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Nanako -> RE: Are you sure you want a Dominant woman? (2/14/2011 6:07:58 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Nanako, you may see what I said as mean, but I see it as saying it how I see it and after her first thread I read, I think what I do and said what I did. I would say it again. I based everything I said on something she had said. If I was mean in others opinion, I will consider that and might even care what some might think, but in this case, I'm not sure I would agree. My response was an honest response to someone being mean and nasty to others and I don't tend to kiss the ass or be real compassionate towards people who have introduced themselves the way the op has.
I'm not sure that I understand your comments about being intelligently superior, the relation to how much someone is getting hit on and being isolated. I don't want to project here, so maybe you can be a bit more specific. There are times I will project a bit and others when I will want a bit more information so that I am not assuming far too much and responding from that place.
Hello miss ^_^
I understand your position, I hadn't really read the OP's other thread before this. She does seem quite mean spirited there. It looks to me, like the first post got off on the wrong foot, and she became defensive from there as everyone seemed to gang up Perhaps I'm just too quick to give the benefit of the doubt to people.
Both this thread, and her other one, do seem to be seeking validation to me. They're about problems she faces, admmittedly worded in a manner that stems from writing in the heat of frustration rather than calming down, but I think the responses she would have hoped for would be something along the lines of "we agree, those people are annoying, but not everyone is like that"
I've noticed that there does seem to be a general hostility on this forum, towards those who choose to express themselves negatively initially - by complaining about things. It's certainly not my place to pass judgement on this though, and I suspect it comes from everyone's own frustration at hearing the same complaints repeated so regularly.
The comments about intelligence were generally meant to e more tongue in cheek than implying any superioririty of my own, or others. I feel it can be isolating to be in a position where you get lots of unwanted attention, where your profile is specific about the sorts of people/relationships you're looking for. Lots of people sometimes need to vent a bit, ideally to people who can understand and sympathise with their frustrations. Perhaps blkswitch has simply chosen the wrong place/people for it.
But I'm not here to defend, or condemn anyone. ^^ I apologise if it's come across that way. I'm just doing my best to look at situations in a positive light, and understand people's motivations.
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