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What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:14:05 AM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		Hello All ,

I posted before under the title :

" Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please advise "

We met 3 times out of home those days . When we met , she was sad , nervous and sometimes have tears in her eyes .

She said she wasn't happy with me . And wanted divorce .

I promised her to fix all the problems and the habits that she doesn't like in me . But she keeps telling that she doesn't trust me !!

Now , she admitted that she is staying with a man in his place . She said he's just a friend . But I don't believe so . I believe he's more than a friend . A lover .

When I asked her if she wants to leave me to be with that guy , she said no , but that the problem is in our relationship .

What should I do to convince her of coming back to me ? To save our marriage ?

I love her and still want her in my life .

Please advise me !!!!!!!
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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:18:28 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		These are questions that you should be asking her.  I could tell you that she'll want to come back to you if you stand on your head for an hour a day, but that doesn't help you.  While you're doing whatever silly thing that I suggest, it's not going to be what she wants.  Nobody here knows her or why she doesn't want to remain with you.  The only person who knows that is her.

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:28:34 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		To start, stop posting on a forum asking a bunch of people you don't know how to save your marriage.

Sit down and really talk with her. Examine yourself and see if you agree with her issues. Seek counseling or a mediator.

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:37:01 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		This is just my take but I suggest you drop the cuckold fantasy, quit referring to her as your Mistress, and relate to her as a person who's hurting.

Grab a bottle of wine, put a good movie on the DVD player, cook her a meal, get her some flowers, and just give her a nice night without her feeling the pressures of life, including you pushing your fantasies on her.


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:39:00 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		is it possible that this is all an elaborate cuckolding fantasy being played out on the forum?




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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:44:03 AM   
BonesFromAsh


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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

is it possible that this is all an elaborate cuckolding fantasy being played out on the forum?



.....you mean people come here and post fantasy?????  

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 7:44:17 AM   
DarkSteven


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 8:18:26 AM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

Hello All ,

I posted before under the title :

" Why is my Mistress/Wife behaving like this ? Please advise "

We met 3 times out of home those days . When we met , she was sad , nervous and sometimes have tears in her eyes .

She said she wasn't happy with me . And wanted divorce .

I promised her to fix all the problems and the habits that she doesn't like in me . But she keeps telling that she doesn't trust me !!



What should I do to convince her of coming back to me ? To save our marriage ?

I love her and still want her in my life .

Please advise me !!!!!!!



Okay, see the part I bolded?
She tells you she does not trust you.
You left that out the first time and glossed it over this time.

For her to not trust you implies that you have behaved in a way that is untrustworthy.
You keep pointing fingers at her behavior as being suspect, and yet going by what she is telling you, there is a whole other side that you are leaving out.

Seriously?
You effed up.
You violated her trust in some major way and until you can accept responsibility for what you did, and then make reparations, your relationship is in very big trouble.


You want to fix it?
Quit playing the game of being the victim.
Start telling the truth.

You say you love her.
Love is more than words; love is actions.

http://vachss.com/mission/behavior.html

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 8:32:42 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Don't you think you ought to update your profile? As it stands, it looks like you are looking to get some fun out of these many threads you post on the same topic. You state that you are married here but your profile doesn't mention that. Your profile says you are not looking, but you were looking for a dominant and are willing to relocate.

You seem to be creating these threads to get off to them somehow because you know how people responded the last few times. I think you are liking this far too much. Enjoy it while you can, you won't be able to pull this off for too long. Ever heard the story of the boy that cried wolf?


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 10:50:41 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		To the OP:

To everyone else:

Have a nice day

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 10:57:26 AM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Ya know, prison can really facilitate all your needs. Make sure you marry a girl, go knock over a couple of banks and BLAM fantasy fulfilled. Make sure she is exceptional and I'll send you pics of me fucking her.

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 12:59:52 PM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		For everyone who advised me sincerely , thank you very much .

Yes , there was an incident where I broke her trust , but it was just email exchange with my ex . But it didn't go further than email exchange .

I know that honesty is the key , but she doesn't want to be honest with me . I always have to find the reason for her behavior by myself . And I really don't read minds !!!!!!!!

I know I should treat her good , buy her presents , etc . But she doesn't give me this chance now . We rarely meet , and maximum for 2 hours or so , then she goes back to the other man's place .

I never tried to impose my fantasy on her . This never happened . I neglected some small things like taking her out frequently , or taking care of domestic chores , but I never thought that these things would harm our relationship !!

I still love her and want her back in my life .

Finally , for those " SMART ASSES " who said that my post was a fantasy . No need to even reply to your smartass conclusion . You think you are smart , but you are smartasses !!! If you can't post something that would help me in my serious problem - which is about to break up my marriage - then just SHUT UP !!!!!!!



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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 1:05:30 PM   
ImaginativeWhims


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

Finally , for those " SMART ASSES " who said that my post was a fantasy . No need to even reply to your smartass conclusion . You think you are smart , but you are smartasses !!! If you can't post something that would help me in my serious problem - which is about to break up my marriage - then just SHUT UP !!!!!!!



Oh no you le didn't.


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 1:12:18 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

For everyone who advised me sincerely , thank you very much .

Yes , there was an incident where I broke her trust , but it was just email exchange with my ex . But it didn't go further than email exchange .

