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Hello,
I waited to write anything here until I knew what I wanted to say, being a new member here. So my interest here is to get some guidance to consider in regards to my new wife and slave. Here is my challenge...
My wife and I (newlyweds) have been together for almost a decade and are starting to realize we both have a great deal of kink. Some of it may sound foolish, but she was afraid her kink would scare me off, as it has scared off other men. She is a nympho or the closest thing I have ever met to one. Also, she has been saying that some of her kinks/fantasies are rather intense. Thats fine with me because I was in a similar position. I also desire sex daily and have had many kinks I thought made me a pervert or they were unacceptable. So we never were really 100% honest about our sexuality but I think we knew it was lurking in each other.
We finally had a long talk about things as we approached our wedding date because we both felt like these things are important to know before we tie the knot. The only problem we have had is her kinky side became rather voracious. Now, do not misunderstand, I am happy with this development but I know that her challenge is to keep her sated. I am having a bit of issue with the safety aspects of her masochism. I definitely like to let my sadistic side out but I have 2 things:
1. I like it so much I worry about my control, I am afraid to hurt her(too badly)
2. I was abused and have had the impression that only bad men hurt women ( I know she likes it = internal conflict)
I do not want to give the impression that I dont like that she desires my sadistic side, I LOVE IT. I have just kept it locked away for so long. In our playtimes, I have discovered how much I like to Pin down, tie up, shackle, spank,bite,choke, control and restrict movement and the more I feel like she is being hurt a little but getting off on it- the more I get off on it. Part of it is that in RL she is a powerful woman, highly intelligent(masters degree) and a no BS type of woman. She is in charge of several people at her work and has a leadership role there. Most people respect or fear her in the workplace(if they know whats good for them) as she is pretty hard and calculating. She is also beautiful. Men are very attracted to her looks. She is 5 '0 and about 115 with 32DD. Shes Bi but is about 80% straight. She likes girls but needs a man. Earning her worship is a big turn on to me.
I am an artist and own and operate an art gallery, also in charge of several people while being solely responsible for the artistic exposure of about 15 artists. I dont have a problem with a leadership role. I am 6'0 and 160. I would consider myself attractive as well as phenomenally talented, and humble. 
We would like to have a female playmate for her so she can be overwhelmed. She would like it if I made the friend help me work her over. I would like to dom them both.
So here we are, her wanting- me wanting... I have difficulty knowing when the switch happens from her role in the workplace as Dominant to her slavery at home. As far as submissive vs. Slavery- she wants to be my slave. I believe to an extent she wants my permission for things, wants no decision making power at home. She loves to please and will nearly cry if she disappoints, even if its my fault. Im working on getting over my own issues and learning to be her Dom. I thought joining this site and communicating some of these thoughts and experiences, I could teach myself to be the Dom she deserves. If I am not, I will have an unhappy slave and with her sexual appetite, thats not good. Also if I dont catch on to how to make this smoother, more natural feeling, I will be an unhappy master. I often anger myself because I did not capitalize on a perfect moment. I have never done any of this before and its not as simple as doing "whatever I want", it is important to me that I take my lover to the edge of insanity. I want her to come uncontrollably. I want her to scream. Right now, Im getting that from her but I need to step it up and really learn how to initiate my dominance.
OK thats all I can think of- feel free to ask or communicate things
- Artist
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