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A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 11:36:22 AM   
roger4use


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Status: offline 		My question revolves around marrying ones Mistress. This is my story. Sometime in early January i met a Mistress online here at CM. Over that time She has had me to certain things, tasks some call them. And as time has gone on She has added more and more things for me to do, which has been exciting and rewarding as it has pleased Her and You can all guess my rewards. As time has been going it seemed W/we have devoloped a bond, which has grown deeper and deeper. And out of the blue She says She want to marry me!! Now we have never spoken or have seen each other, other than chatting here on CM. Here's the question, don't You think this is a little fast? or a lot fast? i tried to explain to Her that this is just a little sudden and decided to decline Her offer, was i too harsh?

roger
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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 11:40:29 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		You know...going from 100% online to married and (assumedly) living together does seem a little fast to me, yes.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 11:41:16 AM   
MDAssubmichael


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Status: offline 		You've never met?, let alone spoken on the phone and now a legal and binding arrangement is on the table? Don't you already know the answer to this one?

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 12:21:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh Roger, I can offer you a better bridge and point you in the right direction to RUN!

Either that or I am sure as hell doing this all wrong!


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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 12:24:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Will it be an online only marriage?

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 1:42:32 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		You're 45 years old but have to ask complete strangers if her behavior is appropriate or not? I'd like to say I'm shocked, but I can't. It's not surprising that you lack common sense or that you have some desire to share your drama.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 4:06:17 PM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: roger4use

My question revolves around marrying ones Mistress. This is my story. Sometime in early January i met a Mistress online here at CM. Over that time She has had me to certain things, tasks some call them. And as time has gone on She has added more and more things for me to do, which has been exciting and rewarding as it has pleased Her and You can all guess my rewards. As time has been going it seemed W/we have devoloped a bond, which has grown deeper and deeper. And out of the blue She says She want to marry me!! Now we have never spoken or have seen each other, other than chatting here on CM. Here's the question, don't You think this is a little fast? or a lot fast? i tried to explain to Her that this is just a little sudden and decided to decline Her offer, was i too harsh?

roger


Why would it be harsh if you done what your instinct was telling you. It`s there for a reason. I would also advise you not to send cash to help her move and such without knowing her way better than you do.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 4:39:14 PM   
LadyNTrainer


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ORIGINAL: roger4use
Sometime in early January i met a Mistress online here at CM. [...]  And out of the blue She says She want to marry me!! 


Are you fuckin' serious?  A month of talking to someone online, you've never met or spoken on the phone, and she thinks marriage is a good idea?

This is either a scammer out for your cash, or she is totally bugfuck nuts and living in a fantasy world, not grounded in reality.  Either way it's bad news.  Run for the hills and don't look back.

And you really needed strangers on the Internet to tell you this? 


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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 4:45:33 PM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

quote:

ORIGINAL: roger4use
Sometime in early January i met a Mistress online here at CM. [...]  And out of the blue She says She want to marry me!! 


Are you fuckin' serious?  A month of talking to someone online, you've never met or spoken on the phone, and she thinks marriage is a good idea?

This is either a scammer out for your cash, or she is totally bugfuck nuts and living in a fantasy world, not grounded in reality.  Either way it's bad news.  Run for the hills and don't look back.

And you really needed strangers on the Internet to tell you this? 



Seriously........Harsh but fair, please take note OP.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 4:50:37 PM   
rulemylife


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Status: offline 		Definitely go for it.

And make sure you don't have a pre-nup, that might upset her.

Better yet, forget all that marriage nonsense and just transfer all your assets into her name and soon you'll have a lifetime of online bliss to look forward to.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 7:41:23 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Hey Steven great question. I luv you guy. Op I have experienced what you are going thru more than once. I didnt think the women were nuts. Very lonely yes. Maby she thinks from your conversations you might be the guy for her. On the other side I know af few women on here who have went to guys who asked the same question and turned out to be players after the women went to them. Set up a meeting and meet half way. If she declines then there is always the delete button and move one.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 7:42:27 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Too harsh? Please.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/9/2011 9:03:04 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		If you seriously don't know the answer to this then I suggest therapy and getting offline.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 1:46:08 AM   
SexyBossyBBW


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Status: offline 		Are you serious, or just trying to get us to look at your profile, and protect you from the big, bad, online domina?   

Anyway, the answer to your question is yes, you were harsh in not accepting her online wedding invite...   Why try real life human connection, when online suits you perfectly?    M

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 5:25:28 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		If you seriously considered marrying somebody you never met and chatted online for about a month, I would suggest a reality check and leaving the computer.

Seriously, marry somebody you never met - do you need anybody else to tell you it is a bad idea?

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 6:08:48 AM   
roger4use


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Status: offline 		Thank You, Thank You, running for the hills is exactly what i felt and thought, just wanted comfirmation that they were correct, and thanks for everyone else comments too!!

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 6:56:27 AM   
OttersSwim


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quote:

ORIGINAL: roger4use

Thank You, Thank You, running for the hills is exactly what i felt and thought, just wanted comfirmation that they were correct, and thanks for everyone else comments too!!


So Roger...understand that we don't know the details of your online relationship with this Lady...and thus, are probably less qualified than a homeless guy on the street to judge what you should do.  It may be that this Lady merely stated that she wanted to marry you as a joke, or a statement that you had made her happy in that "this one's a keeper" sort of way. 

She could also be an online only Domme, be scamming money out of you and wrecking parts of your life, and not good for you at all - we don't know, and will likely never know well enough to actually give you good advice for your situation. 

So I guess that you will have to do what your head and your heart tell you is the right thing.  You could be throwing away something quite nice that feeds you...or you could be discarding something that is not good for you at all. 

YOU must make that call.  Not us.

If there were good advice any of us could give you, it would be based on common sense - to communicate any concerns you have to this Lady in a calm, clear, and concise manner, be kind and gentle with her feelings, and do what is right for you and your life.

Good luck...


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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 6:03:40 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		OP I was just thinking. Go ahead and marry her. The experience will be good for you. The only downside is that you will divorce her and sometimes thats not really a downside.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 7:13:32 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		meet with her in rt and discuss things as it seems to be way too fast.

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RE: A Mistress and Marrying Her - 2/10/2011 7:55:37 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		But if he moves to slow someone else with get her. What the hell are you waiting for OP.

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