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first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 1:22:32 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		I am a white male, newly single and wanting to try being a sub who needs to be taught. I am in the Asheboro NC area and looking to meet dommes who want to play with a newbie. Later I want to try other things but I think I should experience this as a sub first. I don't want to be injured as some here seem to. I have to travel to you as I am in a place where they do not appreciate alternative lifestyles. Thank you for listening and giving me the chance to serve.
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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 1:30:09 AM   
isoLadyOwner


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Status: offline 		There are lifestyle Dommes that will do all the things you want, exactly at your pace, just how you like it, but they exist only in your fantasies.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 1:44:46 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		I am here because I know nothing, and a friend suggested this site to me. I want to try being a sub, I thought that was what this place was for...

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 1:45:56 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		The only thing I ask is not to be injured...

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:04:01 AM   
isoLadyOwner


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Status: offline 		In reading your ad I'm 99.999% sure you won't be injured in any way by a lifestyle Domme.

Lifestyle Dommes tend to be a bit independent, you have lots of requirements for what you want from one.

With or without a rewrite you need a miracle.

Edit: I'll be nicer. The cock shot will likely drive women away, an ad focusing on what you need from a Domme will generally repulse her, that you aren't even sure about your D/s orientation isn't a plus either.

You can be rich, respectful in your approach, educted, generous, and still need a miracle to find a lifestyle Domme.

You are chasing the male fantasy of a Domme, I would suggest you to see a pro Dominatrix in light of the way you describe what you want from your Domme.

< Message edited by isoLadyOwner -- 2/13/2011 2:14:03 AM >

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:13:13 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		Well then, changing it to 'straight newbie wanting to try being a sub, not interested in being injured' not sure what you meant by lots of requirements though because that is all I am really saying or intending. Thanks.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:16:32 AM   
isoLadyOwner


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Status: offline 		In a nutshell Female Domination is NOT about what YOU want unless you see a professional Dominatrix (even with a pro it still might not be about exactly what you want).

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:23:26 AM   
isoLadyOwner


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Status: offline 		Why not sweeten the pot and write about how you can please her and how you can make her life better?

The cock shot will turn off maybe 50% + of your dating pool, for some bizarre reason lots of women aggressively claim they don't like cock shots.

< Message edited by isoLadyOwner -- 2/13/2011 2:25:30 AM >

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:24:28 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		What ad are you talking about? This is the 'introduce yourself' place, I am in NC and wish to try serving as a sub to see if the experience is right got me. if that is not what this place is for, but instead only for fully experienced people to meet, I need to know. My only limit here is that I require to be considered a straight male and not injured.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:28:06 AM   
isoLadyOwner


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Status: offline 		I took a look at your earlier ad. I felt sorry for you afterwards so I thought I'd help you improve your chances.

It seemed you had a better chance of finding the Crown Jewels of England in your back yard than the Domme you described.

Nevermind, goodluck you're going to need it.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:30:13 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		well thanks, a little confused still, because I don't think I asked much of anything, but thanks.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:32:20 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		I deleted the shot because of your suggestion.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:35:34 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		in other words, what do YOU have to bring to the table?  You want this that and the other, but you DONT want that this and thus?  Nothing about why a woman should be drawn to you nd not the umpteen million others vying for her attention.You're a newbie.. so are many others.  Give a woman a reason to choose you above all the other newbies (many without your restrictions)?  Generally, pics of your genitalia will put you out of the running right off the bat (if you think your dick is teh best part of you, most women consider that to be a visual representation of WHAT you are..  you need to be more specific about WHO you are.. lose the cockshot)
Don't focus so much on what YOU want.. as a submissive, while it is right that you should pay attention to your NEEDS, you should pay as much attention to what SHE wants.

All your posts so far are ME ME ME!! posts.. SERIOUS turn off for most dominant women...

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:37:23 AM   
isoLadyOwner


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ORIGINAL: NakedSubToy

well thanks, a little confused still, because I don't think I asked much of anything, but thanks.


You weren't coming across as a "do me" sub, I wouldn't have offered advice if you had.

If you omit any hint of egocentricity on your part and focus on the benefits the Domme might gain in knowing you then your chances will be better.

Goodluck though, it can be a long lonely path with nothing at its end.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 2:48:00 AM   
Ambyant


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Status: offline 		I don't know what I'm doing awake so late/early!
and I saw the guys give you good advice - I wasn't even going to look at your profile (ad), damn good thing you became enlightened!  Not to answer your question, yet I'll offer a bit of insight there:
if your junk is already on display, there's nothing special, or sexy, interesting left for you to offer or be directed to show if a Dominant Woman is starting to chat with you - why rob her of a simple pleasure?
Always the Lady~Zya


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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 3:36:58 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		thanks all, I am as I said new here, and I want to do what is required of me.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 3:44:15 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		I am certainly open to suggestions as to what I can do for a domme, I am intrigued. I want to be my best for her whoever she turns out to be.

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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 3:59:33 AM   
Cherylmazana


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Status: offline 		Go to a munch as you seem to be willing to travel, meet and talk to people face to face without expectations of domination/sex/sexual thrills etc and find out what it is you really want and if you are willing to work towards the reality of pleasing a woman instead of wanting a woman to please you.

Face to face interaction with real people will hopefully show you that this isn’t some sort of male fantasy where the “Dominant” woman is only there to serve your wishes, because quite bluntly most real Dominant women have men who have no idea what they really want crawling out of the woodwork in places like this.

Your voice is one small one amongst thousands and you don’t seem to be offering anything other than “use me” which is what they all seem to be saying and translates into I want you to do all the work while I lay here.
And frankly if thats what you want then you are most likely going to have to pay for it.

Cheryl


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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 4:08:22 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the forums, OP.

I'm thinking you changed the profile since the thread started.  Good for you.

You're the second person that I've told this in less than a month.  You're completely wrong about there not being kinky people in your area.  Go to your local munch and meet some folks.


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RE: first time male sub seeking domme - 2/13/2011 6:32:21 AM   
NakedSubToy


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Status: offline 		i am here to serve and also to be dominated and if there is not work for me to do to get there then it isnt worth it to me. thanks for the info.

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