I know that honesty is the key , but she doesn't want to be honest with me . I always have to find the reason for her behavior by myself . And I really don't read minds !!!!!!!!

I know I should treat her good , buy her presents , etc . But she doesn't give me this chance now . We rarely meet , and maximum for 2 hours or so , then she goes back to the other man's place .

I never tried to impose my fantasy on her . This never happened . I neglected some small things like taking her out frequently , or taking care of domestic chores , but I never thought that these things would harm our relationship !!

I still love her and want her back in my life .

Finally , for those " SMART ASSES " who said that my post was a fantasy . No need to even reply to your smartass conclusion . You think you are smart , but you are smartasses !!! If you can't post something that would help me in my serious problem - which is about to break up my marriage - then just SHUT UP !!!!!!!



Look dude, it's your fuck up not ours. We cannot fix something that you fucking broke. Can we fix some shit that may be waning? Possibly. Can we advise you that sticking a feather duster up your ass while rollerblading around the house backwards might give her a clue that your domestic skills may be a little freaky? You bet your ass!

But you still broke it and you have to fix it. Unless she is really cute and you want to take me up on the offer.


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 1:15:40 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

Finally , for those " SMART ASSES " who said that my post was a fantasy . No need to even reply to your smartass conclusion . You think you are smart , but you are smartasses !!! If you can't post something that would help me in my serious problem - which is about to break up my marriage - then just SHUT UP !!!!!!!


If this "serious problem" of yours is really that serious, I would hope you're spending your energy getting help from somewhere/someone...a marriage counselor who might be kink-friendly perhaps...besides a web forum full of strangers.

Besides...better a smartass than a dumbass.


< Message edited by BonesFromAsh -- 2/25/2011 1:18:14 PM >

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 1:32:05 PM   
NocturnalStalker


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

For everyone who advised me sincerely , thank you very much .

Yes , there was an incident where I broke her trust , but it was just email exchange with my ex . But it didn't go further than email exchange .

I know that honesty is the key , but she doesn't want to be honest with me . I always have to find the reason for her behavior by myself . And I really don't read minds !!!!!!!!

I know I should treat her good , buy her presents , etc . But she doesn't give me this chance now . We rarely meet , and maximum for 2 hours or so , then she goes back to the other man's place .

I never tried to impose my fantasy on her . This never happened . I neglected some small things like taking her out frequently , or taking care of domestic chores , but I never thought that these things would harm our relationship !!

I still love her and want her back in my life .

Finally , for those " SMART ASSES " who said that my post was a fantasy . No need to even reply to your smartass conclusion . You think you are smart , but you are smartasses !!! If you can't post something that would help me in my serious problem - which is about to break up my marriage - then just SHUT UP !!!!!!!





HOLD ME BACK.


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 1:39:15 PM   
FukinTroll


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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

HOLD ME BACK.






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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 2:01:00 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh
Finally , for those " SMART ASSES " who said that my post was a fantasy . No need to even reply to your smartass conclusion . You think you are smart , but you are smartasses !!! If you can't post something that would help me in my serious problem - which is about to break up my marriage - then just SHUT UP !!!!!!!



Look dude, it's your fuck up not ours. We cannot fix something that you fucking broke. Can we fix some shit that may be waning? Possibly. Can we advise you that sticking a feather duster up your ass while rollerblading around the house backwards might give her a clue that your domestic skills may be a little freaky? You bet your ass!

But you still broke it and you have to fix it. Unless she is really cute and you want to take me up on the offer.


OK.  Yours was more creative than My suggestion of standing on his head an hour a day.  I give credit where it's due.

OP, we're not helping.  We can't.  We're not the ones in the marriage and we're not councilors.  We're a bunch of folks who happen to be on the internet. 

Let's put this in perspective.  Take a random guess at how many folks decided to get a divorce yesterday.  Did you have a great concern for them?  Most likely, you didn't because you didn't know any of them and really weren't connected with them so you didn't really care.  If it was a friend or a family member, you would because you had an attachment to that person.

Folks who randomly show up on the net to ask for some magical solution to their problem are looking in the wrong place.  Find people who actually care about your plight (or a therapist that you can pay) and reach out to those folks.  Here, you're just another screen name who isn't really connected to anybody else who is on the other side of the screen because nobody knows you aside from your posts on being a cuck and your marriage problems. 


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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 2:01:20 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Well, cucky, I am not a mother fucker like you said, but I am a father fucker sometimes. You knew how people responded from other threads and your tale of sadness. You knew we didn't believe you and yet you came back for more. You knew you shouldn't email an ex... you should have known that when you aren't doing what you should and do what you shouldn't and want her to have sex with others, you could get yourself into trouble.

You didn't take it all seriously and yet you expect us smart asses and this father fucker to? You want us to say something to save your ass? We can't save you and advise anything that will. You broke trust, you were naughty and foolish. You are still being foolish from what I can see.

Go to someone that might be able to help you resolve your personal issues of being untrustworthy and doing things to sabotage your life and love.

PS... I will post whenever and wherever I wish to.


< Message edited by Lockit -- 2/25/2011 2:14:03 PM >

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RE: What should I do to keep my Mistress/Wife ? - 2/25/2011 2:13:46 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		If you want her to want to come back, here is what you do.

Let her go, wish her well, help her pack and then (and here is the really important part) move on with your life, meet someone new, become fabulously happy...

She'll be begging to return.

WinD

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