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Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please advise - 2/18/2011 3:26:38 PM   
CuckoldSameh


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I would like to tell you my story with my wife and ask for your advice .

We got married 2 years ago after dating for only 3 months . We are in a D/s relationship , my wife is the dominant one . But when I suggested cuckolding to her , she said she was never interested .

Few months ago , I noticed some changes in her behavior . She started to be more reluctant to have sex with me ( we used to have sex daily , but then it became once a week or every 2 weeks ) . All the time she started to say she was tired , etc .

I also noticed she started to go out and stays overnight out of home . She would leave home on Friday for example and comes back home on Monday . She never wanted to tell where she was . Always says that she was with friends , but she never wanted to let me know who are these friends !!

When we had sex , she prevented me from coming inside her , and always ordered me to cum on her belly . Then to lick my own cum ( this was very new , she didn't ask for this before !! ) .

I asked her several times if she has a lover , and she always denied .

I was shocked 3 weeks ago when she disappeared . She left home without any argument or any problem between us and didn't answer phone calls . After 3 days she called me and told me that she was ok , but she doesn't want to live with me anymore !!!
She said that she was in the sea side with some friends .

Then , she wrote me a long email telling me that she was not happy with me and that she wanted divorce .

I asked her to come home so we would sit and talk .

We met 3 days ago in a cafe close to home . She kept insisting that she wanted divorce , and told me that she doesn't feel in love with me anymore .

I talked to her , and at the end we agreed that we'll stay married , but we'll not live together . She'll stay where she was ( didn't tell me where she was staying ) and I'll stay home .

We would go out dating from time to time and see if we get closer again .

She came with me home , took most of her clothes and left . And what's strange was that she kissed me deeply , but she didn't want to go further .

I called her today to see how is she doing . She said that she was at the sea side again .

She again denied to be with any man , but insisted on being with friends .

So , this was my story . I need your advice about this .

First , do you think that she has a lover ? And if yes , why do you think she doesn't want to admit ?

2nd , Do you think that she'll really divorce me as she said first ?

3rd , what should I do to bring her closer to me again ? Do you think there is a hope ? Or should I just accept to divorce her ?

Please advise me honestly and seriously . I'm very confused .



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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like that ? Please... - 2/18/2011 3:32:53 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Sounds a lot like this one... http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3516043


Shall we respond in the same manner you did?

Okay I think I fixed it






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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like that ? Please... - 2/18/2011 3:41:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Sounds a lot like this one...  Shall we respond in the same manner you did?




(ETA: Link removed by request)

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 3:47:55 PM   
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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 3:52:49 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Darn! I tried that link, but there was nothing there. OP, I don't have any answers for you, but maybe She's changed her mind about cuckolding & now you're gettting what you asked for?

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 3:58:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I gotta ask what was the advice in the link ya know the gist of the conversation. some evil doer deleted that post

ETA never mind hlen5 link worked

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 4:02:15 PM   
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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 4:08:30 PM   
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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 4:29:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		First , do you think that she has a lover ? And if yes , why do you think she doesn't want to admit ?
Yes. Because she's embarrassed to admit that she's actually had this lover for some time now.

2nd , Do you think that she'll really divorce me as she said first ?
Yes. See above. Even if I didn't think she had a lover, she's made absolutely zero show of interest in working to fix things other than vague attempts to humor you. I suspect she's hoping you'll come to see the light given a little space.

3rd , what should I do to bring her closer to me again ? Do you think there is a hope ? Or should I just accept to divorce her ?
You can only be aggressively available. I would call her periodically and inquire casually if maybe she wanted to do lunch or something. I would not press. I'd take my cues from her responses. No, I don't think there is hope, but that wouldn't stop me from trying anyway. I don't give up easily on a marriage. I'm perfectly happy to ride the sinking ship down below the waves.

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 5:09:29 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Uh....Jeff...you should click the link provided by Lockit...

His story is an almost verbatim copy from another user...possibly him in another guise.  Either way, it is likely all this is made up...


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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 5:27:04 PM   
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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 6:00:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

We got married 2 years ago after dating for only 3 months. But when I suggested cuckolding to her , she said she was never interested.
And apparently she still isn't.

Few months ago , I noticed some changes in her behavior . She started to be more reluctant to have sex with me ( we used to have sex daily , but then it became once a week or every 2 weeks ) . All the time she started to say she was tired , etc .
This happens in even the best of marriages. If you are continuing to suggest cuckholding with her, she may very well be emotionally drained and is tuning you out.

When we had sex , she prevented me from coming inside her , and always ordered me to cum on her belly . Then to lick my own cum ( this was very new , she didn't ask for this before !! ) .
Sounds like wank material to me. Are you sure this story is real?

