace to playspace.  Most are widely ignored from playspace to playspace.

Sits back and waits for the safety patrol to rail against this and show how much safer and better they are...

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 12:48:45 PM   
Phoenixandnika


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Status: offline 		These are some of the basics that I use. Though each "party" or "dungeon" may have their own rules. The simplest way to fit in in a play party is to behave politely.
 
Phoenix's Nika

  1. Do not make assumptions. Negotiate all scenes. Do not assume that the presence of someone at this party means they are available. Do not involve yourself in a scene without an invitation.

  2. Never touch anyone, their equipment, or belongings without permission.

  3. Privacy and discretion are to be respected. All information about party activities, attendees, etc. is to be considered confidential. Do not bring cameras or other recording devices.

  4. Treat everyone with equal respect -- Doms, Subs, Switches, and Staff alike.

  5. Play sober!No drugs or alchohol before, during, or after a scene. 

  6. Smoking will be at the discretion of the host.

  7. Please be prepared with something to cover your more daring clothing -- or lack thereof -- when you go outside the party space.

  8. No genital or anal penetration, oral sex or exchange of bodily fluids.

  9. Solicitation for sexual services is not allowed.

  10. Please agree on safe words for scenes. "Red" will be a default safe word.

  11. Respect scenes. Limit conversation and screaming in the play area. Don't crowd the playing areas.

  12. Respect the playspace. Clean up after messy scenes. Use a drop cloth when waxing. No scat or water sports without DMs approval.

  13. Limit play to the playspace. Do not engage in play outside the Dungeon Monitor's line of vision.

  14. Don't bring weapons (i.e. guns)

  15. Dungeon Monitors have the final word on everything including the right to stop an unsafe or abusive scene. Check with the DM before any fireplay (waxing, cupping, flash paper, etc.), piercing, or bloodsports.


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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 12:53:46 PM   
Proprietrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead
would like to know about protocols for public play. 


I'm not sure I understand the question...
Public play as in, a dungeon? They should have their rules posted or handed out in most cases.
Public play, like umm... wearing a leash and collar to the mall?  lol
Protocol as in rules?
Protocol as in using honorary titles?
I'm just not real clear on the question at hand.

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 12:54:55 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		No sex?  How boring, but you allow bloodplay? 

All hail the sacred DM, the orgasmic position for control freaks with nobody to play with

Yep, all rules vary...

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 1:02:29 PM   
CrappyDom


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http://www.br.org/etiquette.html

http://www.smodyssey.com/events/parties.php?rules

Hosts of the largest SF Bay area events

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 1:16:53 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		"how to act at a play party/kinky public event" is what she is looking for...  thanks for helping me clarify, LA.

I think by public play she also meant at dungeon parties, as in how to interact with other attendees as she may go to a play night to see what it's about and has no one to go with.  She doesn't want to offend anyone by "saying or doing the wrong thing."  I had already mentioned to her several of the things that Phoenix mentioned in the earlier response about respecting scenes, don't touch people or their stuff, and be respectful above all else.

Thanks again,
~ Red

< Message edited by Daddysredhead -- 5/3/2006 1:36:14 PM >

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RE: Links regarding protocols for public play, etc? - 5/3/2006 1:25:04 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

"how to act at a play party/kinky public event" is what she is looking for...  thanks for helping me clarify, LA.

~ Red


- use the same manners you would at any vanilla party (unless you have sucky manners, in case, learn good vanilla manners and then use those)

- ask before touching anyone/anything

- be mindful of space and react appropriately (social space = social activities, play space = play activities, quiet space = quiet activities)

- know the play rules before, or shortly after you get there

- if you have a question, ask the door person or dungeon monitor

Those rules should be able to get you through just about anything.


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No talking in the dungeon - 5/3/2006 3:27:31 PM   
roughleather


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Status: offline 		The SF Citadel doesn't allow talking in the dungeon, except as part of a scene. It's a recent rule, and, surprisingly, it's working. 

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RE: No talking in the dungeon - 5/3/2006 3:33:09 PM   
paulpuckett


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Status: offline 		Do they have a "designated talking" area?  Just curious.

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RE: No talking in the dungeon - 5/3/2006 3:33:48 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		I haven't checked out the Citadel, keep hearing good things about it, guess I am going to have to drag someone there and try it out.

Is the play mostly floggers and single tails or?

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RE: No talking in the dungeon - 5/3/2006 3:56:11 PM   
JohnWarren


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quote:

ORIGINAL: roughleather

The SF Citadel doesn't allow talking in the dungeon, except as part of a scene. It's a recent rule, and, surprisingly, it's working. 


This has been the rule at all our parties.  If people break it they usually quiet down after being reminded and I can't think of anyone we've kicked out because of it

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