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littleone35 -> Loved or Used (2/24/2011 9:05:56 AM)
Yesterday when Master r and iwe had ourselves a very "good time". After i was talking to Master and said you know Master i am a little sore, buti n a good way. He said are you ok sweetheart? I told him i was ok but i felt very well loved. Yes he used my body for our mutual pleasure but instead of feeling used i felt well loved. Now i know that some love the feeling of being used for his/her pleasure. I was just wondering how many subs/slaves when you are sore after playing feel well loved, and how many feel used(in a good way)? Matt's littleone

Aynne88 -> RE: Loved or Used (2/24/2011 10:18:15 AM)
I know that I always felt and feel fabulous after being used hard, and being a sub or slave has nothing to do with it, when I was married I used to love the same feeling after a particularly sexual day or weekend. Most of my vanilla friends feel the same way as well, basking in the glow isn't a BDSM thing I don't think.

MaxsGirl -> RE: Loved or Used (2/24/2011 12:40:34 PM)
A little of both. Alpha uses me because he wants me and loves me. He could have other pets and other property, but I'm the one he chooses to own and use, because I'm the only one he wants. I'm his most prized possession. The awareness of that is always in my mind, even in my deepest headspace.

sexyred1 -> RE: Loved or Used (2/24/2011 12:59:10 PM)
Who does not love feeling well used? If you feel used in a bad way, you were with the wrong person.

littlewonder -> RE: Loved or Used (2/24/2011 3:54:41 PM)
it depends on my mood. most times i enjoy him using me for his pleasure but there are times when I've had an extremely tough time with my depression when I have a very rough time getting out of my own head. During those times we do a lot of talking afterwards. I don't always know when it's going to happen so I can't always tell him ahead of time. Sometimes it just happens. Thankfully though I know he loves me very much and I him so it's not something that ever tears us apart. :)

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Loved or Used (2/24/2011 10:30:56 PM)
it's a little bit of both for me; sometimes feeling used is how i feel loved. though i agree with Aynne -- i dunno that the afterglow is something only BDSM-ers know. we just word it differently.

Kana -> RE: Loved or Used (2/25/2011 5:38:14 AM)
Why must the two be exclusive? I'd like to think she felt loved and thoroughly used, that the use was a sign of the love. Laughs. It's a Hallmark moment. Nothing says "I care" more than welts.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Loved or Used (2/25/2011 6:02:39 AM)
lol Kana =p

porcelaine -> RE: Loved or Used (2/25/2011 12:18:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 Now i know that some love the feeling of being used for his/her pleasure. I was just wondering how many subs/slaves when you are sore after playing feel well loved, and how many feel used(in a good way)? Greetings, I don't draw a distinction between the two. I generally see the things he does as a manifestation of his ownership. Love and use is included in that description. I shy away from assigning value of what's good or seemingly bad unless there's a definite problem. I have an admitted bias towards dominant men that are unafraid to use their property in the manner they prefer. And my response in kind is very telling. :) Namaste, ~porcelaine

DesFIP -> RE: Loved or Used (2/25/2011 5:52:53 PM)
There's a tendency for many of us to live in our heads and hearts and not in our body. Being well used is a way to connect with the physical and is just as important as connecting emotionally and mentally.

xXsoumisXx -> RE: Loved or Used (2/25/2011 7:12:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 I know that I always felt and feel fabulous after being used hard, and being a sub or slave has nothing to do with it, when I was married I used to love the same feeling after a particularly sexual day or weekend. Most of my vanilla friends feel the same way as well, basking in the glow isn't a BDSM thing I don't think. for me, the difference is that i am ok feeling well used and not having orgasms. the "used" feeling is just as good, with the right Dom.

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