I asked her to come home so we would sit and talk.
Open lines of communication are wonderful.

First , do you think that she has a lover ? And if yes , why do you think she doesn't want to admit ?
I don't think it matters whether or not she has a lover. Your marriage is in trouble whether she has a lover or is just staying with friends.
Are you secretly hoping she has one, and will eventually invite you in on the details?

2nd , Do you think that she'll really divorce me as she said first ?
It seems she has been brutally honest with you from the beginning.
Why would she be lying now?

3rd , what should I do to bring her closer to me again ? Do you think there is a hope ? Or should I just accept to divorce her ?
I am a firm hoper of hope! I think you need to figure out what your role may have been in pushing her away, and work to resolve that. Keep communicating with her, but really make a point of actively listening to what she is saying. We can't interpret her words for you.

Please advise me honestly and seriously . I'm very confused .
Best of luck!




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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 8:07:16 PM   
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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 8:28:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		3 months dating before marriage?????? Crikey, Didn't give your selves much time to get to know each other let alone building trust and respect did you? Your profile states you are a 30yo slave who is an "expert" in cuckolding. It also states that you are of Middle Eastern ethnically. So I would ask where and when you got your cuckolding experience? Previous wife or girlfriend? What is the ethnic background of your estranged wife?

The Middle Eastern blokes I know and share meals with would rather cut the balls off a male who is playing with their wives or go hunting to see what she is doing and then take what they deem appropriate action. If you are both Muslem, I'd bet your local Mullah would help and she would be pulled right back in line. If she is not Muslem, you would, I expect, have a strong base to recover and some help in trying to resolve the issues.

Of course as some have wisely suggested your story may be nothing but bullshit and you are acting the prima donna attention whore. The folks about here are neither stupid nor green/wet behind the ears. (Strewth if my spies are correct, none of them even wash behind their ears so they are always dry (and scalley). My point os you need to be a better man than you are to tell plausible porkies and be believed.

I have no wize words for you, what I have said should help if you are honest with us but frankly I hae me doubts as to your honesty and the accuracy of your tale.

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 8:31:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh
First , do you think that she has a lover ? And if yes , why do you think she doesn't want to admit ?

I don't think it honestly matters.

quote:

2nd , Do you think that she'll really divorce me as she said first ?

My honest opinion, yes.  She doesn't want to live with you and doesn't want you to know where she's staying. 

quote:

3rd , what should I do to bring her closer to me again ? Do you think there is a hope ? Or should I just accept to divorce her ?

I can't say.  I don't know her.  I can tell you that if the words "I want a divorce" come out of My mouth, I mean it. 


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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/18/2011 10:24:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm rather amused that, in thread Lockit linked to, the OP of this thread said it was a "nice story" ... hmmm....

Sorry OP, I'm with the ones that call 'bullshit' on this. IF your story is true, then suck it up, ask her where the divorce papers are, and sign them. By causing a fuss, you're only going to make yourself look pathetically desparate. I'm all for trying to save marriages, but since you claim that you tried to talk to her about it, and she won't even tell you where she's staying? Yeah, it's over.

If it's not true (which, again, is what I'm voting for) - then get a life dude ... you seriously have nothing better to do than to make shit up online???

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/19/2011 2:33:49 AM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		I'm so sad and extremely shocked that many here think that my story is a fantasy !!!!!!!!!!!!! :((((

I swear EVERY SINGLE WORD I mentioned was TRUE . This is what happened !!!!!!!

Please be serious cause this is a REAL PROBLEM for me that threatens my marriage..........I'm not jerking off on some stupid story like this :((

Please be more mature !!

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/19/2011 3:12:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

I'm so sad and extremely shocked that many here think that my story is a fantasy !!!!!!!!!!!!! :((((

I swear EVERY SINGLE WORD I mentioned was TRUE . This is what happened !!!!!!!

Please be serious cause this is a REAL PROBLEM for me that threatens my marriage..........I'm not jerking off on some stupid story like this :((

Please be more mature !!

I'm mature enough to spot the same story twelve months later.


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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/19/2011 3:17:19 AM   
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quote:

threatens my marriage


Which one? The one in your head or the one you actually have? The answer is in your heart and you're the only one who can really discover it. I'm sorry, but I doubt that anyone here is going to be able to help you.

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RE: Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please... - 2/19/2011 3:38:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

I'm so sad and extremely shocked that many here think that my story is a fantasy !!!!!!!!!!!!! :((((

I swear EVERY SINGLE WORD I mentioned was TRUE . This is what happened !!!!!!!

Please be serious cause this is a REAL PROBLEM for me that threatens my marriage..........I'm not jerking off on some stupid story like this :((

Please be more mature !!


Why do you type like you have a phallic object lodged in your wastebasket?


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