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vegetablelamb -> RE: Approaching vs Being Approached (3/22/2011 9:28:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Arturas
That stat is likely right but should be ignored. I say that because 95 percent of each statistical set of 75 Doms online are just not up to this and the five percent left bring to the table what submissives look for. So this actually means there are more submissives than real Doms here. This means if you are a Dom and express yourself well, write honestly about yourself and your goals, honestly ask them about themselves while steering clear of sexual/BDSM topics till you know she is ready then you can ignore the competition because they don't really exist! They don't exist since the best they know to do or can do while writing her is a one liner and/or a tacky picture.
I'm not going to get into statistical likelihood, but as far as personal experience goes (for whatever it's worth), I rarely make initial contact with dominants on CM. For the most part it's because there's a sea of c-mail and profiles that it's unusual to find me browsing, but also because I find that if I strike their fancy then they'll initiate contact. This is not true when I find a genuine interest in someone, particularly because the interest stems from something more than "Baby, I'll dominate you so good you'll forget your social security number" and more from the way they've presented themselves as a person on their profile and on the message boards. If I'm genuinely interested by something of theirs, then I kind of consider them a step up from the other dominants and would like to get to know them in most cases. Of course, the only problem for me that stems from that is trying to begin an interaction with some response that is smooth, suave, and dare I say quirky enough to, in my eyes, justify a response and general conversation. [:)]
Overall, I tend to stick with the idea that there are a ton of people out there, and it's both parties' jobs to wade through and come across each other for the benefit of both. Both should put themselves out there sometimes because while you shouldn't always have to do all of the work, you shouldn't always lie back, relax, and hope good things come to you. I would hope if someone has a genuine interest in someone else, they'd be more interested in getting to the interaction rather than who makes the first move. You want to do it, then do it, amirite?
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