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LovelyLady39 -> inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/17/2011 11:26:43 AM)

Whats up with boys that have profiles up and when I go to reply back them I see their profile is inactive, I ask whats up with that...its becomes active. Okay fine. They email me back with their active profile, and again when I have the time to get back to them....their profile is inactive again. Can anyone enlighten me why someone would do this?



came4U -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/17/2011 11:32:21 AM)

I turn mine off sometimes when I am in hiatus (not looking, doing other things) as to not having my profile around to waste other's time who are seeking. 

Some though, might be turning it off either to avoid someone or because they found someone and then return when it didn't work out.  Who knows?



Lockit -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/17/2011 11:34:42 AM)

I figure they want it active only when they are online and the spouse isn't around. Then they hide it so that no one can see them just in case lil mama decides to get on the computer and does some searching. (Jaded maybe, but that has been my experience. Everyone that hid their profile turned out to be married.)

Some don't want to be bothered by people and wish to be in charge and that is a good reason to hide, but I tend to think someone that hides, has something to hide and I don't bother with them.



came4U -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/17/2011 11:36:18 AM)

What is worse is the buggers that insult and run, but sending a nasty mail then hiding the profile within minutes as if it never existed.  Losers! 



igor2003 -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/17/2011 12:13:15 PM)

I have mine hidden simply because I am not currently looking for anyone right now, and I got tired of being contacted by scammers and "fin-dommes".  I'm not "hiding" from anyone.  I'm not married, and so definitely not hiding from a spouse.  Also, there are many women as well as men that keep their profiles hidden for their own reasons.

To the OP I would suggest that if you want to know an individuals reason for having their profile hidden, then simply ask them.  Other people can speculate all day long and not know the answer as far as that individual's reason, and to accuse them of  "hiding" something is simply wrong.  I'm sure by now we all know the meaning of "assume".



Lockit -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/17/2011 12:21:34 PM)

Damn, igor thinks I'm wrong again. lol How can I be wrong in my personal opinion and how I deal with the things that go on around here, based on my experience? Everyone has an opinion and everyone makes judgments pertaining to their own lives. Your opinion igor, is that it is wrong for me or anyone to think that someone hiding a profile is hiding something, is wrong. I won't say you are wrong because you are right, in some manner. For some, that is the right answer. For me... I will continue to be the jaded woman I am, because most the hidden profiles I've come across are not from people not looking and are from people looking, as in contacting me looking... and they have been married or had some other reason for hiding that I didn't think was forthright.



ranja -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/21/2011 2:29:18 AM)

I hide mine from time to time for several reasons, but mainly when i am not interested in any new contacts
I am married, but my Husband knows i come here, it has nothing to do with me hiding my profile

Just ask them why they hide it, it might be to prevent new contacts from emailing so they can give you all their time and attention



subtlebutterfly -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/21/2011 2:30:58 AM)

I may hide/unhide my profile about 50 times a day...well ok not really, but I may do so on a weekly basis. It's hidden pretty much 90% of the time.

oh, and I guess I should clarify - whether I have my profile hidden or not is based completely on my whim. But besides that I'm not really..active on CM..which reminds me I'm gonna bugger off again[:D]



isoLadyOwner -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/21/2011 3:07:09 AM)

I can only speak for myself but my CM ad is off 99% of the time.

My profile is off unless there's an interesting ad I'm replying to.

I only respond to profiles I think have better than a 2% chance of not being a fat guy in his mother's basement using stolen pictures and pretending to be a Domina.

When my profile is visible I get short or one line responses in a few categories: Dominas telling me they're interested and asking when will I be moving in with them without so much as sharing their name let alone establishing trust, short invitations to visit complete strangers in third world countries, responses from obvious scammers, and responses from submissive women who think they might enjoy being Dominant with me.

Also there's the general time wasting from the Sydney folks (its fun to know I get to mess up their study or wtf ever their doing), as well as one line reponses from women well outside my age range.

CM is obviously free and it is absolutely swamped with time wasters for anyone who is genuine.

I think there are very few legitimate single lifestyle Dominas and very few legitimate single lifestyle male slaves on this site. They are drowned out by the white noise of sight seers, data miners, scammers, people who think its funny to make a hard search harder etc.

The pay sites were once viable but they are mostly empty now.

I can only speak for myself but my profile is hidden because when its visible I get a barrage of silly responses from people with no clue or who get off on wasting time.

My profile's off because the nonsense drains my morale really quickly.

If someone emails you and you're interested you can still send them a message. When I send someone an introduction (very rare here) I explain my ad will be off in a few days but that a reply is still possible if they're interested.



porcelaine -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/21/2011 6:26:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LovelyLady39

Whats up with boys that have profiles up and when I go to reply back them I see their profile is inactive, I ask whats up with that...its becomes active. Okay fine. They email me back with their active profile, and again when I have the time to get back to them....their profile is inactive again. Can anyone enlighten me why someone would do this?


Greetings,

I've hidden my profile at various intervals in the past due to lack of interest or an unwillingness to respond to cmail. I'm not one to make assumptions about why someone is visible or not. I believe most inferences about that sort of thing are usually off the mark. When in doubt ask or let it go.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



mistressko -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/26/2011 9:43:09 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: isoLadyOwner

If someone emails you and you're interested you can still send them a message. When I send someone an introduction (very rare here) I explain my ad will be off in a few days but that a reply is still possible if they're interested.


Interesting. I had a couple of hidden profile emails this week. Since I couldn't see the profile, I didn't worry about sending a reply (the messages seemed very generic).

-K



stellauk -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/27/2011 7:07:38 PM)

It might be also that the profile goes up when they are feeling stiff and full of seed, and then it goes off when they have run out of tissues, towels, dirty underpants and have only their typing hand left.

Who knows?



LovelyLady39 -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/28/2011 7:15:26 AM)

I don't usually answer emails with no active profile



sweetsub1957 -> RE: inactive profile now active...inactive again (2/28/2011 8:13:55 AM)

~FR~
I will answer a cmail from someone without an active profile IF I know them from the message boards and/or I've corresponded with them previously already. I normally will NOT answer a letter from a total stranger without an active profile....unless they tell me a good reason for hiding & also send me a pic of themselves and a nice introductory letter.

~sweetsub~



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