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Tarquinn11 -> seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 6:30:52 PM)
i am new to bdsm and have been wanting to be trained as a sub. my mistress has a lot going on and does not have much time to train me, so she has given me her permission to look for someone to train me on here. just so you know i am in a relationship and am not looking for a new mistress but am seeking someone to train me. i will accept training from guys or girls and am willing to try almost anything once (check my profile for my hard limits) i am into the sissyfication and have trained somewhat into that also. feel free to post here or message me with any questions.. --- brent / beca (signature is showing my real name and the name that my mistress gave me when i am being her sissy. it is not a second user on this account)

BonesFromAsh -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 6:52:43 PM)
Welcome. I'm confused...you have a domme but she's too busy to "train" you? Why would she suggest you find someone here for that purpose? Doesn't she want you to learn what pleases her and not some stranger? Anyway...have fun.

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:01:53 PM)
she is training me somewhat in that but wants me to find someone that can work on training me while she is too busy to, on a later date when she has more time she will train me to better suit her until then she wanted me to try and find someone else to

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:04:25 PM)
it is also a way for me to be able to test my limits and see how far i will go and what i am not quite ready for

LadyPact -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:14:47 PM)
OP, welcome to the forums. quote: ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh Welcome. I'm confused...you have a domme but she's too busy to "train" you? Why would she suggest you find someone here for that purpose? Doesn't she want you to learn what pleases her and not some stranger? Anyway...have fun. Have I told you lately how often I appreciate you saving Me the keystrokes? Thank you.

MsLadySue -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:16:20 PM)
I'm not sure how you would test your limits with online training.

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:19:35 PM)
what we were thinking is that you give me some sort of task or assignment that i have to do ( i do have a dig cam and should be able to get on a web cam) and then i can verify it to you... you would be asble to figure out something i have to do as a punishment should i not do and i could verify that also

BonesFromAsh -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:34:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Have I told you lately how often I appreciate you saving Me the keystrokes? Thank you. You're quite welcome...[:)] OP... quote: what we were thinking is that you give me some sort of task or assignment that i have to do... How are you at writing term papers? Would that be a limit? Here's a thread to get you started on the forums...just a peek into what many folks here think training is and isn"t. Happy reading! Training??????

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 7:44:39 PM)
most of the day to day stuff i know how she likes it... most of what it would be is training me in such things as being a better sissy it would not be that hard for someone to give me a task on here that they want me to complete that i can prove or disprove via pic or cam... it will just require that the person who is trainging me be just a little creative...

Killerangel -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 8:31:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tarquinn11 most of the day to day stuff i know how she likes it... most of what it would be is training me in such things as being a better sissy it would not be that hard for someone to give me a task on here that they want me to complete that i can prove or disprove via pic or cam... it will just require that the person who is trainging me be just a little creative... I don't get why this other person would want to train you....what is he/she getting out of it? You're asking for someone else to step in and be creative and think up things for you to do but whyever would they want to? What are they going to get out of doing all this work? Your Mistress doesn't have the time, why would someone else want to step in and assist the two of you? I hate to break it to you but part of being Dominant is taking on a responsibility with the full knowledge of what it requires or you have no business taking it on. Sure, people make mistakes, if that is the case and your Mistress took you on without being cognizant of how much time she had to invest into the project, then she should release you now rather than ask a total stranger to do something for her that she should be doing herself.

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 8:38:13 PM)
it would give them a chance to try being an online domme and they would be rewarded with the pics and videos they get of me doing what they want they could then use that as blackamail or something to get me to do something that they want

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 8:41:09 PM)
and if i were to take them as my new domme as i think you are suggesting what would they get out of it except that if they are close to me they could see me irl i would offer some sort of incentive but i am not made of money and would not be able to do that anyways... i was mainly looking for someone that had some free time and was interested in kinda working on a new project

Tarquinn11 -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 8:56:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel quote: ORIGINAL: Tarquinn11 most of the day to day stuff i know how she likes it... most of what it would be is training me in such things as being a better sissy it would not be that hard for someone to give me a task on here that they want me to complete that i can prove or disprove via pic or cam... it will just require that the person who is trainging me be just a little creative... I don't get why this other person would want to train you....what is he/she getting out of it? You're asking for someone else to step in and be creative and think up things for you to do but whyever would they want to? What are they going to get out of doing all this work? Your Mistress doesn't have the time, why would someone else want to step in and assist the two of you? I hate to break it to you but part of being Dominant is taking on a responsibility with the full knowledge of what it requires or you have no business taking it on. Sure, people make mistakes, if that is the case and your Mistress took you on without being cognizant of how much time she had to invest into the project, then she should release you now rather than ask a total stranger to do something for her that she should be doing herself. my mistress is my fiance and we just had a child together a couple of months ago and with her spending a lot of time taking care of him she asked me to come on here to look for additional training until he is a bit older.

