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RE: question - 2/8/2011 3:44:48 PM

gungadin09

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ORIGINAL: Crd2091

I'm as mature as i can be for my age.
I'm self assurance ,but i may not radiate power.
I just suck at first impression. that why i asked!
I could careless on what people want me to be.
I am me and no one else

Chance

Okay then: take this paragraph and post it in Your profile. (Well, after You proofread it.)

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RE: question - 2/8/2011 6:37:33 PM

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Good spelling and punctuation.

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RE: question - 2/9/2011 9:22:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: Crd2091

what do slave look for in there master for a good first impression

Online? Good grammar and spelling are extremely important. Your lack of such is not saying ESL to me, it is saying laziness/carelessness, which is something I look to avoid in a Dom.

I look for a well written profile that includes vanilla interests. I would prefer to see several pictures (no cock shots).

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RE: question - 2/9/2011 1:32:40 PM

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seriously, don't send erection pictures with your first message. and you should be polite/don't send messages like: "Dear Slut-whore-face, la la la"

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RE: question - 2/9/2011 9:06:39 PM

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be real honest and yourself. go to events and meet others and learn from the lifestyle what you will and enjoy the ride

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RE: question - 2/10/2011 2:06:17 AM

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when my master first started out he was 16 and had a relationship with an experienced sub who taught him a lot. he then went to munches and groups. (no internet then). he didnt get his first sub for a few years after he started as he was gaining experience.

things that i saw in him was confidence but not conceited at all. someone who knew who they were and had control over himself. someone with experience(ok you cant have it at 19 but you can get it). i also looked for someone who was trustworthy and honest. someone who i could feel his dominance without him having to show it. and above all was a master of himself. i am just lucky i found it in someone but all that only comes with age and experience. He also has the experiences to push me further and to help me grow into who i am and what i am. (yes at 50 i have only just started to discover it)

you need to start slowly get experience and best way is to get out there and attend groups.

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RE: question - 2/10/2011 3:21:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: Crd2091

what do slave look for in there master for a good first impression

Each of us will look for different qualities so there isn't a pat answer to your question. Stick with being your authentic self so you can attract a slave who respects and appreciates who you really are rather than who she thinks you are because you are trying to impress. Your future slave will be impressed by you already so just work to expand yourself and you'll be fine. I know you are going to hate to hear this but,= be patient. This isn't a race and taking time to work on yourself and find your slave will be well worth the effort.

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RE: question - 2/10/2011 8:10:20 AM

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I will try to answer your question and what I believe makes a good first impression. I am going to assume that the first impression is meeting someone face to face, not a profile.

When I meet a Dom, I look for the "It" factor. Some have it, others do not. What do I mean? The "It" factor to me is his aire of dominance. It is a self assuredness. He is secure in who he is. He knows what he wants. He is kind, considerate, and steady in his convictions. He will not get into petty arguments with other Doms. He is comfortable agreeing to disagree. He wears his clothes without a care to what others think, because they reflect his personality. He is not trying to impress anyone. He knows who he is and that is all that matters.

I don't think it is something that can be learned. It has to be a part of his inner personality...

I hope this helps.

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RE: question - 2/23/2011 4:10:30 PM

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that is true, xelinda. i can browse through pictures and usually correctly guess dom or sub based on their expressions. especially around their eyes.

i have been into dom/sub for years. i honestly started as a sub until i learned that i was manipulating from the bottom. now i am happily training to master my slave (though often i don't wonder if she isn't doing the same thing.)

do what feels good to you and your partner. if you have questions, ASK! there is nothing like someone causing needless pain, just because they didn't understand what they were doing.

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RE: question - 2/23/2011 4:12:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: hipsterkittyxo

seriously, don't send erection pictures with your first message. and you should be polite/don't send messages like: "Dear Slut-whore-face, la la la"

*goes off to change my form letter*
Carry on.

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RE: question - 4/15/2011 4:46:22 PM

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You need to be able to provide or hav the potential to provide what the potential Master is looking for and try to avoid red flags. Read the Master's requirements carefully and decide if you can really be what he/she is looking for in a slave. Always have a chosen safe word where it is needed and be willing to make consessions where needed as long as you feel comfortable to do. be sure that the two of you fully understand each other and the potential slave needs to be able to play his part well and take punishment as needed (This is where a safe word is somewhat helpful. Be sure the Master knows what it is and what you are saying with it). If something is going too far in your perspective ask for a time out and discuss it. Communication is key to this lifestyle and is one of your greatest protections for safety. We each have a begining point from which to grow fromand be willing to have our limits expanded over time and space. If it doesn't work for both of you say so and keep looking. You will know Him when you see Him.

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RE: question - 4/15/2011 4:55:07 PM

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Everything - said above about maturity - education etc etc....

i wanted to add - that 'looks' are important too. I'm not talking handsome or not - thats subjective based on the person looking -
I'm talking about - do you have on clean clothes, have you brushed and flossed....

Dare I quote Ru Paul - but if you're not loving yourself - how the hell should you be expected to love someone else? ( love - fuck - beat interchangable in the last love)

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