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redarsed -> no online? (2/17/2011 12:09:47 PM)


This is my first post. I am looking for an online master. Unfortunately most of the profiles I view on this site say "no online or time wasters". Now obviously I too would prefer a real master, but since its so difficult to find one, isn't it worth taking advantage of the internet's capacity to connect like minded people.
People nowadays do everything online. Work, play, watch sports, go shopping, see family, you name it. Doesn't it seem strange that here in an online community people are saying "no online". What does everyone have against it?
Here is a list of activities that could be used for online domination:
Bed/Wake up time
Cornertime
Handwriting lines
Writing essays
Purchase underwear
Purchase spanking implements
Assuming naked positions
Posting full body and face naked photos
Webcam sessions
(and obviously self spanking)

Wouldn't you masters enjoy administering such tasks. I have started a new blog for the purpose http://humiliatehere.sensualwriter.com.
I'll see if it works out.

Can anyone recommend any other site or blog dedicated to this kind of online subjugation?



Tantriqu -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 12:22:01 PM)

What do we have against it?

Many, like me, only use on-line to meet lovely humans in real time for real BDSM, and even the 'R' word: relationships.
On-line only is mostly for 'do-me' fetishist bottoms, rather than weal twue subs.



DarkSteven -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 12:22:54 PM)

Hi there and welcome to collarme!

I'm a little confused. Your profile states that you do online simply because you cannot get in person interaction in your location. Then you ask why people prefer no online when it would not be your own first choice.

That said, you're asking for something unusual. No problem with that, but you'll have to accept that your search will take longer.



LaTigresse -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 12:58:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: redarsed


This is my first post. I am looking for an online master. Unfortunately most of the profiles I view on this site say "no online or time wasters". Now obviously I too would prefer a real master, but since its so difficult to find one, isn't it worth taking advantage of the internet's capacity to connect like minded people.
People nowadays do everything online. Work, play, watch sports, go shopping, see family, you name it. Doesn't it seem strange that here in an online community people are saying "no online". What does everyone have against it?
Here is a list of activities that could be used for online domination:
Bed/Wake up time
Cornertime
Handwriting lines
Writing essays
Purchase underwear
Purchase spanking implements
Assuming naked positions
Posting full body and face naked photos
Webcam sessions
(and obviously self spanking)

Wouldn't you masters enjoy administering such tasks. I have started a new blog for the purpose http://humiliatehere.sensualwriter.com.
I'll see if it works out.

Can anyone recommend any other site or blog dedicated to this kind of online subjugation?



What if all of the stuff I bolded, and anything else I can imagine online being associated with........bores the hell out of me? Maintaining friendships and family relationships, between spending actual physical time together, is one thing. Servicing your kink is another.



Lockit -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 1:01:42 PM)

Gee, I would still be getting my own coffee, massaging myself, playing with myself and couldn't whack anyone. What's the point?

Oh... yeah.. power! (Not!)



leadership527 -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 1:07:38 PM)

quote:

Wouldn't you masters enjoy administering such tasks.

Not one bit. I'm struggling to understand what benefit any of those are to me.

When I tell Carol about bed times it's because she's not sleeping well or regularly herself. WHen I tell her to purchase underwear, it's because I want to see different underwear or else perhaps she's just running out? For all the commands I give, they tend to be rooted in the day to day need to get through life... only a tiny part of which is sexual.

I've done online relationships. I've even mentored "slaves" online (insofar as that's really possible). But I've never constructed an online relationship that looks like what you wrote. You might try SecondLife though... there's a lot of "BDSM Clubs" there and wild sexuality is pretty much commonplace.



SexyBossyBBW -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 1:10:40 PM)

quote:

Bed/Wake up time
Cornertime
Handwriting lines
Writing essays
Purchase underwear
Purchase spanking implements
Assuming naked positions
Posting full body and face naked photos
Webcam sessions
(and obviously self spanking)
If I want to serve a boys kink, I can find a real life one to do it with, any day of the week.

I have very few uses for a boy online, and I assure you, it isn't something 99.9% of so called submissives would willingly do, or enjoy.   That is why I prefer real human contact, and service based on my needs/desires, not so much yours.   M



nancygirl34652 -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 1:14:38 PM)

i love the sharp, succinct truth that comes from Lockit...great reply Ma'am



subtlebutterfly -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 1:17:30 PM)

You know..when you upload your picture it says IN RED and BOLD font: "Please do not post explicit primary photos"


I WAS EATING M&M WHEN I CLICKED THIS THREAD.
And man did I regret eating it when I saw your PRIMARY pic.[&o][&o][&o][&o][&o][&o][&o][&o]



thishereboi -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 2:36:43 PM)

If that is what you want then by all means go for it. There are others on here who will want the same thing. Just don't expect everyone to get all excited about the idea.



kalikshama -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 2:41:10 PM)

quote:

(and obviously self spanking)


Obviously you didn't appreciate the look on Maggie Gyllenhaal's face when she tried to do this in "The Secretary." That would be the same reaction I'd have. It's no fun to do it to myself. I need a sadist for it to work for me.



