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golemx -> Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 7:54:00 AM)
So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices. Thoughts?

tazzygirl -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 7:57:15 AM)
Silence always works wonders... so does absence. Would not take long to get the point across.

LaTigresse -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 7:59:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices. Thoughts? You need to work on 'The Look'. Mine still works on my kids, and they are 30 and 31.

tazzygirl -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:00:25 AM)
quote: You need to work on 'The Look'. Mine still works on my kids, and they are 30 and 31. Amazing how the power of "the look" never fades!

came4U -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:03:31 AM)
Seriously I don't find being a pain in the ass in public very cute nor clever. If you feel the same and prefer to keep any and all D/s private by all means, then do something about it now to nip it in the butt (no pun intended). If not, you are letting her lead you once you get out of the house. That is a no-no, no? I would notify that you are not messin' around and her punishment is to pick her nose, very obviously, and very deeply in front of God and everybody and see how she likes that punishment because if she wants attention when you haven't given permission for, then there, that is her 'attention'. See if she enjoys that and let her know that THIS is how you feel when she pulls this crap in public.

Nanako -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:04:19 AM)
You could try a stealth punishment device. like a collar/bracelet/etc that administers electric shocks at the push of a remote control. However if you're serious: quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Silence always works wonders... so does absence. Would not take long to get the point across. This is probably the most severe punishment you can inflict on any sub. Depriving a sub of your attentions, and giving a taste of what life would be like without you, will hit very harshly. Be careful though, as resorting to that might seem over the top and cause more problems than it solves. Honestly, the best idea would be to sit down and have a chat in private, and explain that it's not acceptable. Any kind of public punishment is likely to cause embarrassment to you both and possibly a rift between you

kalikshama -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:07:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Silence always works wonders... so does absence. Would not take long to get the point across. This. Warn her ahead of time that bad behavior on her part will result in you getting up and leaving the venue. Or be sadistic and don't warn her.

allthatjaz -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:22:47 AM)
Give her the restaurant tab and then get your coat and wait for her outside but not before you have accidentally knocked the jug of water over her. Failing that tasers work well.

TotalDiscipline -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:23:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices. Thoughts? I just need to say.."Know your place" .

windchymes -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 8:35:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices. Thoughts? Date adults? Give atomic wedgies and giant noogies? Oh, I know! Take her in the bathroom and give her a swirlie! [8\|]

golemx -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 9:08:27 AM)
Good thoughts. It is absolutely true that if something is being done for attention then a good punishment is simply lowering the attention level to zero. Thanks.

leadership527 -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 10:34:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx Thoughts? Yeah. How about the next time you see her you say, "Stop doing that." Why is it that dominance seems to be the last tool used by all the dominants?

golemx -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 11:28:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: golemx Thoughts? Yeah. How about the next time you see her you say, "Stop doing that." Why is it that dominance seems to be the last tool used by all the dominants? Chuckle. If that had worked it wouldn't be an issue.

DarkSteven -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 11:30:00 AM)
Any idea why she's doing that?

FullCircle -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 11:35:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Thoughts? Order lobster and then when she isn't looking, do a runner and leave her alone to pay the bill. Works every time.

IronBear -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 11:46:42 AM)
A good hard open handed swat on her arse at the time she has infringed, will deliver immediate feed back which is unmistakable. Failing that, grab a chair and in a loud voice demand she sit on the "Naughty Chair" or in the "Naughty Corner" as one would do with a child. If all else fails contact the Super Nanny you see on TV and offer her the greatest challenge she has ever had..

Focus50 -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 12:22:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices. Thoughts? I don't deliberately humiliate or embarrass my girl in public and since I'm the Dom, I really don't much care for being disrespected or humiliated in public by her. If she slips up, the "stare" is generally all I need to put her in her place. But here's the kicker.... The "stare" only works in public because I've taken the time and trouble to ensure she knows her place in our private relationship. It's called respect - and I've earnt it. The way I see it, since earning your submissive's respect is a lesson you've chosen to let slide through your own inactions, you're compounding the problem by seeking quick-fix remedies to treat localised symptoms. As far as I'm concerned, if my girl couldn't behave like a respectful, submissive adult in public, the most appropriate punishment is to not be seen in public with her. Yet to meet a submissive who wasn't an attention junkie - earn some respect and leave her behind. If that don't work, I'd just plain leave her...! Focus.

leadership527 -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 12:43:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: golemx Chuckle. If that had worked it wouldn't be an issue. Dominance ALWAYS works... If you are actually dominant over her in the moment. Which was the point of my comment. I'm not meaning to make a snarky statement about how undomly you are. I generally leave that crap to others. What I'm trying to point out is that something is very wrong in your dynamic if "Stop it" doesn't work when you want it to. From your thought process, I see you saying to your sub, "you may do this or do that" and she is choosing which one she wants. Option A: Stop playing with me in public. Option B: Go ahead and play with me then I'll pinch you and/or tug your hair. So then she chooses one of those choices and I'm presuming your good with either one since you're the one who gave those choices to start with. Which leads me to wonder why this is being posted as a problem? Is your "problem" really more of a query to find out what kinky toys you can play with?

golemx -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 1:59:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: golemx Chuckle. If that had worked it wouldn't be an issue. Dominance ALWAYS works... If you are actually dominant over her in the moment. Which was the point of my comment. I'm not meaning to make a snarky statement about how undomly you are. I generally leave that crap to others. What I'm trying to point out is that something is very wrong in your dynamic if "Stop it" doesn't work when you want it to. From your thought process, I see you saying to your sub, "you may do this or do that" and she is choosing which one she wants. Option A: Stop playing with me in public. Option B: Go ahead and play with me then I'll pinch you and/or tug your hair. So then she chooses one of those choices and I'm presuming your good with either one since you're the one who gave those choices to start with. Which leads me to wonder why this is being posted as a problem? Is your "problem" really more of a query to find out what kinky toys you can play with? I know some people on here may not completely understand it... but I enjoy causing the odd bit of pain now and then.

golemx -> RE: Public and immediate punishment. (2/13/2011 2:01:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: golemx So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar. Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices. Thoughts? I don't deliberately humiliate or embarrass my girl in public and since I'm the Dom, I really don't much care for being disrespected or humiliated in public by her. If she slips up, the "stare" is generally all I need to put her in her place. But here's the kicker.... The "stare" only works in public because I've taken the time and trouble to ensure she knows her place in our private relationship. It's called respect - and I've earnt it. The way I see it, since earning your submissive's respect is a lesson you've chosen to let slide through your own inactions, you're compounding the problem by seeking quick-fix remedies to treat localised symptoms. As far as I'm concerned, if my girl couldn't behave like a respectful, submissive adult in public, the most appropriate punishment is to not be seen in public with her. Yet to meet a submissive who wasn't an attention junkie - earn some respect and leave her behind. If that don't work, I'd just plain leave her...! Focus. It's pretty early on in the relationship. The time in private hasn't had time to develop. I'm looking for tools to work in both.

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