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manslave8 -> Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 7:11:44 AM)

I have been told by a dom whom I've been talking with that a condition of my training will be full time enforced chastity, effectuated through a locked chastity device. His position is that only by being permanently deprived of the ability to orgasm will I learn submission and remain in my place. He has told me that I can expect prostate milking but that otherwise I will not be permitted to experience orgasms as long as I serve him. I have always enjoyed orgasms so this seems an extreme condition. Is it? How do other masters feel about this? Thank you.



SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 7:19:47 AM)

It matters how you feel about it. If its something you want to try explain to them that you wish to try it. If its something you know you cant live with out then explain that. Not every Owner is the same nor does every Owner have the same requirements.

I love to cum, and often or Im rather cranky. I enjoy pleasure and wouldnt involve myself with someone who wanted to deny me such pleasure...





DesFIP -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 12:28:33 PM)

If you aren't interested, then tell him you aren't compatible. What else is there?



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 1:44:26 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: manslave8
I have always enjoyed orgasms so this seems an extreme condition. Is it?

I'm obviously not a Master but, hell yes I think it's extreme! And I would NEVER get involved with someone if I knew ahead of time that I'd never ever get another orgasm.

~sweetsub~



Palliata -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 1:49:41 PM)

Extreme but not unheardof. In the end, it doesn't actually matter. SSC is a polite fiction - there is no limitation on what is sane, only a continuum of oddity which you find your place in and take pleasure in with someone who is approximately in the same place. If you're in that place, then do what he says. If you aren't, then find someone who is closer to your place. Nothing is unacceptable which you can accept, and nothing is acceptable which you cannot.



kalikshama -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 1:52:49 PM)

Could be a mind fuck. But if it were for real:
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agirl -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 4:23:19 PM)

Not wanking when told not to, has it's own merits/hotness.....

Frankly, I'm far more conditioned to ONLY getting the majority of decent orgasms where M's involved in some way.

If I needed permanant *chastity* to learn submission, I'd have lost out years ago.

agirl



HisEvelyn -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 4:35:09 PM)

I'm with agirl on this one. I am only allowed orgasm when Master is involved in some way, or when Master has given permission. But to be denied orgasm entirely while in the relationship? That's too much for me. Besides, I'm plenty submissive for Master already just in who I am. I learn new aspects of submission every day, but I'm always submissive to him by default.



StrongSpirit -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 6:03:41 PM)

Some things work really great in fantasies but don't work really well in reality. It takes some experience to tell them apart.

Perhaps your dom really knows what he wants. But I doubt it. Your dom appears to have mistaken fantasy for reality. I do know that you are clearly not excited by the idea, and thus n even if he really wants it, you don't. You would be a fool to accept his unusual and drastic command.

Say goodbye and look for someone more compatible.



porcelaine -> RE: Permanent, enforced chastity? (2/23/2011 9:15:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: manslave8

I have always enjoyed orgasms so this seems an extreme condition. Is it? How do other masters feel about this? Thank you.


Greetings,

I have a certain affinity for sexual restriction. I'm accustomed to it and my previous partner routinely employed it. He enjoyed my edginess and delighted in making me beg. I was rather pitiful in that department but my genuine attempt usually got through to him. As to whether I could live like that permanently -hmm- unless the gentleman was gay and we had an peculiar arrangement I don't think it's probable. I don't believe your situation is extreme. I readily accept that there are things I'm completely opposed to doing with/for most, but the right man makes all the difference. Preferably one that I can't resist.

What I'm suggesting is that's really the bottom line. We make concessions if we believe the situation or individual is worth the effort. In your case you'd be potentially forsaking one form of enjoyment for another version. And there's always the possibility that it's merely a mind fuck which would be delicious in itself. But I wouldn't lean too heavily in that direction unless you have a good reason to. In the end, either you're willing to accept the challenge to be with him or you'll decline and try your luck elsewhere. Whatever you decide there's always a gamble. Best of luck.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



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