Nanako -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 2:41:43 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Gee, I would still be getting my own coffee, massaging myself, playing with myself and couldn't whack anyone. What's the point?

Oh... yeah.. power! (Not!)



This ^_^

I've done the whole online thing, it's fun when you have no real experience, but mostly pales in comparison and only serves to increase your isolation from the real world (._.)

There's not much point, no real power exchange, and little chance of ever physically meeting. This website is mainly intended for people to find real, physical partners, I feel.



SailingBum -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 2:41:51 PM)

Red hit IRC bondage.com Im sure you will finds tons of folks for online play.

BadOne



VideoAdminSigma -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 2:52:56 PM)

AHEM!!!!!

And why not our very own CollarMe irc or videochatrooms?   They're the best!!!!!

Behave, SB!!!!!

VideoAdminSigma



lizi -> RE: no online? (2/17/2011 4:39:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: VideoAdminSigma

AHEM!!!!!

And why not our very own CollarMe irc or videochatrooms?   They're the best!!!!!

Behave, SB!!!!!

VideoAdminSigma


Ahem indeed! There you go OP, try CM's IRC or videochatroom.

Online to most people is like looking at pictures in a book, pretty, and a nice way to waste some time, but ultimately unfulfilling when you'd like to eat that food, smell those flowers, go to that waterfall, hear that band play, ride that bike, etc. It's a flat representation of life. For most people online is a good way to  meet and then they want more than a picture on a screen.

I live a little distance from my partner, we see each other on the weekend depending on our schedules - sometimes we have to miss one. We use online when we're apart, it's a tool. It's not as nice as seeing him but it's something. Honestly if that was all we could do I'd let our relationship go, it wouldn't fulfill me.



SailingBum -> RE: no online? (2/20/2011 12:21:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: VideoAdminSigma

AHEM!!!!!

And why not our very own CollarMe irc or videochatrooms?   They're the best!!!!!

Behave, SB!!!!!

VideoAdminSigma


sooo sorry but I dont have any experience nor was I aware of this feature on here. Perhaps your marketing gurus can determine a more effective way to inform the users that frequent this site on a semi regular basis of your varied services.

BadOne



IronBear -> RE: no online? (2/20/2011 1:35:17 AM)

Never tried video chat, wasn't available when I had an on line (LDR) going with my last slave before it went into real time. After having the real thing, no way would I go back to LDRs, there is nothing like having a naked slave serving, servicing and sitting beside you. Better to have empty collars than something which does not give the same satisfaction. 



lally2 -> RE: no online? (2/20/2011 3:25:42 AM)

sometimes, when people are in long distance relationships the online thing works to keep the whole thing going between times together.  phone sex being the most usual thing.  i think that eventually the need for physical interraction and something more than just satiating needs becomes the stronger focus.

i know that people have managed to develop very strong connections on the internet.  in a way its living a fantasy though, nothing wrong with that, just that *most* people get tired of the fantasy and move on to real time before long.

i dont do on-line at all whatsoever because i dont have the hours to dedicate to being on line, IMing and camming every evening when i have a million other things to do with my time.

but if you have the hours available and you cant meet up for real then its the obvious option if youre kink needs, need feeding.

but in the end, as lockit i think said - it is about kink feeding and nothing to do with relationship building. and that in the end is why most people steer clear.



AquaticSub -> RE: no online? (2/20/2011 5:12:20 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Gee, I would still be getting my own coffee, massaging myself, playing with myself and couldn't whack anyone. What's the point?

Oh... yeah.. power! (Not!)



Pretty much what she said. I can't imagine Valyraen being even slightly interested in such a dynamic.

Now that said, I'm sure someone exists. It's just going to mean that you have to sort through all the folks who only want real-time and you may have to take some chances on if someone is a HNG or not. Just don't send pictures too quickly.



porcelaine -> RE: no online? (2/20/2011 7:09:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: redarsed

People nowadays do everything online. Work, play, watch sports, go shopping, see family, you name it. Doesn't it seem strange that here in an online community people are saying "no online". What does everyone have against it? Can anyone recommend any other site or blog dedicated to this kind of online subjugation?


Greetings,

There are quite a few people that are interested in this dynamic. Some are unable to enter into relationships outside of this realm and others choose not to do so. I have no personal opinion either way save it is not the appropriate path for me. As for venues, you'd probably have an easier time finding like-minded persons on Fetlife. They have numerous groups devoted to the subject matter and more than a few dominants looking for willing subjects. Best of luck.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



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