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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/11/2011 8:31:11 AM

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But Kana..
Cashew wants to friend your furbaby...

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/11/2011 12:08:42 PM

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i used to say yes even if i didn't know them. i mean, sure, whatever. But after a while it started to get out of hand. Now i just accept them and if i don't know the person i take them off later. i figure that's less rude than saying "i don't want to be your friend". Also, i think you can choose whether they appear on your friend page, and whether you appear on theirs. i think i still appear as a friend on many total strangers' pages, and i don't mind.

i don't have a lot of actual friends on collarme. (Which i'm fine with). Just a bunch of people i've never spoken to who, for some reason, want to be "friends". Kind of funny, actually.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/11/2011 12:48:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

But Kana..
Cashew wants to friend your furbaby...

You mean Meephisto?

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/11/2011 1:55:20 PM

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I do not know if what you heard has any merit, OP. If it does, it sounds pretty shallow to me, and would not define who i am at all.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/11/2011 6:43:04 PM

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i used to say yes even if i didn't know them. i mean, sure, whatever. But after a while it started to get out of hand. Now i just accept them and if i don't know the person i take them off later. i figure that's less rude than saying "i don't want to be your friend". Also, i think you can choose whether they appear on your friend page, and whether you appear on theirs. i think i still appear as a friend on many total strangers' pages, and i don't mind.

i don't have a lot of actual friends on collarme. (Which i'm fine with). Just a bunch of people i've never spoken to who, for some reason, want to be "friends". Kind of funny, actually.

Sorry, i guess i didn't answer the question. If i don't accept a person's friend request, it's because i don't know them, not because i'm afraid of looking like used goods. i usually don't judge other people by their friends either. The only exception would be the people who have hundreds of friends. That freaks me out a little.

i did have one guy email me and give me a hard time about "collecting friends" back when i was still letting total strangers friend me. i thought He was an asshole, telling me who to be friends with. But He got me thinking, and eventually i cleared my profile of the "friends" who i didn't know (although i'm still listed as their friend, they're not listed as mine.) So, i guess i am a little bit influenced by what others think.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/11/2011 10:26:18 PM

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But Kana..
Cashew wants to friend your furbaby...

You mean Meephisto?

yeah..

Probably better not to, though.. imagine the deviltry the two could come up with!

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 8:25:00 AM

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Well, this thread sure shows that we all have our individual views about friend requests that is for sure!! I might as well put my own two cents in regarding requests: If I have chatted or exchanged emails with the person here, and I like them, then yes I will add them as a friend. It doesn't matter to me what other people think of that and if the old adage "to each his own" doesn't apply in this world then where would it ever apply?? Lol

Thanks to all for the varied and interesting views!

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 8:29:33 AM

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To Kana:

Thanks for making that clear but I never assume what one person says or does applies to all. To me you are an unknown soul with all it's various strengths, weaknesses, desires, hopes and dreams wsiting to be discovered :)

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 8:29:45 AM

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For the record pam ninja-friended me.

And if I wasn't so good at paying attention, she would have been a complete stranger from my perspective, because she says very little about herself directly.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 8:35:31 AM

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I never accept friend requests unless I spoke to you live, know you from the boards, exchange emails with you to the point that I feel positively towards you or we met.

I have to wonder at the laziness of people who send me a friend request without having introduced themselves.

I find many to be pic collectors; strokes the ego to have all those pretty girls (or not) on their profile.

I don't care to be another photo on his wall; same with any other social networking entity.

I get this on Facebook also. Friends of friends, names/photos I don't really recognize. I am at the point where I ignore them all.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 8:46:02 AM

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Oh I agree, I cannot stand Facebook. People literally crawl out from the woodwork to find you and I have no clue who any of them are, and if I do, I don't want to be in touch with them.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 9:01:27 AM

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For the record pam ninja-friended me.

i did, but i was sort of drunk. Does that count as an excuse? Or does it just make me look pathetic?

For the record, You're one of the 3 people i've ever sent a friend request. All of them were from the forums. And i didn't introduce myself to any. A moment of weakness.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 9:10:01 AM

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Everyone on my friends list is someone I either know in r/l, or someone I've chatted to through the message board.

If it's someone I don't know at all, I reject the request.

If it's someone I barely know, I explain why I haven't accepted their request, then reject it.

This pretty much reflects how I feel.

Plus I hate clutter and having all those people to scroll through makes me want to windex the screen.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 9:16:43 AM

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Here I don't accept friend invites unless I sort of know you from the boards or you send me a cool intro note and we have some things in common because well hey this is more of an adult oriented site and I don't need 400 males as friends when I don't know any of them.

Facebook on the other hand I love. Admitted junkie. I have reunited with more high school and college classmates, old friends, distant family members, etc. then I could have imagined. A lot of these people graduated 25 years ago, look way different and have different names then from school, so how could I possibly remember them, so by ignoring their request based on my poor memory I would have missed out on reacquainting myself with some amazing people.

Hey if they aren't anyone I want to "friend" I just delete them, no big deal, but I'd rather haved more friends than less.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 9:38:24 AM

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I am such a bitch I prefer less over more.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 10:39:36 AM

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I've got to admit, I do have a bunch of youngins on my facebook page. Friends of my daughter who've come here or who I know through horseshows she and they have done together. Half of them I'm more interested in pictures of the horse than in the kid.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 10:51:58 AM

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I am such a bitch I prefer less over more.

It depends, if I don't find something interesting or in common pretty soon, I cut them off at the knees.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 11:14:58 AM

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1. Does that mean that these subs and Doms are trying to hide things right from the get go?
Not necessarily.
2. Are a sub or Dom who has friends on their profiles more transparent and honest and upfront right from the start?
Not necessarily.
3. Is the type of Dom and sub most people seek think they are the center of the universe and would not be happy to think their prospective partner would have no life prior to finding them?
That would be ridiculous to even think that way.
4. Is the above statement the real reason most sub's will not accept friend requests?
I accept a friend request on whether I consider them a friend or not. NOT on the basis of what other people may think. If someone I've never seen or heard of before tries to friend me, I will send him/her a message why I'm declining and then I will decline the request. If I've been writing cmails with them and/or know them from the message boards and would like to friend them, then yes I will accept. If some people are so shallow as to think I've been in the sack with everyone on my friends list, then THEY are the ones with a problem, not me, and I probably would not want to know them anyway. I have both men and women on my friends, Dom/mes, subs/slaves, and switches. Of widely varying ages also.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 11:21:46 AM

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I friend who I friend because both they and I seem to be on friendly terms. Let other doms or subs or flying monkeys or sofa cushions think what they may about it. Not my problem. If they're so shallow and simple minded to base some kind of negative impression off of a grouping of thumbnail pictures and names, rather than off of talking with me and using common sense then I probably don't wish to associate with that person anyway.

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RE: About accepting friend requests... Good or bad?? - 2/14/2011 11:12:14 PM

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HEY!! Watch the Flying monkey comments!!

*hugs*

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