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Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 10:32:43 AM   
AzLavan


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Status: offline 		My pet is an alpha who is bi. Yeah. He is currently training a female sub who he has known for years, has dated before, and uses to satisfy his urges for women. This is fine, but I am still hurt. Not because I feel threatened, but because it is causing him pain. Literally! When we are apart, he sleeps fitfully. However, when we are apart and he is with her, he feels sick, vomits constantly, and doesn't sleep at all. I've tried reassuring him, comforting him, and the like; but nothing seems to be working. Can anyone help me?

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 10:41:11 AM   
XenoMaster


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Status: offline 		Talk with him about it? Figure out the root cause?

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 10:44:14 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Uh...how about telling him to go to a doctor?

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 10:48:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Have you considered a purely physical explanation? When he is with her, is it at her place? Could he be allergic to something there (the bedding, a plant, the toiletries she uses)? Is there something that he regularly eats or drinks with her but not with you (a diet cola because that's all she has, but you don't keep them at home)? Honestly, it sounds to me exactly like my allergic reaction to aspartame (vomiting, nausea, restlessness, anxiety, sweating).

You two might want to have him checked with an allergy specialist to see if it might be something that simple.

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 11:29:37 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Are you sure that you're not making more out of it specifically because you are hurt and jealous?

Chances are, he's not getting ill because of her.  It could be something as simple as an allergy.  I second the opinion of going to the doctor.  Medical science may be able to determine the real cause for physical illness.  Your feelings will most likely need a dose of communication, confidence, and acceptance.


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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 11:56:10 AM   
AzLavan


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your responses. Maybe it is something she has/isdoing. I'll get him a RAST and see what happens. I just don't want him so sick. We are trying to talk, he keeps admitting guilt, but doesn't know what to do about it all. I told him, do it and deal with it, or stop. I am trying to let him make his own decision, beyond my feelings.

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 3:28:33 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Let me get this straight.

He is bi.
He plays with a fem when away from you.

You feel hurt either because he is feeling some kind of pain or because he's with someone other than you.

It's called guilt. He feels ill because he feels guilty for doing whatever he's doing when not with you. He feels he's doing something wrong which he may be depending on what you both agreed to or what you are telling him or throwing out mixed signals.

He has psychosomatic symptoms.

You both need to talk.

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 6:21:42 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		Is she possibly a really horrible cook? Is she poisoning him? Uhh, a clinic visit is the first step whether it is psychosomatic or otherwise. 

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/16/2011 7:27:57 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		yep yep she could be a evil bitch and shoving poison down his throat. OR he could just be feeding you a line of BS.

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/17/2011 12:24:23 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Sounds like an allergy to me. Could be very difficult to pin down though.

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/17/2011 8:42:39 PM   
Palliata


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Status: offline 		It's possible that what he's doing is creating a psychosomatic set of symptoms, and if so he should probably alter his behavior or at least his perceptions. It is also possible, as others have stated, that he simply has a medical issue which manifests itself in her house. That said, I think the more important thing for you to look to at the moment is why this is affecting you so much - It sounds to me like your subverting your jealousy such that you can wrap it in protectiveness and not have to feel bad about it or admit to feeling, as you put it, "threatened." For now, make the suggestion that he see a doctor and then focus on your own internal torment. Protectiveness is the fairer cousin of possessiveness, and if you find the latter distasteful I would be careful when you experience the former.

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RE: Bisexual Alpha Pet - 2/18/2011 1:31:01 PM   
golemx


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Status: offline 		Given they dated before I imagine that rules out most environmental causes, leaving psychology as the primary suspect.

I know this sounds somewhat harsh but I would order him to stop seeing her for awhile. Once it has been made clear his place and devotion with you, he will be less tormented when you release him to explore his desires with her.

Best guess not knowing you all better... interesting situation.

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