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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 5:38:10 AM

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< dying hair and putting on the gown> Okay, where's the fairy godmother, where's the prince???

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 5:58:44 AM

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You see kidless I'm going to go all anal on you here.. You say you want to have fun and there is no harm in having fun.. Well and good but at whose expence are you goping to have fun.. I watch and in the past have had to deal with far too many mindless, thoughtless who want to have fun at other people's expense, destroying their property and hospitalising them.. may not be what you had in mind but the statement you made gets me into combat mode.... Have all the fun you want just stay the hell away from me and mine......

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 5:59:08 AM

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I still would like a little "happily ever after" though, not in the "Cinderella, i need prince charming to take me away from all this" way.
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quote < dying hair and putting on the gown> Okay, where's the fairy godmother, where's the prince???

...i don't want a fairy godmother OR a prince....however...the older i get...the better friends i become with Miss Clairol

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 6:17:15 AM

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quote:

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I still would like a little "happily ever after" though, not in the "Cinderella, i need prince charming to take me away from all this" way.

quote < dying hair and putting on the gown> Okay, where's the fairy godmother, where's the prince???

...i don't want a fairy godmother OR a prince....however...the older i get...the better friends i become with Miss Clairol

< laughing > well, I was only referring to dying it blond for the Cinarella get-up. I'm older, but I'm waiting on the Miss Clairol to see if the grey will come in nicely or not.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 6:42:34 AM

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i don't think that it is "bad"....as long as you are upfront about your intentions, and are honest with those you come into contact with....

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 6:42:45 AM

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female friends...saying...."your moms still single???" like it was a disease or a disorder. I think "everyone is supposed to be doing" whatever is right for them personally.

Maybe what she really meant to say was "your Moms so amazing I can't believe someone hasn't snatched her up yet!"

And on to the issue of fun. I've often thought the same thing when reading profiles and in many of the board responses. I keep seeing the word "serious" as in "I am serious about what I do, no game players or time wasters" or "I want a girl that is serious about serving", "I take the lifestyle seriously, this is not a game to me" etc...

It seemed strange to me. But to each his/her own. I'm just here to get my backside scratched.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 7:00:58 AM

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And on to the issue of fun. I've often thought the same thing when reading profiles and in many of the board responses. I keep seeing the word "serious" as in "I am serious about what I do, no game players or time wasters" or "I want a girl that is serious about serving", "I take the lifestyle seriously, this is not a game to me" etc...

Me and mine are among those that take wiitwd seriously... as in "it isn't a game to us, it's our way of living"... but please don't mistake that for lacking "fun". We have a blast, we laugh like there is no tomorrow and we thoroughly enjoy life and living. This is a prime example of "walk a mile in my shoes"... As fervently as someone wants to defend their "right" to just have fun and view BDSM as a sex game, well, there is an opposite side to most coins, right?

I've never said that anyone that is just in it for the fun is wrong... ever. What I have said, and will continue to say, is that anyone that is dishonest about what who or what they are and what they want out of this lifestyle is wrong. I will continue to say that if everyone here were totally honest in their profile about what it is they are looking for life would be so much better for everyone involved.

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It's not so bad at all as long as everyone is honest. We all have different needs and kudos to those who know exactly what they want.

I agree... I respect those that know what they want and are upfront about it.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 7:10:33 AM

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Lots of folks just come here to have some fun,is that so bad?

Not bad to come here to have fun.
Not bad to come here and be serious.
I'm not offended when I see profiles that say "Not looking for serious relationship, just a good time."
Nor am I offended when I see a profile that says "Not looking for a kinky time. Want something serious."
But I don't generally get offended by profiles or take them personally anyway.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 7:54:57 AM

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Bear dude,why so upset?

You think I'm coming all the way to kangaroo land to tear down yer castle?

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 8:00:09 AM

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I'm not dishonest about doing this for fun either.

How do I say this-I wouldn't want to "live" playing a game of monopoly,any more than I would the master slave game.

Other folks get off on it-cool-but it's still a game if the slave can boogie on down the road at will. You see,that's where I draw the line-I know what reality is.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 8:03:34 AM

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it's still a game if the slave can boogie on down the road at will. You see,that's where I draw the line-I know what reality is.

So marriage is a game because either partner can file for divorce?
Parenting is a game because one can put the child up for adoption?
Employment is a game because people can quit their jobs?
(Just curious because I totally don't understand what you're saying.)

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 8:07:45 AM

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But marriage has consequences if you leave,they can take your kids and your stuff and stick you in debt.

Lose a job and lose support,and the kid thing is just rhetorical,how many would do that?

The only consequence to the so called slave leaving, is a pissed off Top who has to do thier own housework now.

It's an unsupported game. So it's kinda hard for me to take seriously.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 8:43:57 AM

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I don't think its so bad if some people want to have some 'fun;' it is bothersome when those people email or contact somone who is looking for a 24/7 relationship and partner, it shows that they are not reading a profile, have no respect [for the person they are contacting] and need to get a life; most profiles are clear as for what the person is looking for, whether it be a full-time relationship/partner or just for some casual fun.
Besides, 'happily ever after' ends, I don't want it to end once I find Master Right.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 8:52:39 AM

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I never contact a girl who insists on happily ever after from the beginning,it's kinda whacko to expect that. (and looney tunes ain't fun) But sometimes you find someone who you enjoy enough to want to stay with-no problems.

I just don't ken the people who seem to be so stuffy about what really comes down to something you do such a small percentage of the time.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 9:33:01 AM

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I've tried the happy ever after business once and it's over rated, I've tried the online business (it sort of found me) once and that is so so so over rated. I'm here for the laugh. BDSM is a gas and that is all I'm interested in. Hedonism. There is enough of my life devoted to my responsibilities and being responsible. Somethings are just good because there is no meaning to them other than what they are. Serious relationships....shudder!

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 9:37:51 AM

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No doubt-but hey I learned one thing long ago.

It's all in who you hook up with. I have had great relationships with fun bottom girls in my time-and we did more than just play together. And when I needed space,they respected that........

And I've dated subs who were just enormous time and energy suckers. I have a busy life, I don't need to BE someone's life, on top of that....

Ickkk..........

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 9:45:58 AM

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And I've dated subs who were just enormous time and energy suckers. I have a busy life, I don't need to BE someone's life, on top of that....

Ickkk..........

That's my problem with subs, they tend to suck the blood out of you, give me fun with a bottom any day of the week.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 9:48:16 AM

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Ya ya..........."bend over and let's warm that bottom up", always beats 'tell me everything I have to do for the next week,and then you can stand there and make happy noises at me while I do the laundry"

Maids are cheaper.

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RE: Not everyone wants "happily ever after" - 5/5/2006 5:07:29 PM

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I own a cleaning service....we don't do laundry and we're not that cheap