BurntKitty -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 8:57:55 PM)
I still don't see the benefits of online only. I need to feel skin on skin, or cane on tush, flogger on back, etc... But, good luck.

DarkSteven -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 9:04:45 PM)
Well, I can't follow the dynamic but welcome to collarme!

Delilya -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/26/2011 11:36:49 PM)
Best of luck

kalikshama -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/27/2011 6:46:33 AM)
quote: my mistress is my fiance and we just had a child together a couple of months ago and with her spending a lot of time taking care of him she asked me to come on here to look for additional training until he is a bit older. Here's a thought - now's the time to focus on being a father rather than getting your rocks off. Child rearing isn't just for women you know. If you take up the slack she will have time for you. Focus on building a life together.

BonesFromAsh -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/27/2011 7:00:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tarquinn11 my mistress is my fiance and we just had a child together a couple of months ago and with her spending a lot of time taking care of him she asked me to come on here to look for additional training until he is a bit older. Hmmm, sounds like the perfect time to be your Lady's maid and do everything you can to support her and your new son, in all ways, so as to make her transition to motherhood (not to mention your transition to fatherhood) go as smooth as possible. Maybe you could take the time that could be spent playing online with a stranger and instead bond with your son and pamper your partner. What a wonderful opportunity to blend submission with everyday life....enjoy!

Killerangel -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/27/2011 7:29:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tarquinn11 and if i were to take them as my new domme as i think you are suggesting what would they get out of it except that if they are close to me they could see me irl i would offer some sort of incentive but i am not made of money and would not be able to do that anyways... i was mainly looking for someone that had some free time and was interested in kinda working on a new project I wasn't suggesting paying someone, sorry if I wasn't clear. Dommes are hard to find, when you do find one they don't tend to have a lot of spare time for one-off 'projects'. The payoff of kinky pics and online sex acts is also generally something a man would look for, it's not high on a woman's list of wants, especially a woman who has many others asking her to spend time with them. I know you have needs and they're not being met right now. This is my genuine heartfelt advice which is based on the other information in your posts. Please feel free to toss it aside if it has no merit...give everything you have to your Mistress/fiancee. Take care of that child that you just had with her, pamper your woman, do everything single little thing you can do for her because you have something that tons of submissive men on here do not have....a woman who is willing to Dominate you. You are asking to do online acts of submission and take kinky pictures for a total stranger- instead put your energy into what you have and it might pay off big. It's like ignoring the filet mignon at home in favor of a McD's meal. Do you know how many submissive men would kill to have even a chance of a woman being interested in them and their kink? Yes, your gf has no time right now...she just had a baby. It's your child too, give her a hand with the care and you'll be fulfilling your fatherly responsibility and also taking a load off your gf's back. There are tons of submissive possibilities here- serve her out of love and commitment.You can satisfy your submissive orientation and strengthen your family relationship by offering your time and effort to your partner. What good will 'training' with someone else do? Be honest here, it's just a way for you to get off. It's got everything to do with you and nothing with her. If you are submissive to her then be submissive to HER and also stand up and be a father. By giving yourself wholeheartedly to her and helping her with things you will be helping yourself in the end. The best sex my ex ever had were the times when he showed me he loved me and he loved his children by spending time with us and doing things for us around the house. When he gave me time to breathe I'd want to concentrate on him and it was mind-boggling. Once he told me to go take a nap. I awoke to find the kids gone with a relative, the kitchen was clean and he'd cooked a meal for us. I was so grateful so see the evidence of how he cared for me that I did him on the kitchen floor. I know he still remembers that now many years later, try it. If you want a Mistress work on the one you have by doing your part and then some.

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: seeking dom to train me (2/27/2011 12:15:34 PM)
Welcome to the boards. The advice you have been given so fart is great. Take it to heart, you are both new parents who need to focus on your little one first. For now, leave out the kink, do what's necessary for her and your son. This is a great opportunity for you to bond with him and to pamper her. Absolutely nothing wrong with service when it's for such a good cause. Take it from someone who knows, online isn't all it's cracked up to be and just leaves you feeling lonely and alone. You don't have that. You are indeed a lucky sub to have such a wonderful lady as your Dominant. Don't forget that . After all, it took the 2 of you to have this child. Put your focus where it should be right now. Good luck.

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