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atyourholyfeet -> Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:08:04 PM)
Hello All , I have a question . I'm married to a dominant lady in a D/a relationship . She used to go out sometimes without telling me where she's going , and stay out of home for several nights sometimes . She refuses to tell me where she is going and refused to give me any details about people she's going out with . And when I tell her that I feel neglected , she tells me that in D/s relationship she has the right to do what she wants and I have to accept . What do you think about this ? Is this an acceptable behavior ? I mean , should I just accept this or do you think that she's not fair to me ? Please answer me . Sam

osf -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:11:59 PM)
were you the one that initially introduced her to d/s?

FukinTroll -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:14:57 PM)
Well sam, is that the shit you signed up for?

preytolife -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:25:52 PM)
What do you think? You married her. She's more than just your Domme. Are you okay with that? D/s relationships do not give you the right to do whatever you want.

leadership527 -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:29:02 PM)
I have a question. You want to know whether her behavior is "acceptable", right? By who's standards? Mine? What's that got to do with anything? Why would ANY of our standards mean anything whatsoever to YOUR relationship? Let's suppose I told you that such behavior was acceptable within my marriage. What would that tell you? Nothing. You still wouldn't know the mechanic which makes it work out for us and whether that'd work for you or not. In the end it's going to come down to whether YOU find it acceptable. So do you? ~Jeff

Shadow-tiger -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:32:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: atyourholyfeet And when I tell her that I feel neglected , she tells me that in D/s relationship she has the right to do what she wants and I have to accept. What do you think about this ? Sam, don't take this personally but: BWAHAHAHAHA!!!! Ahem, sorry. It's just that when you come right down to it, unless you agreed to a 24/7 total master/slave relationship where you'll do anything and everything.. then I call bullshit. Funny thing about a relationship, kinky or not: It takes two to tango. If you want to be walked all over then hey, enjoy. If not, then I humbly suggest you open your trap and tell the lady that's not okay.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:33:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: atyourholyfeet Hello All , I have a question . I'm married to a dominant lady in a D/a relationship . She used to go out sometimes without telling me where she's going , and stay out of home for several nights sometimes . She refuses to tell me where she is going and refused to give me any details about people she's going out with . And when I tell her that I feel neglected , she tells me that in D/s relationship she has the right to do what she wants and I have to accept . What do you think about this ? Is this an acceptable behavior ? I mean , should I just accept this or do you think that she's not fair to me ? Please answer me . Sam She's cheating. Bang her best friend.

Shadow-tiger -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:38:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker She's cheating. Bang her best friend. ... or you could try that. snerk

DarkSteven -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:39:00 PM)
It's not acceptable to me, but who cares? If it's acceptable to you and her, that's all that matters. I assume you discussed things like this prior to marrying her, right?

LadyPact -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 5:58:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll Well sam, is that the shit you signed up for? Thank you.

TotallyDude -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 6:07:58 PM)
quote: Hello All , I have a question . I'm married to a dominant lady in a D/a relationship . She used to go out sometimes without telling me where she's going , and stay out of home for several nights sometimes . She refuses to tell me where she is going and refused to give me any details about people she's going out with . And when I tell her that I feel neglected , she tells me that in D/s relationship she has the right to do what she wants and I have to accept . What do you think about this ? Is this an acceptable behavior ? I mean , should I just accept this or do you think that she's not fair to me ? Please answer me . Sam What are you doing capping the "S" in your name, sam? Did your totally-real-and-not-at-all-imaginary Wife/Mistress/Owner allow you to cap the "S" or will it be 50 lashes and a night in the box when She finds out you did so without Her permission? Dude, on the real, next time you troll for wank material write the scenario a little better and post it in the Mistress forum. That's just, like, proper etiquette, man.

thishereboi -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 6:11:03 PM)
Is it the same one from this thread? http://www.collarchat.com/m_2518840/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2518883 and after 2 years, you still don't have a clue[8\|]

angelikaJ -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 6:22:49 PM)
In general, what is "fair" is not always what is equitable. If this is something you can accept as part of the terms of your relationship, then accept it. If it is unacceptable to you, then it is unacceptable to you. If you are sexually involved with her, then the fact that she is in all likelyhood having sex outside of the marriage and then therefor exposing you to the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases is unacceptable. If her not being monogamous was not discussed and agreed upon before hand, then in my opinion it is unacceptable. Obviously you are unhappy with it, and so it is unacceptable to you. Really, in the end, that is all that matters.

LadyPact -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 6:31:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TotallyDude Dude, on the real, next time you troll for wank material write the scenario a little better and post it in the Mistress forum. That's just, like, proper etiquette, man. If you are suggesting that the wank material needs to be directed to the Mistress forum, I'll kick your ass. [sm=mistress.gif] Edited for an emote, of all things. [8D]

Palliata -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 6:36:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll Well sam, is that the shit you signed up for? Perfect response. No improvements to be made. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: TotallyDude Dude, on the real, next time you troll for wank material write the scenario a little better and post it in the Mistress forum. That's just, like, proper etiquette, man. If you are suggesting that the wank material needs to be directed to the Mistress forum, I'll kick your ass. I think sam would probably rather you directed that his way [;)]

FukinTroll -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 6:38:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll Well sam, is that the shit you signed up for? Thank you. Anytime doll. SLURP!

kdsub -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 7:38:05 PM)
These folks are all giving advice and they know nothing of your relationship. I have one piece of advice...follow your own feelings period... Nothing else counts...not even your wife. If you are not happy and satisfied with the relationship then change it or walk away and find one you can live with. IT WILL NOT WORK OTHERWISE. Butch

littlewonder -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 8:05:08 PM)
Imo this has zero to do with d/s and to do with someone disrespecting her spouse. Sounds to me that she is using her "power" to cheat and lie to you. I personally would be asking for a divorce if this was my marriage.

StrangerThan -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 8:28:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 I have a question. You want to know whether her behavior is "acceptable", right? By who's standards? Mine? What's that got to do with anything? Why would ANY of our standards mean anything whatsoever to YOUR relationship? Let's suppose I told you that such behavior was acceptable within my marriage. What would that tell you? Nothing. You still wouldn't know the mechanic which makes it work out for us and whether that'd work for you or not. In the end it's going to come down to whether YOU find it acceptable. So do you? ~Jeff This. To the OP: You want a bunch of people on a message board to tell you that you're either right or wrong for feeling the way you do. That's about the gist of your post. And the truth of the matter is, if it's wrong for you, it's wrong, no matter who says different. The best you can do is figure out for yourself, what you'll accept, what you won't, and either live with it or not. I will say that she's wrong in one respect. Anyone in a relationship has the right to disappear and fuck around as long as the other permits it. It doesn't matter which hat you stick on your head.

LPslittleclip -> RE: Should I accept it ?? (2/9/2011 8:39:11 PM)
have a discussion with your wife/Domme and hash it out. find a way to get it to work or get a divorce.

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