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porcelaine -> RE: Primal Power Exchange (2/28/2011 8:47:09 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep
porcelaine, this agreeing thing is becoming pretty common.
Lilly,
*lol* I think it's the sock fetish. Seriously. :)
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in the "how instant is attraction thread" people rattled off types of attraction they experienced, and i think this energetic attraction is definitely a big one. my last relationship was with a man who tripped my triggers in all categories, mentally, aesthetically, spiritually, and energetically -- plus it didn't take me long to figure out that he was VERY good for me. so being able to give in to his pursuit was such a freeing experience; to get out of my head a little and just go where he took me.
I haven't mentioned the similarities we share. We'll dish about it someday. My head usually talks me out of lots of things until I meet someone wily enough to outwit, outlast, etc... For some that would be very disconcerting, but I dig it. I have a special appreciation for good men that can disarm and know what to do when the girl has been secured. The caveat IS the energy you've mentioned. In spite of loads of horn tooting it isn't something I encounter frequently and I've conversed with my fair share. I don't believe the energy I'm responding to is commonplace.
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that feeling, the rush and flow and cycling back of energy, is what had been missing from previous relationships, so i find myself looking for an exchange like that again. not in a sense of comparing them to a clip board of attributes, but just that this is the type of man i respond to.
Gosh I think we're related. I feel the same and I delight in the hunger, butterflies, and the mental dynamics those interactions bring out. I don't want to suggest that I'm bored when they're absent, but it is markedly different. In most situations I can hang back and do nothing. I don't need to. But with men of this caliber that doesn't work. And they're not the sort to overtly run after me. Their methods are more covert and generally lead to a mutual understanding that I'm better off with him. And he does all of this without unnecessary fanfare or bravado. I'm getting misty now. [:D]
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though i will say -- i had an experience with an out-of-towner at an event -- he radiated this like a furnace, and i got sucked into it. it took me forever to get over it and it became a bit negative, so i had to retreat to my brain in order to protect myself. that was one of those situations where the person was not very good for me.
That's the downside I mentioned in my other post. Men of this caliber are generally ones I should avoid. Not because they're bad for me, but truthfully due to the resistance factor and my pattern of giving in. They haven't all been negative experiences, but when I encounter an inferno I've been known to skitter off. I was afraid of being consumed though I desperately longed for it. Sometimes I dance with the devil and we go a few rounds before calling a truce. It's a matter of balancing my passion with pragmatism and not forsaking the latter for the tidal wave I'm riding.
There's one constant that I won't abandon. I'm not meant for the man who's uncomfortable with the shadows, but the one who rubs his face in the muck. When you begin to narrow things down you're left with a distinct flavor who's odor cannot be missed. In truth we're really hunting the other. [;)]
Namaste,
~porcelaine
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