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abuseme4fun -> Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 3:35:41 PM)
Hi, I am a bi-male submissive who has been to a Mistress on several occasions (on a pay for play basis) and now want to truely belong and be OWNED by a DOMME. I have tried to meet DOMME's on this site with very little success. I enjoy being humiliated, degraded, collared, leashed, caged, whipped, chained, tied up, flogged, cock and ball torture, nipple torture, butt plugs, dildos, strap-ons, and golden showers. I am married but my wife is not aware of my desires...should would kick me out of the house. I truely want to serve, and obey and be owned. I am a successful businessman who owns two businesses and have a post-graduate degree. How do I go about finding a "REAL" Domme who is looking for a bi-male submissive like me? Thanks fo your help and guidance. Abuseme4fun (Mark)

PeonForHer -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 3:51:53 PM)
Mark, You're a) going to get your arse roasted for going behind your wife's back, b) get advice on how to turn your wife into a femdom, c) get insulted or d) be entirely ignored. This was not a question that hinted at great respect for your wife, or for femdoms. You need to take a step back and a longer run-up.

kalikshama -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 4:05:47 PM)
quote: I truely want to serve, and obey and be owned. Be honest with yourself. You see this fantasy Domme as a kink fulfillment system for YOUR desires. Why would any self-respecting lifestyle Domme bother to sneak around behind your wife's back with you? Get a divorce or stick with Pros. I can hear you whining already about how you want both your wife and your McDomme. Cheaters disgust me. Or you could try this: http://www.amazon.com/When-Someone-You-Love-Kinky/dp/1890159239 (There, Peon, I've covered a-c)

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 4:29:12 PM)
Why should we consider a man who disrespects women by lying to them? You made a pledge to your wife and you are breaking it by cheating on her. What possible use would we have for someone we already know we can't trust? Peon and kalikshama have pretty well covered your available options. Come clean with your wife about your desires and play with her, get her permission to play with others, divorce her, or stick with pros.

Lockit -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 5:55:28 PM)
Why do what another woman could do much easier and has the right to do? Just tell your wife you are here pleading for assistance in finding another woman that will play with you behind her back... she will humiliate, thrash, cage and hurt you... then leave your ass... the ultimate in humiliation. It is one thing to expect women to fall into your game, but to expect us to go along with it against another woman... dude... you are clueless and aren't worth the humiliation you are seeking today, on this thread. You may disrespect women... but we don't.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 6:17:34 PM)
quote: Why do what another woman could do much easier and has the right to do? Just tell your wife you are here pleading for assistance in finding another woman that will play with you behind her back ROFL ... hey abuseme4fun... Several Ladies told you point blank ... you cannot be trusted, why even consider you??? And they are right! Try getting a copy of the book Elise Sutton wrote about turning you wife into a Domme ... If the subtle approach fails, try Lockit's .... Sound's surefire to me!

cloudboy -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 6:25:39 PM)
The Grass is not greener. That's my advice. Don't over romanticize what you don't have. If you and I were sitting down to discuss this, what I would say is: Life is a lot more rich than BDSM thrills and the allure of being owned by a femdom. Why not leave this desire as a fantasy, and instead chose to lead a diversified life running your businesses, having friends, hobbies, and a sex life. Suppose you sacrificed everything, found a FDom and put all your energy into that? Where would that leave you in five years? Keep in mind that the aura and mystique of being owned would go away in about six months and then you'd have a relationship similar to being married with BDSM elements -- and you'd be close to 50 years old. When you have that longing to be owned, my suggestion is to buy yourself off, right away -- by doing the next best thing. Treat yourself to another passion. Never take those other interests or passions for granted. After getting high on something else, it will be easier to live with your "unfulfilled" fantasy, and your life will be more rewarding when you put your secret desires in perspective and don't feel you are completely missing out. Remember, reality is not all its chalked up to be.

Nanako -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 6:30:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: abuseme4fun How do I go about finding a "REAL" Domme who is looking for a bi-male submissive like me? Helo sir I'm going to be honest and helpful, answer your question with cold truth, and try my best not to sound nasty. Here is my 10 step plan to finding happiness, and also a domme ^_^ Step 1. Divorce your wife. She deserves better. Step 2. Read this, thoroughly: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm Step 3. Read this, thoroughly: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057095/tm.htm Step 4: Stop being so selfish. The big list of things you enjoy in your post, means nothing. The only thing you need to care about is what your potential mistress will enjoy. Step 5: If you are overweight, get exercising and get at least an average/slim figure. Also shave off your body hair and keep it gone. Step 6: Learn to suck cock well, if you truly are a bisexual sub. Learn to enjoy being receptive too Step 7: Keep going to pro-dommes until you get bored of fetish sex, have a lot of confidence in your experience, and have seen and done just about everything Step 8: Delete your collarme account, and make a new one with a more appropriate name, that tells something about you beyond fetish interests. Also put up unmodified face pictures, and clothed full body pictures. Fill in your profile appropriately talking about yourself as a person, not solely as a sub. Ie, your interests in music, film, hobbies, dining, driving, employment, experiences, etc. Step 9: Re-read the two threads I posted above Step 10: Act upon the information within them. Once all of the above is complete, you'll be a thoroughly experienced, single, successful, and truly submissive person. I believe you'll have no trouble finding a domme within a month or two. If you eventually tire of being sub and wish to leave her service, you will still be a much more well-rounded person in the end for the above experiences. Thank you for reading sir ^o^

thishereboi -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 6:35:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Mark, You're a) going to get your arse roasted for going behind your wife's back, b) get advice on how to turn your wife into a femdom, c) get insulted or d) be entirely ignored. This was not a question that hinted at great respect for your wife, or for femdoms. You need to take a step back and a longer run-up. Judging by the screen name, I would guess this would be ok with him. d). not so much

PeonForHer -> RE: Bi-Male Submissive Needs Help??? (2/19/2011 6:36:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy The Grass is not greener. That's my advice. Don't over romanticize what you don't have. If you and I were sitting down to discuss this, what I would say is: Life is a lot more rich than BDSM thrills and the allure of being owned by a femdom. Why not leave this desire as a fantasy, and instead chose to lead a diversified life running your businesses, having friends, hobbies, and a sex life. Suppose you sacrificed everything, found a FDom and put all your energy into that? Where would that leave you in five years? Keep in mind that the aura and mystique of being owned would go away in about six months and then you'd have a relationship similar to being married with BDSM elements -- and you'd be close to 50 years old. When you have that longing to be owned, my suggestion is to buy yourself off, right away -- by doing the next best thing. Treat yourself to another passion. Never take those other interests or passions for granted. After getting high on something else, it will be easier to live with your "unfulfilled" fantasy, and your life will be more rewarding when you put your secret desires in perspective and don't feel you are completely missing out. Remember, reality is not all its chalked up to be. Well said, Mr Cloudboy.

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